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  • Matt: Excuse me. Hey, real quick...

  • Matt: Starting a conversation with a beautiful woman can

  • be very frustrating and even terrifying for a lot of guys. But it's actually a

  • whole lot easier than you think if you keep the following three things in mind.

  • And all the opening lines that I'm about to give you have all been 100% tested to

  • be tried and true in giving you the best reactions from women. I'm Matt Artisan from

  • The Attractive Man and I'm going to show you how to start a conversation with a beautiful woman.

  • When you start applying the

  • following three techniques to all of your interactions with women, I guarantee

  • your results will skyrocket. No. 1 Approach within three seconds

  • When you see a woman that you want to talk to, make sure to start approaching her

  • within three seconds. From the time that you take that first step, no more than

  • three seconds should go by. Do this no matter what because it short circuits

  • your brain's ability to come up with excuses and which, you know, a lot of

  • excuses can come up. I'm sure you know that I know that, they come up from me

  • too. And, it also just conditions you to take action. It's like you see beautiful

  • woman and within three seconds, you take that step towards her. Instead of doing

  • what most guys do, see beautiful woman and think about it, analyze it and

  • eventually, tuck themself out of it. It also conveys confidence. When you walk up

  • to her right away, which is a really important attraction trigger for women,

  • I'm sure you know that. So, next time you see a beautiful woman that you want to

  • approach, count to three and when you get to the number three, start walking

  • towards her. Okay, take a step and then taking another step, even if you bail

  • before you get to her 'cause maybe her boyfriend shows up or she jumps onto a

  • bus or maybe you just chickened out. Okay, that's still a success because you're

  • training your mind and your body to take action. You're conditioning yourself to,

  • every time you see a beautiful woman, that you just go. If you do that fifty or

  • a hundred times, eventually, that's going to be a habit. You're gonna see

  • beautiful women and just be compelled to walk towards them and that's a pretty good habit to have.

  • No. 2 Open strong. Coming in with a good opening line can

  • start the interaction off on the right foot. So, it's really important.

  • Now, for fun, flirty opening lines that get her laughing are great. However,

  • there's no problem with just keeping it simple, especially if you don't know what

  • to say or you're feeling a little bit tongue-tied. Here are some examples of

  • some great opening lines. I really like banter openers because there are fun,

  • flirty way to start an interaction going, especially in the nighttime environment

  • like a bar lounge or club or part or maybe even a concert.

  • "Hey, have you noticed that you and I are like the hottest people in this entire place?

  • It's true, so I figured we have to at least meet"

  • "Hey, are you shy or something? Because I've been here for like 25 minutes and

  • you haven't come and said hi to me yet or buy me a drink or anything. So you must be shy.

  • Because people are there to have a good time, so if you can get the

  • girls bantering back and forth and laughing and being playful, then of

  • course, it's really good. Now, my favorite way to start a conversation, especially

  • during the daytime, is to use a direct opener because people are busy, so using

  • something indirect, beating around the bush; a) it doesn't show any attractive

  • qualities and b) it wastes a lot of time. So, I like to just show my intent and my

  • interest right away because that shows confidence, it shows that I must believe

  • that this girl is also attracted to me. And it can create, as long as you do it

  • the right way, it can create sexual tension. So, for example, I might say something like:

  • Another favorite of mine is the intro opener, which is where you just introduce yourself. It works really well

  • at nighttime, at bars, parties and meetup groups or you know any type of social

  • gathering, really, where you just introduce yourself and that shows a lot

  • of confidence. It shows that you don't need a reason or an excuse to go talk to somebody.

  • Matt: "Hi, I don't believe we've met yet. I'm Matt." Woman: "Hi, I'm Dianna."

  • Make sure to say that confidently with strong eye contact and a warm smile.

  • Now, feel free to modify these openers based on the situation or the, you know,

  • the type of girls you're approaching or your individual mood or your own vibe,

  • whatever. What's most important is, to keep in mind that ninety-three percent

  • of communication is nonverbal. Therefore, your body language and how you actually

  • deliver your opening statement, is gonna matter a lot more than the

  • actual words you say. This is exactly what I mean by that and to learn how to

  • spark sexual tension immediately, which is, extremely powerful. Then, make sure to

  • watch my YouTube video on "how to spark sexual tension immediately" and there's a

  • link to it down in the description. No.3 Don't get caught up on the opener.

  • Remember, like I said, the actual words that you say when you first

  • approached her really aren't all that important compared to the overall vibe

  • that you're giving off. Later on when you're a little bit more advanced, it's

  • nice to come back and kind of practice some of these different types of openers

  • but in the beginning, when you're first starting off,

  • keep it simple, man. It's totally fine to just say whatever is on your mind

  • because that will get you in the habit of going for it, instead of always

  • second-guessing yourself. And developing that habit will get you more women than

  • any pickup line ever could. Now, of course there's other ways to start

  • conversations with women as well. Such as being indirect or using an observation.

  • Something you see about her or a situation something in the environment.

  • The problem with those is it's harder to keep the conversation going because she

  • doesn't know the real reason that you're talking to her which is probably because

  • you're attracted to her. So, use the examples that I gave you in this video

  • or something similar. Especially during the daytime, be direct. Don't be afraid to

  • show your interest right away. And of course, like I said,

  • it all depends on how you do it. There's a needy, supplicating way to do it. That's

  • gonna repel women and then there's a really badass, more attractive way to do

  • it. That's gonna build sexual tension right away.

  • And of course, it's gonna work much better. What's key is that, after you show

  • interest in her, you slightly take it away by challenging her. If you show too

  • much interest too soon, it seems needy and it pushes her away. You have to also

  • be a challenge. So, to show you how to be more of a challenge and get women to

  • actually start chasing you, I created a video called how to get women to chase

  • you. And there's a link down in the description and also on the right side

  • of the screen. So go ahead and click that right now, and watch that video. Make sure

  • to also subscribe to this channel for more dating tips and click that bell

  • icon or notification. Also, if you're interested in live coaching, if you want

  • us to take you in feel and show you exactly how to meet an attractive and

  • attract women, then check out our boot camp schedule. And also schedule

  • yourself for a free consultation with us. My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man

  • and i'll see you in the next video.

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