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  • Hey, it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love, and this is Q&A Tuesday. And today's question, it comes from a girl

  • named Alicia, and she writes:

  • "Hey Marie, a struggle I keep coming up against is what do you do when every option in front

  • of you totally sucks? You're weighing multiple options, but each and every one has some major

  • downsides. So rather than choosing and acting on an option, you find yourself staying stuck

  • in an action and beating yourself up for not moving forward. How do you suggest someone

  • makes a decision when each and every option you see sucks some major ass?"

  • Alicia, great question. At some point in life, most of us have found ourselves in a situation

  • where we're upset and we're frustrated and we look around and everything just seems to

  • be crap. I'm sure everyone in the audience can relate.

  • But, and this is a big but, which I like, this question is the perfect reminder for

  • us all to give ourselves a spiritual smackdown.

  • The truth is this, in any given moment you can choose to see what's right about a situation

  • or what's wrong about a situation. And either way, you're gonna find evidence to support

  • what you're looking for.

  • When you're in a negative state of mind and you believe that every option sucks, it's

  • nearly impossible to find your strength and your clarity and move ahead. Here's the deal

  • Alicia, and yes, it's a tweetable?

  • "Not having the best situation, but seeing the best in your situation is the key to happiness."

  • Now, I'm not sure what your sucky situations are, but I am absolutely certain that you

  • can find something right about them and create a positive result.

  • Every day you hear about people who've made the most of arguably crappy situations. And

  • the common thread throughout all of them is their positive attitude. Now, here's the thing,

  • a positive attitude is a choice, and if you make that choice enough it becomes a habit.

  • One woman that comes to mind is Somaly Mam, the Cambodian author and activist. At 12 years

  • old, she was sold into sex slavery. Then every day she was tortured and she was raped. And

  • one night she was forced to watch as her best friend was murdered in front of her.

  • Now, if that's not a crappy situation, I don't know what is. Now, Somaly escaped and she's

  • made it her life's mission to end sex trafficking and to empower survivors.

  • Or, how about this? Do a Google search for famous amputees and you're gonna find an enormous

  • list of extraordinary people who've accomplished incredible things either because of or in

  • spite of losing their limbs.

  • The bottom line is this, looking for what's right in a situation completely transforms

  • your state of mind, your ability to make decisions, and move ahead. And the best part is, it's

  • a habit you can build. Like Maya Angelou says, if you don't like something, change it. And

  • if you can't change it, change your attitude.

  • Speaking of change, if you've been listening to me this whole time and saying, "Marie,

  • yeah, yeah. But you don't get it, you don't know how crappy my situations are," here's

  • the deal.

  • There is nothing more crappy than the option you're choosing right now, which is beating

  • yourself up and doing nothing to move ahead.

  • Action is magic, and either option you choose is gonna be a huge improvement over this tortured

  • state of inertia that you find yourself in right now.

  • Alicia, that was my A to your Q, thank you so much for asking. Now I wanna hear from

  • you. Have you ever had a crappy situation that you turned around because you changed

  • your attitude? Or have you ever found yourself with two kinda crappy options but you chose

  • one, you moved ahead, and you discovered, "Hey, things aren't so bad."

  • In the comments below I wanna hear your story. Now, remember, the best stuff happens after

  • the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.

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  • that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I'll catch you next time on MarieTV.

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