Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles Most people don't reach their dream not because of failure most people don't live their dream because they give up you see it's not the failure that stops us but that most stopped at their first failure. Those who succeed don't stop at one failure they don't stop at ten failures they don't stop at a hundred or a thousand or a million they say "this is my goal, and I will do whatever it takes to achieve it. I will learn the lessons from any failures I will learn faster, I will work harder, I will work smarter and I will not quit until my dream is a reality" That's the difference between success and failure. Failure is a massive part of being able to be successful You have to get comfortable with failure, you have to actually seek failure failure is where all of the lessons are you know, when you go to the gym and you work out you're actually seeking failure, you want to take your muscles to the point where you get to failure because that's where the adaptation is, that's where growth is. Successful people fail a lot, they fail a whole lot more than they succeed. They extract the lessons from the failure, and they use that- the energy and they use the wisdom to come around to the next phase of success. Gotta take a shot, you have to live at the edge of your capabilities you gotta live where you're almost certain you're gonna fail the reason for practice, practice is controlled failure you're getting to your limit, getting to your limit, getting to your limit you can't lift that, you can't do that until you get to the point that all of a sudden your body makes the adjustment and then you can do it. failure actually helps you to recognize the areas where you need to evolve so fail early, fail often, fail forward. Failure makes winners stronger, failure makes winners hungrier but it makes most give up it makes most feel worthless. Winners don't enjoy failure but they would never let failure stop them. next time you encounter failure you got to remember every great thing on this planet is here because the creator learned what did work but learned more from what did not work. When we are kids, we don't stop at failure when we first learned to ride a bike, it's failure after failure we get knocked down time after time but we get up and push forward, It's so we'll achieve our goal of riding the bike but then, we get old and most of us get weak we are too soft to get back on the bike. We come up with excuses it must not be for me! No, you just soft no, you just lazy. Tell yourself the truth get back on the bike learn why you failed and make sure you don't fall again make sure you are stronger for having the lesson. You know it's always a little bit frustrating to me when people have a negative relationship with failure. Fail early, fail often, fail forward. You're here right now at this moment because tomorrow you want to be somebody greater than the person you are today. You see yourself succeeding you have a vision you have a dream Congratulations, you're already ten steps ahead of 95% of the world. Imagine if Michael Jordan was scared of missing he would have never taken a shot. Imagine if Steve Jobs was afraid of people not liking his product there would be no iPhone. So, ask yourself this, do you want to be a person who fears failure? or do you want to be a person who loves success? which one? you gonna have to pick today and I'll tell you one thing one is a failure, and one is a success and If you love success, there is nothing that can stop you all those negative things people say will mean nothing. They're gonna talk about how only 1% make it to the top big deal, wanna know something else? Only 1% stick with that fitness program long enough to see results only 1% of nerds stick with that video game long enough to get good at it only 1% of relationships stick it out to the end. That doesn't mean you have a 1% chance it just means you can't behave like the 99% you'll have to do something better than giving up a month from now those are just numbers. You want to talk about numbers take a look around you and take a good look around you are you like 99% of the people around you? If you are, then you're in the wrong video my friend You have to love success just as much because that's gonna allow you to get up and go for it. Being scared to fail won't do anything in fact, when you love success and you start going for it guess what happens? You're gonna fail, you're gonna fail ten times, a hundred times maybe even a thousand times, but that's okay failure isn't permanent falling isn't permanent. You get right back up and keep going and this time you're gonna be stronger, wiser and you'll be more driven than ever and for every ten failures, you'll land one success. You have to love success so much that you're willing to fail ten times before you can succeed once that's how a winner does it I wanna explain the biggest myth that most people think leads them to success and here's the myth You might believe if you're scared to fail you won't fail. Lies, biggest myth ever and I believed it. You see, I always thought that being scared to fail in life would literally keep me from failing I would look at the losers around me and I would say " sheesh, I never want to turn out like him" I really believed this train of thought would help me succeed until one day I was walking down the street and I saw an old man had a hat, suspenders and a cane was about 80 years old. This old man was barely walking, he could walk but the cane helped a lot, he was struggling. So anyway, he was walking across the street and he ended up falling so I went over to go help him and he gets up says “thank you” and we introduce ourselves had a little conversation, told me his name and I told him mine his name was Robert by the way and right as he walked away I told him, this is what I said “Robert, you should stay inside where it's safe my friend” and Robert turns around and says to me “I love walking, and I love walking way more than I'm afraid of falling” So, I asked him well "what about your safety? don't you want to live?" and he told me this, these are the exact words he said, he said this “Solo, living means doing what you love to do and if I have to fall here and there to do what I want to do in life, then so be it” and he just walked away, never saw him again, that was it. But that statement really had me thinking and it had me thinking hard because I learned something that day. That's when I realized the true key to success you see, I always thought if I could just fear the act of failing and if I fear it like crazy I will succeed because I thought the fear would magically motivate me to get out there and start taking action but after that day uh-uh I realized something I realize it's the love for success that will lead me to succeeding. So, just imagine if Robert feared falling would he even start walking? of course not he wouldn't even do what he loved to do he would sit at home and take no type of action but he loved walking wasn't even scared to fall it gave him life that's what allowed him to get up and do it. He loved walking so much, he was willing to fall 10 times a day just to do it and you have to be the same So the next time someone tells you “you're gonna fail” you know what you tell them Tell them they're right but you're not afraid to fail, you're not afraid to take action you're not afraid to jump you're gonna fail 10 times but you know what It's cool because on the 11th time you'll succeed oh, you'll succeed alright and it will feel good and while you're over here living the life of your dreams in complete happiness guess where they're gonna be? That's right, they'll be failures, the real failures over there where it's safe, scared to fail ironic, isn't it? You know a lot of people come up to me and they ask me "Marco what is it that motivates you most?”