Name: How to Communicate Better (In Social Settings)
Uploaded: 2020-03-10T22:21:48.000Z
Duration: 8 min 48 s
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Hey Ambitious Professionals! It's Linda Raynier of lindaraynier.com guiding you

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to a career and life you'll truly enjoy. In today's video I am going to teach you

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my five tips on how to improve your social communication skills no matter

where you are whether you're at the office

or in a social setting so that you can speak more confidently and present

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on one I can give you details about that at the end of this video in the work

that I do I get many professionals ask me to help them to improve their

communication skills now many of them are actually people who may not

originally be from North America or Australia or Europe and you're

struggling to communicate at a social level because even though you naturally

aren't really a shy person but when you're faced with certain social groups

and certain social settings you find that you just simply don't know what to

say and so if this is you I just want to say first of all I'm not an English

teacher so I'm not here to teach you English but I'm here to show you a few

tips on how you can improve your social communication skills so that you can

interact with others in a more natural and confident way tip number one

entertain yourself differently what I mean by this is if you really want to

truly be able to connect with others in your environment and really immerse

yourself in the environment then you need to entertain yourself differently

by watching different types of entertainment whether it be TV shows

movies or even live shows now this is the first time I'm sharing this with

people publicly but I happen to love watching Korean dramas when I feel like

watching something that's going to get me hooked and I really want to get a

good cry I'll turn to a good Korean drama to watch but here's the thing if

you happen to be Korean for example like you are originally from Korea you grew

up there and as an adult you moved to the States or Australia or wherever you

don't want to be spending most of your time watching Korean dramas because as

much as they're entertaining and fun and you feel comfortable watching them

you're not necessarily enabling yourself to immerse yourself in

a different culture you're simply reconfirming what you already know and

so if you mix it up a little bit and watch different types of TV shows and

really pay attention to the nuances the language the way that they make jokes

and the way that they speak to one another you're opening yourself up and

your brain to a new way of thinking a new way of communicating

once you broaden your variety of entertainment including by going to

comedy clubs going to different types of live events theater perhaps whatever it

could be you're allowing yourself to learn the humor the different phrases

that people use you're understanding how people really speak and you get to learn

what people really talk about so what happens is once you're in a social or

even just office setting and people are talking about something that is relevant

to what's happening you're gonna understand it and you're gonna be able

to communicate to them in their language that way all of this is going to help

you to relate to your colleagues and co-workers in a more personal way you'll

be able to understand what it is they're talking about and you'll be able to

contribute to the conversation I'm not telling you to completely give up on the

type of entertainment that you love because of course you deserve to watch

what you want to watch but at the same time I'm just saying if you brought in

your variety of entertainment that's going to help you expand and grow as an

individual and that's going to help you with your social communication skills

tip number two hang out with people outside of your culture join an

in-person networking group or Club anywhere where you can meet people

face-to-face so for example if you like playing volleyball maybe join your local

volleyball team or if you happen to work at a large corporation a big company

they likely have social clubs that you can join and meet people there as well

participating in these things is a great way to get yourself to interact with

people who you probably wouldn't normally interact with outside of work

you'll learn what people talk about how people interact and it'll help you to

develop those habits as well tip number three open up share your thoughts and

observations if you want to be able to get closer to people then opening

and sharing things with them is the key way to turn acquaintances into friends

just simply watching different TV shows and being around different types of

people still isn't enough to improve your communication skills if you're not

going to be bold and be willing to speak up to be interesting you need to be able

to share your observations about things so whenever someone brings up a topic

about something that you have an opinion about don't be afraid to share your

opinion obviously you don't want to sound negative about it but you can say

things like you know I always thought it was weird that and say whatever you

thought was weird or I always noticed blank you know when you can share these

types of observations that you've had throughout your life about a certain

type of topic that people happen to be talking about it shares a different

dynamic about you and it reveals a little bit more about your personality

and it makes people feel a little bit more connected to you because who knows

they might be thinking the same thing tip number four is get to the point part

of good social communication is knowing how to articulate your ideas in a clear

and concise way without over explaining the details this takes practice one way

you can start to monitor this is moving forward whenever you want to tell a

story to someone or you want to share something with someone instead of giving

yourself five to ten sentences to tell the whole thing it's better to try to

cut it down to two to three sentences get to the point as quickly as you can

right away and what that's going to do is if there's more that needs to be said

the other person has the opportunity to ask for more and therefore you can have

a free-flowing conversation between the two of you now if you have the opposite

problem where you don't say too much and instead you say too little then you also

want to monitor how much you say by trying to say at least two or three

sentences as well so at the end of the day you want to be able to elaborate

what you're saying in a way where people can understand what it is that you're

talking about but they don't feel drowned in the details and finally tip

number five Connect by being genuinely curious I've said this before in other

videos and it's because it's extremely important

in order to be able to connect with other people you have to be genuinely

curious about them you have to be willing to truly ask questions about

themselves and then ask them why and really genuinely listen to their answers

and then from listening to their answers you're going to learn how people

communicate and you'll be able to do the same as well

and to end this video I thought I would leave you with an inspiring quote which