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  • Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Creasy.

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  • It's only TV program that's dedicated to your mental health and well being.

  • Today.

  • We are doing our bit to celebrate International Wednesday, which takes place every year.

  • On November 19th I'll be joined by a resident business expert, Jonathan Fall, who were telling us all about what it takes of a successful man in business.

  • And I'll be hearing why it's important for men to develop both at home and that work with our self development coach, Chris Brown.

  • I will also be hearing about a project that's taking the world by storm, and it's called in Telemann.

  • Then, later on, I'll be speaking on Kit Love on the show, who retained us all about his very colorful background and how he went on to found the one love party and running for the mayor of London.

  • With its origins in the Caribbean, International Menace Day is a noun, internationally recognized events that invites every man, woman golden boy in the world to come together and celebrate men and boys in all their diversity.

  • This year's very important theme is to stop male suicide, according to the Samaritans.

  • The male suicide rates in the U.

  • K is three and 1/2 times that of women, with those of the greatest risk being between the ages off 40 and 44 now.

  • Last week we did a show encouraging men to open up and talk about their feelings as often.

  • Repressing these emotions and trying to deal with them internally can prove fatal.

  • And if you missed that episode, you can catch it over on our YouTube channel.

  • Krissy B show.

  • Other important key issues highlighted by International Men's Day include changes face by boys and men at all stages of education, including attainment, men's health, shorter life expectancy and workplace deaths.

  • Challenges faced by the most marginalized men and boys in society.

  • Male victims of violence, including sexual violence.

  • Challenges face bomber parents on the negative patrol off men, boys and fathers.

  • In addressing these issues, International Wednesday hopes to promote new role models, celebrate the contribution that men make focus on men's health and wellbeing.

  • Harlot.

  • Discrimination against men and inequalities that men and boys face improved gender relations and promote gender equality and ultimately, to create a safer world for everyone.

  • So if you'd like to learn more about international men's stay or would like to take part in any events or the information is available on their Web sites at UK Men Stato walked out UK and that worry ladies, it isn't all about the men.

  • Earlier this year we celebrated International Women's Day, which takes place annually on March 8th, and you can also find the episode on our YouTube channel Krissy B show.

  • Now, before we go to my guest today, let's hear what you guys have to say about International Men's Day.

  • So here's a few tweaks for you, Iraq says.

  • Why is International Men's Day not celebrated on a major scale as the Women's Day?

  • Well, I think that's hopefully going to be changing.

  • Whilst backbench business reports that MP Philip Davies is now bidding for a debate on International Minister 2016 DEP says celebrate International Men's Day to respect gender equality.

  • But some don't agree.

  • However, Jasmine says, isn't every day International Men's Day, so there's always one isn't there.

  • So now it's time to go to our news reader packs Brown, who has the day's news.

  • Thank you, Chrissy Lovely.

  • Being here is always now it was Ricky Survey who reminded us last year on Women's Day.

  • Do not despair.

  • Manin ists International Men's Day is a thing, and it's celebrated on the 19th of November.

  • Now a somewhat controversial event, in fact so controversial that last year the University of York decided to cancel International Men's Day event last minutes.

  • The campaigners actually believed that the university is reputation would have been tainted if they had associated themselves in such an event.

  • They believe that raising awareness and women's issues can actually provoke more inequality than actually combating it.

  • Canceling the event of the universe of York Coast.

  • Great outrage amongst the event supporters.

  • In fact, they believe that by canceling the event they were undermining men's rights.

  • However controversial this event, maybe it's actually gained a lot of attention in the last three years, so much so that last year parliament actually debated International Men's Day for the first time.

  • So why do we celebrate International men's A.

  • Let's not forget that men face very different issues in life than women, and obviously it's just a waiter also promote good positive male role models, which unfortunately, is not so common these days.

  • thank you back to you, Chrissy.

  • Thanks very much.

  • Two packs and we'll be catching up with him a bit later on to as he takes to the streets to get your opinions on International Men's Day.

  • So now let's hear about a product that is taking the world by storm.

  • And here's an interview.

  • Bishop Renata Cardoso founder off in Telemann Well, Intel Ament project.

  • This is a very simple idea, really.

  • It's too.

  • Help men to become better through the use of their intelligence project came about through problems I had in my personal life and also with my son.

  • I'm a father, uh, over 23 year old A man already gets a boy anymore, and way had lots of problems raising up Philip.

  • And at one point in his teenage years, out of sheer frustration, I decided that I was going to help young men initially to cope with the problems off life.

  • It's a fact that most men nowadays are very ill equipped to deal with the various challenges that life throws at them.

  • For example, women, sex, anger, money and even their health.

  • We know that four times more man than women commit suicide in the world, so that gives you an idea how much struggle man go through, and they just don't know how to deal with it.

  • Men tend to bottle up their problems and then just implode or explode.

  • So the project came about to try and give man the tools to deal with these various challenges that they have that we all face in life way have set up.

  • The project structured the project in 53 challenges, which are meant to be taken up once a week.

  • One challenge a week for one year.

  • So that means for an entire year off a man's life, you will be focused on improving various areas off his life.

  • So there are 53 challenges which cover about 20 different areas of a man's life, such as finances, relationships, their health, their mental health, physical health, fitness, how to deal with pornography, sex in other areas as well.

  • So you were challenged.

  • Demand is challenged to look at one part of his life and then take up that challenge to improve within seven days to do something to improve that area of his life within seven days and the project to the beauty of the Prophet project is that itself based, and you can do it anywhere in the world because all you need to do is read up the challenge for that week and decide.

  • Okay, here's what I'm going to do about it.

  • Well, the results Chris, have been amazing, really, because the project started here in Brazil and then it's started to take up around the world.

  • Today we are in over 100 countries.

  • We have thousands and thousands off man.

  • Hundreds of thousands of men.

  • Doing this challenge is in more than 100 countries in various languages.

  • And the results that we hear the feedback we get from this man are amazing, such as weight loss, even though the project doesn't teach dieting.

  • But it gives you the secret of dieting.

  • Whatever diet you want to be on teaches you why Dieting fails for most people as well.

  • Weight loss.

  • We have relationships changed.

  • Better husbands.

  • Men who are addicted to sex to pornography have bean able to leave these addictions.

  • We have men with anger problems will overcome their anger problems who lacked self control, men who suffered abuse in their life, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, all kinds of problems that men usually deal with way receive feedback as being tremendous results.

  • Even men who have been able to go up in their career because they started to apply these principles that the project teaches, and they suddenly begin to see improvement in their police off work.

  • There's there, relied upon Maur by their bosses with more responsibilities.

  • And, of course, that where that comes, better salary and so on.

  • So the results have been really, really amazing beyond what I expected.

  • In the beginning, any man can join the Intel Ament project, and it's a free project.

  • You don't have to pay anything to join.

  • You just need to have an Internet connection and visit this site here.

  • My block.

  • We're not to Cardoza dot com forward slash intel a man, you go straight to a page where you have the 53 challenges you need to read each one of them carefully and fall of the secret of the success off this project is you.

  • You can't be lazy with yourself.

  • You cant just you can desire to have a pill and say, Oh, I'm gonna take this pill and everything.

  • My life is gonna change that doesn't work this get rich quick schemes.

  • These it is promises that you get this formulas that you see around an Internet, that your life is gonna change in seven days and things like that that doesn't work.

  • If you want to change in your life, you have to be committed to change.

  • And here's the thing the one year is going to pass anyway.

  • Think about it.

  • You have You are at the doors of a new year now, 2017.

  • You don't have to wait for January 1st.

  • You can start right now.

  • But hey, 2016 is almost over and you didn't see it whether it go time passes anyway.

  • So why don't you make a good use of your time?

  • The project takes sometimes less than 20 minutes a week for you to spend time on that particular task for the week.

  • And you will see the changes that really stick to your life and will make an impact.

  • I guarantee you go up to the block.

  • Renato cardozo dot com Ford's lash intelli man.

  • So thank you very much there to Bishop Renata Cardosa and we actually have a UK representative here that will tell us about the impacting Kellerman has had on his life and also about the work off the project here in the UK So I'm very happy to welcome Bruno Danton's to the show.

  • Hello, Bruno.

  • Hi.

  • Hello.

  • How are you?

  • I'm very well.

  • How are you?

  • I'm fine.

  • So you are the UK refering Telemann here on.

  • But first we'll tell us.

  • Obviously you must have gone through the challenges yourself first.

  • What kind of impact did that happen in your life?

  • Sure did.

  • All of them.

  • You know it's about Ania Challenge.

  • Improving yourself.

  • Well, changing yourself takes time.

  • Yes.

  • So you you lost things.

  • You you find out you have to work on.

  • If I speaking out personal basis, it has helped me a lot with family, Okay, a lot.

  • Well, I dedicate a lifetime to my work.

  • And I love what I do love work.

  • But it could be very tiring at times.

  • So when I got home tired after a long working day, you know, all we want to do is take off the shoes.

  • Labor can stay lays on the couch.

  • But then I have my wife.

  • I have my son who need the tension.

  • You need time.

  • Who needs a lot early when I get home.

  • But also they need that make time for them.

  • And the project off int element has helped me to see that I was neglecting the part.

  • Okay, that that you know the same dedication that I apply to my work.

  • I was not applying the much home.

  • Do you think men do that generally Because they get so wrapped up in work?

  • It's like a really important thing with the men I have spoken to in the project.

  • Yes, I can see it, but I cannot speak for all the men in the whole wide world.

  • But I would say in general.

  • So if we take the men I know in the project where and I'm eating the project as a simple and I would say yes, most men met and talked with.

  • Mostly they do that well, is the feeling we get that my job is done.

  • My part is done.

  • So I'm home now.

  • I want to rest living alone, you know, and no help with anything at home as well.

  • So most men think that and think that house causes for the wife is a lady thing when you can help with little things like just taking the rubbish out and we'll make a great impact the great difference.

  • So you different become a better husband and a better father.

  • I still am in the process off becoming, yes, my wife.

  • She said that she's glad with that.

  • It is happy she is well, she was just talking to the K and she said, Well, I see changes in you.

  • So oh, what's that?

  • Like hearing that from your wife?

  • It just gives.

  • It gives us a push to go ahead and keep underwear.

  • Recently, I was talking to someone who also had this marriage saved.

  • Really, if it wasn't for the project and improving himself as a better man, a better husband, you know the marriage would have failed.

  • And thanks to the approach, it in his effort he put in it and applying the lessons off the intel amending his life could save his marriage.

  • I'm just amazed that the impact that it's had so far because it's not a product that's been going for very long years and years is quite a quite a recent years, project, isn't it?

  • Yes.

  • And in the UK, there are There are monthly meetings.

  • What?

  • We have monthly meetings.

  • We have a firm, no wrong something.

  • More than 400 members, active members and we have monthly meetings.

  • Was once a month.

  • We come together, and yes, so we can get on with the challenges off being a better man.

  • OK, on what advice would you give?

  • Maybe to the men watching today That was thinking, Well, I don't really think I can change that much, or I don't feel very good about myself.

  • Would you Advised them?

  • Well, I would say the locket.

  • You try it, you have to try.

  • You have to really a look for ways to improve yourself.

  • You know, it's okay.

  • One off.

  • The misconceptions men have is that is a weakness to admit your errors.

  • Tried meat.

  • You're wrong, you know.

  • But I see it as a strength before used to see it as a weakness, you know, and, uh and we want you to hide our mistakes, but we have to confront them.

  • That's the only way off becoming a better self about the person you know.

  • That holds true for women as well, but we're talking about the man on.

  • And I believe women do better at that than men.

  • Better that the Minden at meeting the air is confronting and being better.

  • And that's one of the reason that sparked the start of this project.

  • Because we cannot be lagging behind many to proof.

  • Yeah, you know, it's It's also Summers, as Renato was saying earlier, that a lot of men internalized problems.

  • And that's why you know, there's a lot of mental health issues and stuff like that.

  • So even encourages men too.

  • Open up in general, I suppose.

  • Yeah, let's just get everything in.

  • You know, that's what society respect for me and to be strong, to be always right to know.

  • But not all the times that it's true that times that we don't know what to do and we have to ask for help.

  • You know, the telephone is definite brilliant, but I think you saw so much has been lovely speaking to you the best with the project.

  • Thanks for receiving me.

  • Thank you.

  • All right, guys.

  • So don't go away because after the break, I'll be hearing from our resident business and self development experts Jonathan File and Chris Brown about why it's so important for men to develop in business and in the workplace.

  • Welcome back to the Christie.

  • Be show everyone your place for mental health and well being Topics.

  • As you know, today's topic is international men today.

  • And to give it more of a feel for what you out there think about the day we sent out packs brown onto the streets of London to get your opinions.

  • It's international Menzie and we're doing street chats.

  • Have you ever heard about International Women's Day?

  • Yes, I have.

  • Yes.

  • Doesn't bring about.

  • But actually of course I have heard of it.

  • But yeah.

  • Oh, yeah, of course.

  • Have yes.

  • And have you ever heard of our International Men's Day?

  • No, I have it.

  • Uh, no, I have no No E have no.

  • Do you have an idea of or guest Will international Wednesday's about maybe no committing some of the men's issues like depression, cancer, stuff like that or silly Main doing things.

  • I don't have a clue.

  • I can only base it on my own own experience, I guess.

  • But yeah, like I would assume that a lot A minute.

  • A lot of men at the moment find it quite difficult dealing with their own idea of masculinity on what that means today, Um, on.

  • Although I think women have a hard time in general in being judged on appearances or let's buy what they say.

  • I think men are start to feel that kind of worries as well, some kind of work.

  • They you know, they have the same issues as women, so I just don't think it's highlighted as much as women.

  • Actually, I want to know more about who we ask you who your favorite man in your life is.

  • My husband.

  • 40 years in two months.

  • Congratulations.

  • Thank you, Jimi Hendrix.

  • Something great.

  • My dad.

  • I didn't have any favorites.

  • I'm very equivalent, but I do support my young nephew.

  • Had he had such a system on the femur of mental health care.

  • Seems to be often men are reluctant.

  • Thio seek help.

  • Really?

  • So I think if I had a magic ones, I think I might make men talking about a mental health a bit more acceptable, really.

  • Oh, it's been really tough form between regarding my boyfriend.

  • Like whoever's watching is you think guy?

  • No, mind?

  • No, just my dad.

  • Okay, so thank you very much.

  • Two packs brown there.

  • So now I'm joined by some familiar faces on our program.

  • We have our resident business expert, Jonathan Far, and also our coach, Coach Chris Brown.

  • Hello, gentlemen.

  • How are you?

  • Very good things.

  • Let's have you both back on the show studio.

  • Yes, Always good to be back.

  • Lovely.

  • Okay, so we're gonna talk about success, because what black to concentrate on this program is about how men can even know.

  • Maybe they go through hard time, they can turn things around, and they can do really well in life.

  • So let's start off with the business side of things.

  • What makes a successful 1,000,000 business, Jonathan?

  • A good woman.

  • Okay, wait.

  • What creates successive off matters user?

  • The absolute wonderful woman behind him, in my opinion, honestly.

  • But But no, Of course, Way here to tell the International Men's Day so we can focus on men.

  • But what I'm gonna say phone is for both men and women, you know, Number one is the absolute desire and belief in everything that you're doing.

  • If you're building up in business, whether it's your own company or something, or a business that you work for absolute sheer determination and belief to keep going.

  • You know, when when things are tough, which they always inevitably, our success comes through hard work.

  • It comes to continue to be persistent, and you achieve success faster.

  • If you know that you're building something that you've proven to yourself first that people want on dhe, that's really, really crucial.

  • What would you say?

  • Your biggest successes, I think in business wise, I mean at the moment, because, of course, but growing and things are doing very, very well.

  • The performance of our hedge fund at the moment is absolutely incredible.

  • Where the number one performing fund on Bloomberg right now, across the year across year, all of Europe and the US Since January this year 2016 we've netted 36% return on investment for us, for our investors, which is brilliant.

  • We just have a 10 million under management now, and that's crying very, very well.

  • So in terms of recent times that I think business wise because we're talking business and personal.

  • I think successes in 75 ways, shapes and forms, but at this point in time.

  • Our biggest success to date this year has been performance off of a hedge fund.

  • That's amazing.

  • Now, Jonathan, I know things weren't always eso so great for you were there because there was a time when it was a bit rocky for you and businesses.

  • Tell us briefly about, Of course.

  • So I mean, when rock star start It was 2007 just before the recession on dhe.

  • Really?

  • Lehman Brothers didn't come until September 2008.

  • So whilst I launched in 2000 and seven in September, we started off very, very well.

  • But what?

  • Of course we saw the financial collapse happening in middle 8 2008 We lost a lot of customers, you know, affordability became an issue, and I made a lot of mistakes during that time, and they cost us even more time on dhe.

  • More money on it really got to situation after I was selling some of my investment properties to keep the business going that I didn't really question.

  • Does this business have a future?

  • Doesn't have a future, And it wasn't just for a few months.

  • It was a good two years that things were very, very tough costs were higher than what income was coming in on Dhe.

  • I remember a very, very famous Winston Churchill saying that, he said, during World War Two, which I still use today, whenever I'm having difficult times, but was using a lot when I was there, which is when you're going through hell.

  • Keep going.

  • You know why stop?

  • It's not gonna.

  • It's not fingers things by stopping in their fiery underground of hell, which is what I was going through.

  • So it's just that absolute what I said before that persistence that absolute belief in oneself when things are tough, the worst thing you could ever do is stop.

  • You're just gonna keep going and going.

  • And so glad you did, because you're being so Southern.

  • Way rocket Way turned 10 years old.

  • Brilliant.

  • And how about you, Chris?

  • How What soup?

  • Maybe you've been your big, bigger 60.

  • You know, it's very funny because I was talking to somebody about this.

  • Today we're talking about was talk about coaching leaders coaching as well, and we was trying to define what is success really in.

  • When we worked out was breaking down, he said to me a question, and I was thinking about the amount of individuals that have come across within my work That's actually come back now.

  • And their life has changed.

  • You know, there are many other areas of success you can.

  • I say, Oh, it's thesis that but to actually let's say we come into this life, we're gonna leave, right?

  • Make sure that you've contributed something somebody's life.

  • That is a success.

  • Yeah, OK, tell us a bit more about success in the workplace is because, obviously, you know, people do go strong, go through quite a lot at work on.

  • There are many people that have mental health issues at work and feeling quite low and everything.

  • So what can what can be done in the workplace to think, to make it a better environment for people like that, you know, has employed really have to think about your environment, You know, if you've got a space where people actually communicate with each other.

  • If you said an atmosphere where there are teams and people can actually just talk, they can express a little things, but there's the other side as well.

  • Sometimes you might put something under undue pressure that it might need certain deadlines that might need, and it might not be able to speak up and say, This is what I'm going through that's going on And people go away by themselves and they still getting stressed out and start to crumble it Wednesday.

  • So sitting right on the spit teamwork words express and I spent a quick wanted agents.

  • What?

  • Thank you.

  • So so much for your contribution to today.

  • Show Aunt Happy International Wednesday Way, guys.

  • After the break, I'll be hearing from our real life story gets ANC it love.

  • And he has quite a story, so make sure you stay tuned.

  • Hi, I'm Christy Be.

  • And my show is all about improving your mental health on being happy.

  • Join me every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 10 p.m. On my channel, Sky 203 Visit Kristie Fischer dot TV for more information and subscribe to our YouTube channel Krissy B show.

  • You can also follow us on Twitter on Instagram at Crecy be Show on on our Facebook page The Krissy B show Welcome back to the Christie.

  • Be show everyone where I'm delighted to be joined by Mr Hankin Love Hello, Ankh.

  • It's crazy.

  • It's a pleasure to be on your show.

  • Lovely to have you on and that you have such a story and I don't know how much we're going to be able to get through.

  • Guys, I've got it all here, But first we'll tell us about your background.

  • So give the viewers an idea of what kind of back on your coming from.

  • Well, I moved to the UK from Kashmir from a very specific part of Kashmir called Jammu and even more specifically, a dump or my family has done politics and been in governance and ruled royally for generations and generations.

  • Andan.

  • Fortunately, it's Ah, it's a war tor nation.

  • It's where the Hindu world meets the Muslim world.

  • It's where we have the mecca of Hinduism was called Vision of Davy to shrine, which 10 million people visit.

  • Yeah, um and it's basically in the mountains, So all the different beliefs came together.

  • But when we flat 4 to 21st century in the 20th century before that, well, people didn't seem to get along because they didn't agree with each other on their beliefs.

  • Um Monotheism, polytheism all coming together in these mountains, and it made the most colossal contemporary conflict, which has been going on for 70 years since October 1947.

  • So how does it the sectional affect your family and well yourself?

  • Well, my, my family are both part the ruling family at the time.

  • In 1947 when we had the last royal rule of Jammu and Kashmir under Great Britain and my granduncle, he served with Churchill in the war cabinet here in 10 Downing Street during World War Two, etcetera.

  • But then very contemporary.

  • My family on my cousins are the elected members from the dump or this kind of duchy.

  • So my grandfather's a duke.

  • They're here, the back or so this kind of Dutch.

  • It's still today.

  • They stayed elected.

  • They don't win in the entire state because the state's majority Muslim.

  • But that's the kind of Hindu stronghold on DSO.

  • They kind of still stayed there in power and stuff like that, but they're not.

  • They're trying to promote secularism and peace and unity amongst people, but it's become very difficult.

  • It's a day to day things, So when I grew up, I grew up with 22 armed guards.

  • There you know, I was playing with bullets and a K 40 sevens and childhood.

  • Then it's like a normal childhood, you know?

  • So it was It was it was very It was normal for me cause I knew no different My mother, she was very worried when she saw this, you know?

  • And she said, I can't It's just too much for a kid.

  • And my father was always in the press and the media, you know, like it was put in jail 50 times or something and they tried to poison him.

  • Jail one time his elected member of the Legislative Assembly of Jammu and Kashmir.

  • And, um they arrested him, the police without any court order and detained him because I wanted to go in debate in Parliament.

  • It was a place like this, so But I was born.

  • I was the most.

  • I was the largest target at this time.

  • In 1983 when I was born, we were in the middle of something called Operation Cyclone as well, like not to get too complicated.

  • But it was the biggest movement of extremism in radicalization in the area.

  • And because my family were fighting against the radicals and trying from its secularism and liberty.

  • I became such a target as well as a kid.

  • So no choice of my own, you know?

  • So there you go.

  • You have some people weren't about what they're gonna have for dinner.

  • I throw this side of the world.

  • Goodness, even mind boggling.

  • So then you came to the UK What was some of the difficulties that that you went through when you actually got here?

  • Because it wasn't all plain sailing once, you know, it was it was really difficult, actually, cause I came here when I was six years old.

  • So, like, I've always been kind of, like, moved away and been an outsider.

  • And I went to an American school and, you know, I was kind of one of the only kids.

  • It was American school in the UK international school, too, which is kind of a blessing in disguise much later, because I got to see a different countries and people in different cultures and realize that, you know, we're all one at the end of the day because I didn't see that growing up, but initially it was it was a struggle to because I'm one might.

  • My father was very angry, my mother, because it made him look weak politically, so he didn't support her.

  • So my mom was an actual single mom, even though she's so powerful there.

  • But here we're nobody, you know, shock.

  • It was like starting from scratch.

  • So we're just struggling to survive.

  • Here is well, but somehow she managed to just put me through the best schools all on her own as well.

  • So I was like, being brought up by a single mother with all this background going on with the political.

  • Sounds like an amazing woman.

  • Oh, yeah, Yeah.

  • She made me out of nothing, you know, And she gave me the best education, and at first it was very tough for me in high school because I was really outsider.

  • I couldn't speak English as well as the other kids, you know, like the curriculum was so different and I was a different color as well, because everybody else, they kind of, like, picked on me in the beginning.

  • But hey, at the end, school ended up quite well for me because I ended up becoming the president of high school through all of that because, I mean, I was a lot of political background.

  • That it was It was kind of school then so nobody could compete.

  • But after that, things went really bad because of what happened in 2000 and two was in genuine cashmere.

  • We had a 1,000,000 man stand up between India and Pakistan.

  • One million troops looking at each other, and my family there were there, were there were in the government at the time, you know?

  • And so, like, basically, when you're in this kind of political situation, when your cousins are doing politics to here and your dad is doing it, you're your grandfather was a duke, you know, And my great great grandfather was a royal prime Minister and general conquered Ladakh.

  • He conquered half of Tibet.

  • He died in Tibet, you know, trying to fight it.

  • So this stuff really affects you psychologically when it is an ongoing war.

  • So there I was in 2002 just out of high school, you know, And then all of this stuff came back to me because that kind of kept me sheltered from not knowing, like what my responsibility was regarding that place.

  • And then you know.

  • My dad's like you come back and I'm just 18 you know?

  • And then I start thinking, Oh, my God, I'm prints from this stuff and I had to seek body, got all my life here, and he was looking after me, but I couldn't.

  • I think I broke under the psychological pressure of all of this.

  • I didn't sleep for days.

  • I didn't know what to do.

  • And I tried to apply for places like Oxford and Harvard.

  • They all rejected me initially, so I was also broken from that emotionally.

  • Have you have you spoken to anyone about what you were going through, what you were thinking?

  • You know, I had nobody to speak to about these topics because it was kind of taboo, you know, like my uncle who was there at the time.

  • There's so much pressure on all of us.

  • He hung himself, you know?

  • So it's it's because you have responsibility to end impossible war, you know, And this passes on to as a kid and I had no one to speak to about it.

  • I mean, it's so hard to relate for anybody, and it ended with a punch with my Sikh bodyguard.

  • He was He was so noble.

  • He was actually in maximum security prison before in Kashmir.

  • Mom got him out.

  • So yeah.

  • So, like, because, like, there was a whole conflict on the Sikhs and the Indian government.

  • And so she she was a supreme Court advocate and she got him out of prison, and she and you end up five thinking, Yeah, because he always looked after me because of the time I was so confused.

  • Just out of high school.

  • I didn't know who I was.

  • I didn't want to actually go back to the world because I'd grown up now here all my life, you know?

  • And I didn't think that that's what I want to do.

  • You know, I was like, No, I'm trying to separate yourself from I want t o.

  • When I was 18.

  • I Look, I'm a team, you know?

  • Yeah.

  • This is your responsibility.

  • Come back, lead a aggressive war zone in politics and manage it on.

  • I was like, Oh, my God.

  • I'm a prince from a war zone.

  • I started, You know, I got angry that aggressive.

  • I didn't sleep and I started hallucinating.

  • Stuff could then sleep and At one point he took me my bodyguard to the psychiatric like doctor to see them.

  • And I'm waiting in the secular clinic.

  • And this was one of the final months of my life.

  • And there's this other guy there and I haven't slept for 45 days.

  • I'm going through this war that starting in cash, making potentially going nuclear at the time.

  • You know, this is right after 79 11 as well.

  • And this is where the British S A S and Delta Force have been sent to Kashmir's look for bin Laden.

  • He was later captured eight miles from the border.

  • So tell you what I tell you, guys, that was quite a story, didn't you?

  • Where things go down and so like, there I am and I can't handle it.

  • I'm saying a psychiatric ward having for four days there's a war about to break that.

  • I need to actually go back and maybe speaking lead or do something about, you know, and And what happened was like there was this assistant to the to the doctor before she came.

  • And I was like, I'm leaving and he didn't let me leave, so I started a punch it with him.

  • Next thing I know, I'm dragged in on section in the psychiatric clinic.

  • You know, it was unbelievably dragged me through.

  • This is at the Paterson Center in Paddington, ever being dragged up the stair that I'm like, kicking and screaming.

  • And I mean, you know, now I look back and laugh.

  • Now is not a no is.

  • This was incredible.

  • It was It was terrifying.

  • And then, like before, I know what I'm in a 24 hour observation because, you know, like, I'm talking about being aggressive, killing myself, killing people, because that's what's going on is a war going on, and they cannot related.

  • I'm saying on this Royal Prince and they're like, What?

  • What's going on?

  • So they put me on a lands a peen like this really strong anti psychotic drug.

  • And I'm in a 24 hour observation, you know, And then, like, I remember being in the psychiatric ward, like, next to me was one guy who thought he was Seraphim and like, like, you know, like it was making like, these noises at night.

  • And I remember being in this warden, I've never been in this situation either.

  • So it kind of perpetuated things to be even worse because I was reflecting that.

  • What?

  • How?

  • Maybe I am nuts, but at the end, like I was released and they couldn't diagnose me with anything because what was happening behind me, Was it very hard to judge me to?

  • Two other reaction was the normal reaction, the situation for 18 year old, you know?

  • Wow.

  • So how did you actually move on from that?

  • That situation without what happened, that was really fortunate.

  • That time was I was able to leave everything behind forbid in the UK, and I moved to California.

  • So I got into art school.

  • So the same timing that applied for this place all the California of the arts.

  • It's experimental art school.

  • And so going there and just making another fresh start, just literally other side of the world on Kashmir made me not think about it.

  • And the war dissipated.

  • So the army's also withdrew, and so like that.

  • So it was not so engaged, you know.

  • And so, like, I I was able to then just kind of forget it and just focus on what I want to do is just to be an artist and to be a performer, to be a singer, you know, a normal life, rideable.

  • Yeah, Yeah, that's well right as well, huh?

  • So but actually, that helped me really find, like, some kind of stability, ironically, relative to how, like, psychologically unstable, everything was for me, because then it was and nobody knew who I was there at all in California and a clue what kind of school it came from.

  • Because And so, like, I was just being one of the kids.

  • I went to American schools on this American accident.

  • Could have been like somebody from there so that that really helped dissipate the situation just getting away.

  • So you were you happy then?

  • I was very happy in California for that time because I've gone through something so dramatic.

  • And I don't know what the judge to myself and like Was that crazy?

  • Like, How do you recover from that?

  • I'm on these strong anti psychotics like the lands a peon despair, a drone and these drugs, like they make you feel so, like, you know, like like bad.

  • I just quit them as well.

  • A TTE the time.

  • And I was able to do that because the environment changed and I was not reflecting on so much.

  • And I didn't I didn't talk to my dad for a very, very long time.

  • But every conversation with him, cos me back into a conflict.

  • It's not a normal childhood.

  • I was born 1/7 of August, which is between the two nuclear strikes on Hiroshima, Nagasaki.

  • So get this year for my birthday.

  • My father would be giving a lecture there because this working on nuclear because with Indian Pakistan are nuclear armed nations.

  • Right?

  • And so my dad's like on the scent of August and like Hiroshima and Nagasaki, giving a lecture at the university.

  • And I'm invited to a birthday seventh of August.

  • So, like, I just I just think about what?

  • I'm growing up.

  • And I was really cool in the summer, Hollis about at school either, you know?

  • Wow.

  • Okay.

  • It's Anke.

  • How'd they joined up back in the U.

  • K then?

  • Well, I was there in l.

  • A.

  • And I was I was doing okay.

  • I was studying performance and acting, and I was offered actually representation by this by Jack Black's first agent.

  • But I was like the time.

  • He said, if you want to work here because I wasn't an American citizen, even though I've gone through an American system that I had to get American sister before meeting any any auditions or castings, but they wouldn't cast me.

  • And the real option was getting married to somebody else.

  • And I was like, I'm not doing that.

  • No, you know.

  • So I came back because I am British.

  • So, Bruce Citizen.

  • So I came back here to just start my life here and work here, you know?

  • Okay, we're gonna go to a quick break, and I have to take you into the next part of the show because you are also going to be telling us a bit more about your story.

  • Obviously, we haven't got time to cover everything.

  • But also about the one love part is absolutely.

  • Join us after this.

  • Make sure you don't go away.

  • Welcome back to today's story, everyone.

  • So before the break, we heard some off.

  • Hank, it's story.

  • Really?

  • Really.

  • Actually, I'm quite speeches about the things that he's been thrown had to deal with at such a young age, and we're going to continue now.

  • because you're gonna tell us about coming back to the UK and starting the one enough party.

  • How did that come about?

  • Well, the one left party started from a relative out in a tragic situation.

  • As everything in my life good seems to come out of somehow.

  • So my life was good for a while.

  • I was living in South Kensington here in London.

  • I had like, a great lifestyle.

  • My mom, she did so well.

  • She was like a multimillionaire before the market crash.

  • But things started whittling down and, you know, I was It would take the opportunity to make music.

  • I had music video hits on MTV in the USA from London today.

  • I just sent the videos.

  • They're on radio there as well, But then after the market crash, it just seemed like, you know, like life got harder and harder and, uh, what happened was one night I was researching more about my family history because it's something, you know, The history is my family story, and I had because I've become burst.

  • It isn't I stopped being an Indian citizen.

  • That's a lot there right now.

  • And I wanted to say that because I don't know, like old patriotism.

  • I was born there.

  • Whatever I want to do.

  • A citizenship, a loophole.

  • But what happened was I found out in certifying a loophole to keep my Indian citizenship, which I couldn't.

  • I found that because the state was so unstable as being the last royal family member who was no longer Indian, I had inherited the titles on paper and legally off the actual kingdom of Kashmir, which was really which kind of hit me because no one had won the war.

  • I was like, Oh, my God.

  • And I couldn't take it for a while because I said no to my father to take on this political party.

  • You know, it all should run away from it.

  • I was like, Oh, my God.

  • Technically, I'm a sovereign state.

  • I mean, means nothing.

  • I'm not I haven't got it in the army here or anything, but legally Whoa!

  • So I was like, Wait a minute.

  • This is a really important legal finding, because with Francis, I'm going put this on my Facebook.

  • Talk to people.

  • Big mistake.

  • Because obviously people hate the idea who are from India, that it should be independent country even though legally it is, You know, it's like when a country's occupied like France by Germany until the Germans not they're not going to be happy back in World War Two, right?

  • So, like, I got so much hate from my family from everybody, you can say this, you can't do that.

  • And what happened was in the grand cycle of things with our depleting wealth from the market crash, I ended up losing my home and the madness that came from that from the fact that oh, my God, I'm actually a head of state in the ongoing war zone.

  • I can never get away from this, you know, on then, like I had another breakdown, I was like this beautiful Armani model she couldn't take.

  • It was shaking and sweating and my sleep and Oh, yeah, but also about your relationships that that must have.

  • Really?

  • Oh, you should Yes, she she was like, What the heck does like cool music guide all of a sudden?

  • Good.

  • Until any of this back story And then I'll just just didn't know anything about your past.

  • I didn't speak much of that.

  • I think it's very, you know, like people, you know, like my cousin has a leg blown off in a land mine.

  • He was a major in the army, and my uncle shot He's a colonel.

  • There's, like a lot of blood people killing themselves, hanging themselves like Whoa!

  • And you're responsible for somehow.

  • You know, when I went back to, like, last night went there was 2010 and like that, one of the main ministers coming.

  • Mama, we don't bring your son here because I had the prime minister visiting and I can give him secure the same time.

  • Like, why do we need security?

  • Go back to my own place and then you go back and you know, people come with drums.

  • It's like weird.

  • And I grew up in a different Yeah, psychology.

  • So but then I couldn't get away from it because, technically, I was the head of the country.

  • Somehow, in a bizarre twist of fate of laws that were not made appropriately because a lot of jealous law, they're not made on actual reason and and cut a long story short.

  • I ended up losing my home in Kensington.

  • I couldn't pay my rent.

  • My landlord, who was the Army captain from Northern Ireland couldn't understand Ironic.

  • Atlanta was Army captain of Northern Ireland.

  • I know.

  • On DSO I of all places I know.

  • Funny story and one day putting all my stuff on the street having to leave on.

  • And I remember going to counsel.

  • You can't leave yourself on this you're gonna find is like Okay, sure.

  • Come find me.

  • I gotta go home.

  • You know?

  • So I ended up, like, ended up in this hostel in Hackney and shortage.

  • At first I was so disquiet, it was a challenge.

  • Try 16 people living in the same room, you know, like from living like a prince to like them.

  • And I had no but no family here.

  • Nobody, you know, like it's just to do with that.

  • It was very difficult.

  • There's times when I woke up in the hospital, I just fractures hang myself.

  • You know, I really thought I should just hang myself because I'm like, what have I got to live for?

  • Like, I got no life like I lost everything last.

  • My family, my girlfriend.

  • My dad hates me.

  • My cousins.

  • You know, my mom like she loves me a lot, but she's also grew up with Indian nationalism That national is a dangerous thing.

  • I think now, you know, So she could also understand the beginning.

  • This doesn't make any sense with a lawyer, but it does kind of make legal sense.

  • This is weird.

  • So everybody is being challenged here on DSO.

  • So what happened was to me on a lot of my friends on Facebook.

  • They didn't want to know me, because now I was poor is well, back then that was a different thing.

  • So it was also that's shift as well, Like so many teens, Same time and was to survive, actually ended up applying to go to university here to get a student loan for a little bit.

  • I never could figure out, you know, like, what do I do?

  • What did I do it myself?

  • How do I live?

  • Because I'm not.

  • I don't have any more money.

  • Left is I'm completely broke.

  • And I didn't want to go and get like the the what?

  • You call it the regular kind of thing.

  • So I'm gonna get a student loan to re educate myself.

  • So therefore, bid.

  • But before before I actually left to get a student loan.

  • I was in the hostel and it would be the most inspiring thing.

  • Ironically, all these young people who were so inspired by my understanding of love politics of, you know, a future vision of like united humanity for trying to utilize space.

  • R

Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Creasy.

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