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  • we live on a sinew side occur oscillating between elation and despair, and we spend more time with the despair.

  • End of the spectrum.

  • It's a lousy way to live.

  • Welcome to this month's episode for impact at work.

  • I guess that I bring you for this month is no stranger to the my Valley community.

  • He's none other than Professor Street tomorrow.

  • And for those of you who went through the quest for personal master, you would have known the impact that he's had on your life.

  • And I'd love to share the fact that for me I had a chance to go not only through his quest but through his advanced creativity and personal mastering course, where you start looking at every aspect of your life.

  • And it's taking these concepts of spiritually teachers that have been around thousands of years and bring them to modern times on how they apply to live her life at the fullest.

  • And what we're gonna be building in this episode is a container for those who were looking to become inspiring leaders.

  • This is really close to me because I'm also someone who seek to be an inspiring leader and what has happened through my cross of working with Professor Row is that I've become inspired in everyday life activities that I do in doing whatever it is that I need to be doing in making an impact when I hope that you're gonna be gaining by the end of this episode is a lower level of stress and you're chasing of the goals of making a bigger impact.

  • I also know that you're gonna realize that you do not need to go out and manipulate people to be able to create a movement by simply stepping into the greatest potential of who you are being inspired in the process, you will be able to move mountains.

  • And so it's with great pleasure that I bring former teacher and a BIA programs around the world who has had the most sold out courses that has changed the lives of so many people at so many levels, you're gonna be able to learn directly from him.

  • So it's my pleasure to bring professor out the episode.

  • Let's get started.

  • Hi, everybody.

  • Welcome to the episode and Professor Al, thank you for being here.

  • My pleasure, Jason.

  • So we're creating container here, so We're talking about being an inspiring leader, and what I wanted to give an opportunity for people to understand is a lot of the concepts that you bring are actually based on some ancient methods, some your methods.

  • But you do something very unique where it doesn't just touch on the spiritual side, but it expands to encompass so many different areas of your life.

  • Could you tell us more about that?

  • Sure.

  • What happened, Jason is I've drawn my material from the world's greatest masters.

  • They lived in different times, lived in different places, but they all intimately understood the human predicament, and they came up with solutions that have been tested over millennia, and they absolutely worked.

  • But these were people who were interested in your spiritually progress, and that's all this book about.

  • But the solution said they came up with can help you a great deal in your material world, in your carrier, in your quest for wealth, it can do that.

  • They never spoke about it because for them it was irrelevant.

  • What I have done is I've taken their teachings.

  • I've stripped them of religious, cultural and other qualifications and adapted them so that they're acceptable to intelligent people in the post industrial society, and they absolutely work.

  • And so when somebody takes some of these learnings and in this context here, we're talking about becoming an inspiring leader.

  • What are some of the typical tendencies that people have when they want to become a leader where they go on the wrong path?

  • And I want to give an example?

  • Some people, they say, Okay, I want to be a leader because I want to be able to get everybody to do what I want.

  • And here again, you're talking about something that seems very ego driven.

  • Would you be able to elaborate on what are different ways to be sitting?

  • There's something that I used to do when I was a beginning public speaker, and that is that asked my audience how many if you want to be inspiring leaders and virtually everybody would put the hands up, but that I'd say, If you want to be an inspiring leader, you're only well, it wants for the wrong path, and they can have their arms up.

  • They're not quite down, not quite up feeling somewhat embarrassed.

  • I don't do that anymore because not a good idea to embarrass your audience, but the point is very valid.

  • If you set out to be an inspiring leader.

  • What you're really saying is, I want to have people do what I would like them to do, which perhaps they don't want to do so.

  • I've got to figure out how to get people who don't want to do what I want them to do, to do what I want them to do, which is essentially, I gotta learn how to manipulate people pushing it a little bit here.

  • But you get the point.

  • So in my book, becoming an inspiring leader is not an aspirational goal.

  • It is something that happens as a byproduct.

  • If you want to be an inspiring leader, give up all thoughts, hopes, dreams of becoming an inspiring leader but instead be inspired, be inspired by a vision that brings a greater good to a greater community and have tremendous flexibility in defining both the greater good on the greater community.

  • But unless you can find something that's bigger than you are to which you can subsume if not your whole life, a least a big chunk of it, you're not really going to become an inspiring leader.

  • But if you do find that and you learn how to communicate it, then you become an inspiring leader by default because anybody who comes in touch with you cannot help but be inspired.

  • You know, it's little bit like Gandhi.

  • He never set out to sea.

  • I want to be an inspiring leader.

  • I won millions and millions of people to follow me, know, Gandhi said.

  • The passport loss or unjust and I will not let them stand.

  • And he was a British trained off a turning.

  • So he was verbally fluent in to use that in whatever other skins he had toe organize protests against the passport loss and in the process of doing that.

  • And later, when he came to India and started fighting his colonial rule, he did, in fact, the coming, inspiring leader.

  • It was entirely a by product.

  • It's not something is set out to do so if you want to be an inspiring leader, first, be inspired, come up with a vision, come up with something that brings the greater good to a greater community and then, as you learn to communicate that you become an inspiring needed.

  • Now, I know you've worked with a lot of people at various levels in an organization that probably came up with that same aspiration of wanting to be an inspiring leader and then realizing this shift, this new method of going okay, No, I need to be inspired by a vision.

  • Would you have a good example that would allow someone who might be finding themselves watching this going like, Oh, wow.

  • I feel like I've been chasing an outcome without thinking of the process.

  • Where would that look like?

  • Well, I haven't worked personally that Gandhi over here is a perfect example of someone who started off.

  • He never wanted to be an inspiring leader.

  • He just wanted to have the passport loss initially revoked.

  • And he wanted India to be free of Colonial Room.

  • Later on, in India, he found that there were many social ills that he thought should not exist, like, for example, the plight of the Untouchables like religious disharmony.

  • And he worked to eradicate that to the extent he could.

  • So he was always motivated by a vision that was bigger than he waas, and that works across the board.

  • And what do you think like, what is examples of someone that might not acknowledge this?

  • That still feels that they just need to chase this this aspect of manipulation?

  • Do they end up having any kind of success?

  • Or does it?

  • They certainly can end up having success in the sense of the achieve high positions.

  • We have any number of people who are in government, in business, in not for profits, who basically have a sheer driven ambition.

  • I want to reach the top, and certainly it is possible for you to reach hierarchically high positions.

  • But in my book, that doesn't really make you a true leader, because the moment you lose your position, nobody wants to spend any time with you and you dropped off the radar.

  • That's not true success in my book.

  • It's almost like there's a disconnect between the authenticity completely and so if I'm sitting and somebody who understands this, I have a vision that I want to transform and for for the benefit of the audience, I don't think everybody needs to go as far as a vision like Gandhi.

  • But within their organization, there might be something that they're inspired to do.

  • Maybe they're working within the organization.

  • They believe so much into the product, and they're inspired to do So.

  • What are some additional steps now that you know that you're inspired by the mission?

  • What are some of the things that you can do so that you can live in that inspiration and also be able to benefit more?

  • Let me tell you a story, Jason.

  • This was medieval England, site of a great cathedral being constructed.

  • And the architect went to the scene a construction, and he came across three people, all of whom were doing exactly the same thing.

  • There was a big block of stone, and they put a smaller block of stone on top of the big block of stone and beat it with a hammer.

  • Toe broke.

  • And he asked the first guy, What are you doing?

  • Can't you see I'm breaking rocks?

  • Why are you doing that?

  • I get paid a hip and off the day, and the same guy said, I'm helping build the wall behind me, and the third guy said, I'm helping build a great cathedral and very so what?

  • People are gonna come from all over the world and they will be inspired and never had a small room to play in that the 3rd 1 was only want to recognize the architect and truth be told, I don't like doing it.

  • It's back breaking work, and I could get better wages with less effort.

  • I'm only doing it because I wanted them.

  • Will you teach me to build a cathedral?

  • And 20 years from that day, the guy who's breaking rocks died.

  • He no longer had the strength to swing a hammer, and he starved.

  • The guy who was helping build the wall behind him was living a life of desperate for money.

  • But the guy who was helping build a cathedral was on his way to building his first cathedral, and I mentioned this story.

  • It's an inspiring story, but be it has a very relevant meaning.

  • Every day when you get up in the morning, you have a choice.

  • You can break rocks, or you can build a cathedral.

  • I can't define for you the cathedral that you go to bed.

  • You're the only person who could do that.

  • But I can tell you that unless you find and define the cathedral that you're building, unless you can anchor you being in its other All your activities flew from this knowledge that you're building a ca Pedro you're going to live in essentially mediocre life, punctuated the flashes of pleasure.

  • Well, you take, take motherhood, for example.

  • Perfect example.

  • You know, you have a mother and she does all kinds of things.

  • You know, she has to clean her baby, you know, if he has to remove snot from the nose and all kinds of unpleasant things.

  • But the chic thing.

  • And I'm doing all of these unpleasant things.

  • No, she's caring for a child who is going to grow up, and he's going to be president is going to do great things than tree is the instrument through which the scare and nurture is being published.

  • Is building a cathedral.

  • Extend that into what you're doing at work and what you're doing in life, and when you do that, your life will have meaning that you will find amazing.

  • That's so brilliant.

  • And so I want to recap this because it's really important for people to hear a lot of people come up with the idea of being an inspiring leader as the idea that I need to be able to manipulate the people to do something that they might not necessarily want to do.

  • But if I become inspiring enough, I'll be able to manipulate it to do it, and that is having it completely wrong.

  • That is a major brew.

  • The model of reality is, if you want to be an inspiring leader, don't set that is the objective.

  • Be inspired by whatever it is that you do, and you'll notice that you will naturally just have a different energy upon how you take any action in your workplace in your life that will just draw naturally the right opportunities.

  • And you you come at it with just a very positive energy.

  • Completely, yes, and you'll feel it.

  • You will, and I have went through a lot of your process, so I know what that means.

  • And so for people listening, if you're chasing those wrong things, you end up chasing where at the end of it, it probably will not give you the kind of answers that you're looking for.

  • But by being inspired, you'll see that things will naturally happen even without you putting the direct effort towards it.

  • And I must also led by the way a lot of the persons who want to be an inspiring leader in their heads.

  • They don't think that they're manipulating people.

  • They just think I want to be an inspiring leader.

  • This is what I have to do, and it's only when they step back to think that a lot of them don't that they understand.

  • There is a very fine line between what they're doing and an attempt to many plea.

  • They don't set off to do it consciously but across the line, because they're not aware that this is what they're doing.

  • Amazing.

  • And so I want to touch about another aspect of unspoiled leader and this one speaks particularly for people in management position or executive position or, you know, a recognized leadership position.

  • Some people have hesitation towards continuing on their path and growing within their career because they feel that once I get to these levels of stress becomes a part of your life, you become extremely stressed and you have so many responsibilities that it might not even give you the quality of life that you wanted.

  • But you have a very different opinion on the stress levels for a leader completely.

  • I think that the West majority of persons do not clearly understand why they're feeling stress.

  • We feel that we're stressed because we have financial problems.

  • We have business and carrier problems.

  • We are derailed in terms of what we want to accomplish.

  • People not cooperating with out there, all these grand visions I want to accomplish and somehow it's not working out and all that is wrong.

  • There's one reason and one reason only why you feel stress in your life, and the reason is that you have a very, very rigid idea.

  • This is the way the universe should be in the universe is not cooperating with you.

  • So you want to be promoted because of the great work you've done any, both still CIA program.

  • Your progress has been unsatisfactory.

  • They're going to get a pink slip.

  • You feel that you did a bang up job in telling your client of our own.

  • The created one teachers of your product on the client signs up with somebody else.

  • The universe does not play ball with you and you resisted and you resent it.

  • And that's why you feel stress in your life.

  • We tend to live our life the following way.

  • I said all of these great objectives for myself.

  • I succeeded.

  • Life's a blessed or I said this great objectives for myself and I failed.

  • Life sucks.

  • We live on a sign your side occur, oscillating between elation and despair, and we spend more time of the despair and the spectrum.

  • It's a lousy way to live.

  • There is an alternative.

  • The alternative is simple.

  • Set yourself a goal, even a stretch goal goal.

  • So very important.

  • But they're very important because they established direction.

  • Once the direction has been established, forget about the goal instead, Poor Olof, your emotional energy into what are the actions that I have to undertake in order to achieve the goal.

  • And when you do that to things happen one.

  • You enjoy the journey.

  • The destination is a mirage.

  • It's out of your control.

  • You get there and you or somewhere else soon.

  • You know, people talk in terms of I want to climb Mount Everest.

  • How much time do you spend on top of Mount Everest?

  • A few minutes to 1/2 hour.

  • You get up there, buddy takes a picture of your body, gets up there, you take a picture of him, and then you're only way down and you hope you don't kill by an ever lunch.

  • If you're gonna climb Mount Everest, you better enjoy the weeks and months of acclimatisation Base Camp one, Base, camp two and so on.

  • It's the same with any major goal.

  • Enjoy the journey.

  • The journey is the only thing you have.

  • The destination is a mirage.

  • You get there and then you're off someplace else.

  • Soon enough.

  • The journey is with you your entire life.

  • When you enjoy the journey, that's when you find the fullness of life.

  • If you reach your destination, fantastic.

  • If you don't reach your destination.

  • Fantastic.

  • Because here is the mistake that most people make.

  • We think the benefit of setting a goal in trying to achieve it is reaching the goal wrong.

  • The benefit to you is tthe e learning and growth that happened in you and to you as you try your level best to achieve the goal.

  • If you reach the goal, that is a bonus.

  • Be immensely grateful if you don't reach the goal.

  • You still had the learning and grope.

  • It's a new lose proposition and when you live life that way, there is no stress because you already accepted.

  • The outcome is beyond your control.

  • You're going to try their level best that you can.

  • So where is the stress?

  • You just enjoy the journey and things that other people would say.

  • How can you cope with that?

  • Hey, it's jam!

  • And so and then there's a lot of people that get caught up also in the time element of these girls.

  • And things don't see that like they get stressed because either they don't have enough time where they set an objective or ago, where they feel that it should have been done by a certain time.

  • What are ways that people can cope with that?

  • Well, the method that I just outlined, which is in West in the process, do not invest in the outcome.

  • That's a very big way, and the second part of failure is a lot of the time, and you get stressed out.

  • It's your mental chatter running amok, and it's your mental chatter going, Oh my God, they should have been done.

  • It's not done yet.

  • This is all the things that should have come in place and There's only so much time.

  • It's never gonna happen.

  • You're fretting about it.

  • It's not going to make it happen either.

  • So what do you do is just mindfully do whatever it is that you have to do.

  • And in my programs that use a visual analogy, imagine another plus.

  • There's green society in the bulb, a ball on these grains of sand in the ball below, and one grain of sand at the town goes through that narrow neck.

  • Focus on that.

  • That is the task it had.

  • No matter how much you agitate the hourglass, you're not going to get more sign going through.

  • So focus on the greenest sand that is going through the neck.

  • That is the present moment.

  • That's all you have.

  • And when you do that, you'll be soap, razor, how much more you can accomplish.

  • So so what is it?

  • It seems to be mostly in, like this is kind of Western world of like work hard, productive, like hustle harder, especially for people in these in these higher a position.

  • They seems to have a lot of external expectations on them, and it seems like they're all caught into this outcome focused world.

  • How did it come to being that way?

  • Or has it always been that way?

  • And we forgot to enjoy the process.

  • That's a very good question, Jason, and it's been that way for a long time, ever since the Industrial Revolution happened.

  • But yes, we have forgotten how to enjoy the process.

  • What I would like you to do is I'd like you to go back to the time when we were 567 years old and has a child.

  • You could be enthralled by anything.

  • You could watch a dog Jesus, stale for hours, and it was just fun.

  • You could go on and splashing the mountain.

  • Have a wonderful time.

  • Your mother might not have liked it, but you had a wonderful time playing in the mud.

  • You talk that a nickel was better than a dime because it was bigger.

  • That is our natural state.

  • That's what we can get back to now.

  • We can't go back to being little Children, but we can go back to being like little Children.

  • And that's what my program is all about.

  • Because if you don't enjoy life in a very deep level every day, if you don't come radiantly alive, if not all the time, at least a lot of the time.

  • You're wasting your life.

  • Your life is too short to waste.

  • And so they bring this all around is the fact that for all the people that are, find themselves in a leadership position or imagine position and you feel like this is gonna actually demand more stress out of you.

  • It's not necessarily the case.

  • The fact is, is there's no stress cannot serve you anyway.

  • You have to just trust the process.

  • If you're so focused on the outcome, you don't even have presence in the process.

  • If you don't have presents in the process, you're probably not even being as productive as you're capable to be.

  • Yes, and so you're actually holding yourself back by focusing on the outcome and being stressed about it?

  • That's correct.

  • So for someone who embraces this process, in essence, if they're seeing an opportunity to take on more responsibility as a beer, it's It's just a part of the process that they can accept and not necessarily label it with the stress.

  • That's exactly correct.

  • Amazing.

  • So the last one I wanted to bring up a za brew for people that are find themselves in these authority position.

  • A lot of times it's the pressure about having to network with people, and, um and then when you're networking with people, it's almost like, Okay, I need to meet the right kinds of people that are going to serve what I need and being very focused on on Lee speaking to people that are gonna be deliberately giving a benefit to you, and from what I understand is that there's a lot of, you know, bad intention around that approach, I wouldn't say bad into intention.

  • I would say something that doesn't serve you well.

  • A number of people and anybody who's successful or anybody who wants to be successful will tell you networks are important, who you know really does matter.

  • So people go around saying, You know, I've gotta build up my network now I've been running my program for more than two decades and I would say that probably 70% off the persons that take my program feel uncomfortable at the thought of networking.

  • Now think about this for a moment.

  • The very notion, you know I should have a powerful network is a self serving one, because what you're really saying is I need to find people who are in a position to help me in some manner and ingratiate myself with them.

  • So think of the countless hours that people spend in cocktail parties and receptions and, you know, first of that kind that your deadly boring if you're so sucking the very notion that I should have a powerful network itself serving.

  • So here's my take Women.

  • If you want to have a powerful, network, long lasting relationships, here is the best way for you to make that happen.

  • Don't don't try to build a network created network.

  • Don't even think about a network.

  • Instead, allow it to spring up around.

  • You don't try to create it, allow it to happen organically.

  • And here's a very powerful way of found by which it happens.

  • Have you, in the course of your life, ever ran across people who inspired you?

  • Hey, all the time right?

  • You read about them in newspapers and magazines.

  • You see them on television programs and actually observed them in your company or trade associations or other places.

  • So there are people who inspire you typically What do you do when someone inspires you?

  • Typically, you get inspired for an hour, a day, a week, and then life goes on a big mistake.

  • Every time you're inspired by a person that's the universe matching you on the shoulder and saying, Hey, Jason, there's something here for you.

  • So what I advocate in my program is every time you're inspired, write it down.

  • Who's the person who inspired you?

  • What was this person doing?

  • Where did you learn about this person and put it down?

  • Keep a diary for this purpose only.

  • And if you do that, then there'll be a number of interests that go back to the those entries after four or five weeks and see which of peace worsens continues to inspire you.

  • And those are the persons you reach out to reach out to that person with a sincere note.

  • For years, all I learned about you and I really appreciate what you're doing and come up with a specific offer of help, and the reason you're offering help is if your offer is accepted and you called upon to deliver, then you're doing something to make the world a better place and that is its reward.

  • And if you reach out regularly in that way and in my program, I have a systematic schedule whereby people do this on a regular basis.

  • Some off your offers of help are going to be accepted.

  • And as you Delhi, where what you promise, you'll find that you're automatically building a network of very deep, very long lasting relationships.

  • It comes up around you as opposed to your trying to build one.

  • It's a much more efficient process, and you never have to do anything that you're uncomfortable about because you don't reach out to a person unless you're genuinely in spite.

  • So what I'm trying to make is really reach after values.

  • Perspective you're reaching out is much more powerful than when you reach out from self interest perspective.

  • You feel it, the other person feeds it on.

  • And I can think because I've been in a position where I've had to do a lot of outreach and what you speak about is, it seems to confirm all of the times that I've had successful connections with people are usually because I've actually spent the time to find something about them which inspired me and then when I reach out, actually genuinely can refer to it.

  • And I can't even think of all the times that it made her reach out because I was.

  • Let's say I had an objective to reach out to a certain person, which I didn't have any kind of inspiration.

  • That it was.

  • It was felt in the way that I communicated, and so the result was exactly what the expectation was.

  • Absolutely yes.

  • And so for the people that are in a position where they need to actively network, let's say you're in a way, it's a sales position.

  • Imagine position, and you don't want to be just trying to build your network out of a self interest.

  • But you're trying to find more opportunities to find people that you're inspired group.

  • What would be a good way for you to have that kind of activity happened continuously in your life?

  • Well, here's a simple one.

  • Every time you run across someone we have a habit of in our head making a checklist.

  • Who is this person?

  • One of the leaders of the party that this person has or can't access?

  • And can this be of benefit to me through all that thinking out.

  • Instead, simply think off for whatever reason.

  • Destiny, fate, karma.

  • We are together.

  • And in the time that we have together, what is it that I can do to help this person improve his life?

  • Even if it's a simple thing, like bring a smile to his face, even if it's a simple thing, like asking him what he does because you want to know not because you want to sell him something or getting to do something that would be advantageous you one human being to hard to reach our How can I help make your life better?

  • And that's the only intent you have.

  • And continue doing that with any interaction with the cab driver who takes you to the airport with the new stand window from whom you buy a newspaper with your colleague who's having a problem at home.

  • Just talk a lot of saying you say anything that I could do that would make this person's life benefit, would raise his or her level of consciousness and make that a policy.

  • You will find that the person you're really enriching us yourself, and I think in the process of being a leader, You're also someone that's being so inspired you're always taking to continuously grow.

  • And so if you're always having that radar in living that habit every single day, it just allows you to grow in the process.

  • There's a story tell it comes from the Native American tradition, that many versions.

  • But I like the one that I'm about to share with you.

  • So there was this young brave who was going to grow up and take his place among the adults of the tribe.

  • And the final rite of passage will take organization with the medicine man.

  • And the medicine man said, Here is the store intelligent, kind, loving, trustworthy.

  • And here is this Wolf Melville in cruel, vicious, ready to snap out and kill anything and the dog and the wolf for fighting and the dog and the wolf for both inside you.

  • At the very last, which one's gonna win?

  • And the medicine man sees whichever one you feed.

  • Now think about it, Jason.

  • Inside each one of us are altruists state.

  • Let's help each other and make the world a better place.

  • Impulses and inside each one of us are Let me get everything I can for myself in the devil take behind most impulses and the tour always fighting.

  • It's your job to selectively identify and feed the dog and you.

  • It's also your job to selectively identify and feed the dog in everybody you meet.

  • And when the dog a new becomes healthy and makes friends for the dog and the other person, magic happens in your life as well as the world outside.

  • And so when we talk about this analogy of the dog and the wolf, would this actually be a kind of personification of your mental chatter?

  • Absolutely.

  • And so what would that look like for someone who is making that conscious choice?

  • Well, let me give you an example.

  • So you've had a bad day at work and you go to the coffee machine and your colleague comes up and says, I had a bad day at work and you say you had a bad day at work.

  • Let me tell you about my bad day at work and you talk his bad day with your daily walk off.

  • Feeling smug.

  • You've just fed the wolf in yourself as well as the other person, and you don't even recognize that this is what you've done.

  • But instead, if you were to say yes, you had a bad day, I had a bad day.

  • You know?

  • Why don't we put our heads together and see if there's anything at all that we can do?

  • So the manifest and anybody else has a bad day like this again.

  • Is there anything we can do?

  • And all of a sudden you started feeding the dog rather than the wolf.

  • So in your mental chatter, every time is speaking of someone, just ask yourself, Am I feeling the dog or am I feeding the wolf?

  • And if you do that, you will find that how you react to people, what you say to them changes and guess who benefits the most.

  • You do without even having it as an objective.

  • Exactly amazing.

  • And so one of the things I wanted to bring up in the context of leadership as well is that the whole notion of decision making and when you're in a leadership position, you're responsible for making decisions, and a lot of people feel like there's hesitation around making these kinds of decisions because they don't want to make a wrong decision.

  • What are some of the ways of having this mental chatter that kind of brings people into a standstill when it comes to decision making is a leader.

  • What are some of the thoughts that you could share to help them be able to have better clarity in the process?

  • There's several levels of which I can also that question, Jason.

  • So let me take some of the salient ones, Okay?

  • The first level is what is your objective in making the decision.

  • And my belief is that when you're a leader, you ought to take a decision which brings good toe a greater community and by greater community, I mean, all off the stakeholders combined.

  • Now, admittedly, if you're doing good one set of stakeholders, you might be taking a little away from another group of stakeholders.

  • So this is where your judgment as a leader comes in as what would be an equitable way off arranging the pie or splitting up the pie.

  • That's a decision ng after me, But the intention should be I would like to do the best I can, given the particular set of constraints I have and having done that you come up with a plan and then you say, Is this the right one or is it?

  • Nor are there unintended consequences?

  • And in order to deal with that, I'd like to introduce the concept off the benevolent universe.

  • And this actually comes from one of the world's greatest scientists.

  • Are good Einstein.

  • We revere Albert Einstein because they discovered a formulated the theory of relativity he discovered for the electric effect.

  • But he was also a philosopher, and he said, The most important question you will ever ask yourself is, Is the universe friendly?

  • Let me repeat that the most important question you will ever ask yourself Is this the universe friendly?

  • Most of us believe the universe is neither friendly nor unfriendly.

  • It's simply indifferent, uncaring and doesn't know we existed.

  • Couldn't care less.

  • So here I am, doing my thing, and there's the universe doing a thing, and sometimes it seems we're working with me.

  • Sometimes it seems to be working against me, but it's essentially a random process.

  • What if that wasn't true?

  • What if the universe was aware of her existence and was well disposed towards you?

  • Friend Stone shaft friends.

  • Do they They don't.

  • So the universe was friendly.

  • The universe would never do anything that will harm you.

  • But then he can say, What is the universe?

  • Give me stuff that is clearly harming me.

  • You know, I wanted to get promoted, but I got a pink slip.

  • Perhaps that's not what you wanted, but perhaps that's exactly what you needed at this stage of your life.

  • It's like you're a small child and you want a tub of ice cream, and your parents give you fruits and vegetables and you don't want fruits and vegetables.

  • You want a tub of ice cream, and suddenly, when you have a much greater level or wisdom and maturity that you can see it, Hank or I got fruits and vegetables and no ice cream.

  • One of the universe was like that.

  • It's giving you what you don't want, but it's exactly what you need.

  • And so, in the process of like making a decision here, if you realize it's a friendly universe and one of the decision you make in whatever the outcome is is exactly what was needed for the benefit of war parties combined, and so that takes a lot of pressure Now people are still going to be making a conscious effort to consider the most amount of stakeholder the most.

  • Oh, absolutely yet.

  • And the fact is that there is not necessarily a wrong choice because you're gonna have the position to be made at that moment.

  • Exactly.

  • Correct.

  • And so I This is a model, by the way, but it's a fantastically powerful model.

  • I'd like for you to elaborate on that because a lot of people operate by models and even the whole concept of being a leader an inspiring meter is a mental model that chase for Could you, for the benefit of the people, give a bit more an idea of What is that whole mental model concept?

  • Correct.

  • Okay, I'd like to make a small correction, You said a lot of people operate on the basis of models wrong.

  • Everybody operates on the basis.

  • Most people don't recognize that they're operating on the basis of models.

  • They think this is the way the world works.

  • It's not.

  • It's your model off the way things were.

  • So we all do that a mental model is a notion we have that this is the way the world works, and we've got dozens of models, maybe hundreds of Mars.

  • We got a model for everything.

  • If you're around for parental, you've got a model for how do I increase sales?

  • How do I bring in more and better customers?

  • How do I find an employee worth hiring?

  • What are the screens through which I have to put someone who wants to work for the company you got a model for?

  • How do I find a person to marry?

  • How do I bring up my Children?

  • You've got dozens of models.

  • Thes models may be in conflict with each other, and you may or may not be aware of the conflict.

  • There's never a problem with having mental models.

  • The wonderful devices.

  • They help you make sense of instructor situations.

  • They save your time.

  • The problem is not that you have mortals.

  • The problem is you don't recognize that you have more than this is not the way the world works.

  • This is my model off the way the world works, and in this short conversation we've had we've explored a great many models.

  • They got a model for sure, I network or how should I?

  • Network.

  • We've had a modern for what his leadership and I've given you models, which are different from those that are commonly held.

  • This is true in every area of your life, Jason.

  • I will go out further every time you have a situation in your life that you find unpleasant and it persists.

  • You're using one or more mental models that are not serving you well.

  • And the moment you make changes in those mental models proof that unpleasant situation goes off just like that, I'm not talking some of the time.

  • I'm talking every time.

  • That's how powerful mental models are and how they completely dictate and rule our lives.

  • Amazing.

  • So for everybody watching way Brill, the container here about being an inspiring leader.

  • But what we really wanted to cover is just amazing ways to look at our lives.

  • These mental models that are also models of reality that you might be aware of you might not be aware of.

  • Whenever you find yourself going towards a position of leadership, it becomes a lot more in your The challenges will come a lot more towards you and you'll have a lot more awareness to now.

  • In this process, we've actually brought in the light on a lot of these typical pitfalls of chasing this whole leadership and kind of met at mentality and being able to give you a different model so that you can see what is gonna come up towards you while you are quote unquote chasing this one are better ways you can look at it so you can make a greater impact in the world.

  • We've covered so many models in this and what I'd love to give us an opportunity before we end The call is is just what is some lasting words that we could give for people that are there in the workplace.

  • They've just listen to this, which probably have shaken a lot of their existing mental.

  • I would hope so.

  • I would really hope so.

  • What is something that we could give to the people before we head out?

  • That would give them some grounding here.

  • Okay.

  • What I like people to know is that the life that you're living in is not the reality.

  • It is a reality.

  • You constructed it.

  • You probably constructed it without knowing that you were constructed it and you constructed with the mental chatter you entertain and the mental modern See hold.

  • It's as if we were all living in The Matrix with this matrix was not constructed by an alien civilization out to enslave us.

  • But you did it with your mental chatter, you mental models.

  • So where you living in is a reality, not the reality.

  • And this is hugely liberating, Jason, Because if you're living in the reality and you don't like it, you're screwed.

  • Grin and bear it.

  • But if you're living in a reality and you don't like it, you can deconstruct the parts of it that you don't like and build it up again and you do this over and over again.

  • This is a rest off your life process.

  • And as you do that you will systematically build a better and better life for yourself.

  • You will reach higher and higher plateaus and you'll be amazed how much enjoyment there isn't life.

  • Something that you completely missed.

  • If you were not aware of this process.

  • Amazing.

  • And so what happened with me is I ended up going very deep in some of the courses with Professor Row, and I've had a taste of what happens when you start shaking up these models, and I'm somebody who had this need of chasing this opportunity to be an inspiring leader.

  • And what has happened for me is that I found myself being much more inspired in the process, much more inspired in the whole experience of what is it that I'm trying to do to bring education to the world, to raise consciousness levels, And it's been a great benefit towards the interactions I've had through you.

  • So I hope that people that are watching this have had a similar experience, a similar shake up so that it can actually brings you down a path where you're going to be building whatever it is gonna be your impact you do in the world in whatever way that is.

  • You're starting with some different models to consider that start with such a stronger foundation.

  • And so thank you so much for the time that we spent on that surgery.

  • Jason, it's been an absolute blast.

  • I must tell you that I've enjoyed all off my interactions of Mind Valley, but the people who took my program and the people who worked with me to Nicholas programs coming to be so I am delighted to be part of the extended mind Miley family.

  • And for those who have it went through the quest for personal mastery.

  • I urge you to consider going through that.

  • And if you want to go into more handholding experiences, I believe you have live workshops that people can attend.

  • That is correct.

  • Yes.

  • Details are on my website how we're gonna have the links to your website and everything containing this episode.

  • And is there a different way for people to reach over?

  • The website is the best Web site is the best.

  • Or they can send me an email.

  • Put my email down the the link to perfect.

  • Thank you so much for watching.

  • Thank you so much for being here.

  • My pleasure.

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