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  • [0:00:00] Should a man always pay on the first date?

  • It seems like a simple question but it doesn't have a simple answer.

  • They pulled 20,000 individuals.

  • What they found 10% said yes, a man should always pay.

  • Ten percent exact opposite.

  • No, it should always be 50-50.

  • And then there were the 80% right in the middle.

  • They were uncertain.

  • They said, well it depends on the situation.

  • And there were a lot of situations.

  • Guys, I don't like uncertainty.

  • So, I want to give you three rules that you can use to determine whether or not you should

  • pay on the first date or go 50-50 in addition.

  • I did some information research one out there.

  • Saw what the ladies were saying.

  • How they're kind of deciphering the signals that are sent when you offered to pay or when

  • you don't.

  • Guys, I'll talk about all that and why it matters in today's video.

  • So as I was going through the research there are two things that really stood out to me.

  • One is that men over 80% of the time are still paying for the first date in full.

  • Now the reasons for doing it were interesting.

  • A lot of them they just want to be perceived and they wanted to come off as a gentleman.

  • They also felt it was something that men needed to do.

  • Maybe that's the way they were raised.

  • Some men actually felt guilty having a woman pay for any part of the date.

  • But what was more interesting to me was the fact that women used it, the vast majority

  • of the time, as a signal to indicate whether this guy is really interested in them.

  • In fact, one woman she had her rules.

  • She talked about if I never want to see this guy again and I want to get out of there,

  • I pay for the entire thing and I leave.

  • If I like him but I never want to see him, he's a nice guy, 50-50.

  • But if I really like and I want to see him again then I will let him pay for that date

  • and then I will offer to pay for the next one.

  • This even got better.

  • Cause they start talking about how women in their 20s often times push to go 50-50.

  • But as women got a little bit older and they realized they've been dating quite a bit

  • more, they realized it's a waiting out factor to very quickly tell if a guy is really interested

  • or not will he pay for the entire date, so very interesting stuff there.

  • Rule #1: A man should always pay or try to pay for the first date.

  • I know I'm going to rile some people up.

  • They were like no, Antonio, you got to go 50-50.

  • A man shouldn't have to do that.

  • I get it.

  • But I was raised conservative.

  • By the research I saw the vast majority of women this is what they're looking for.

  • So there are definitely exceptions to this rule.

  • But for me I think the man should always be prepared to pay the first date.

  • Rule #2: If you ask for the date, you pay for the date.

  • I like this rule a lot.

  • It actually makes sense because some guys are being asked out by women.

  • But the vast majority of the time we're going to almost go back to rule #1 men are

  • asking women out.

  • But I like this rule because it gives you justification in the case that she's saying

  • I want to go 50-50.

  • You can simply say hey how about you grab dessert.

  • I asked you out.

  • I love this rule because it goes to show that you have respect for the individual.

  • That you appreciate your time with them and that you want to show them that you are still

  • interested.

  • Now if you're not really interested in them and they want to pay 50-50, I guess you can

  • go ahead and split it to kind of maybe send off that signal that yeah we probably won't

  • see each other again.

  • But I love this rule because if you asked somebody out you should definitely be prepared

  • to pay for them.

  • Rule #3: Keep it playful.

  • So you don't want this to ruin a date and you may be really interested in this person

  • and she may be at that 10% that she wants to go 50-50.

  • If you're really that much interested in her then you're going to have to understand

  • this is an area that you're going to have to compromise on.

  • But I think you can be playful.

  • You can be fun.

  • You can go pay for the bill when she's not looking.

  • You can go ahead and say hey I really love spending time with you.

  • Let's continue this on.

  • How about you get drinks at the bar.

  • I'll get this bill.

  • Often times this is a great way.

  • What she's looking for her is wit, is humor, is a higher level of intelligence.

  • Women loved it when a man is playful.

  • It shows that they can have fun.

  • Guys, it's an easy ways for you to go ahead and make sure to pay for that date.

  • So those are my three rules.

  • But now let's answer some frequently asked questions.

  • I paid for the date.

  • What am I entitled to?

  • You're entitled to nothing.

  • Come on.

  • If you're asking that question, we have a problem here.

  • You have simply just pay for a date.

  • You have just pay for the meal.

  • That's all.

  • You're entitled to a good time with the person you're with.

  • That doesn't mean that you're going to be able to get something after the date – a

  • kiss or further.

  • No.

  • You are not entitled to anything because you pay for the date.

  • FAQ 2: What if I'm low on funds?

  • I can't afford to take them to that super nice restaurant.

  • Well guys, think about and make sure you plan what this is going to cost and make sure you

  • can cover.

  • And a date doesn't have to be expensive.

  • Take her dancing.

  • Take her hiking.

  • Take her out for coffee.

  • Take her to simply out for a drink.

  • You don't have to spend a whole lot of money to spend quality time with a person.

  • [0:04:59] Tip #3: Always carry cash.

  • Have enough cash to be able to pay for the date.

  • Yeah.

  • I'm sure you've got it on your credit cards.

  • But what happens if it doesn't work.

  • They don't take American Express at this place.

  • Or, you go to a joint and its cash only.

  • Guys, you don't want to embarrass yourself and you want to be able to send that signal

  • that the person is important; important enough that you're willing to pay for it.

  • FAQ 4: We're on our fifth date and she's never paid for anything.

  • If you're asking this question you have an issue with it.

  • It's probably not a great fit or you need to talk to her about this.

  • Everything I'm talking about in this video is for the first date.

  • Now second date, third date, fourth date, fifth date, well yeah, maybe you should be

  • going 50-50.

  • Most people are going to be in that 80% where we want someone to at least make an effort.

  • If you have an issue with her not paying anything then bring it up and it may be a great a signal.

  • This isn't the right person for you.

  • So I talked about the studies, I talked about the stats.

  • Here is what actual women are saying about men and I'm going to talk about who they

  • are, what their profession.

  • I got a dating coach here.

  • She said modern men should do things old school.

  • I kind of agreed there.

  • A journalist, her take is you asked them, you go ahead and you pay out.

  • That makes sense.

  • There was a sex blogger.

  • Her take is to go 50-50 every time.

  • So if you're dating a sex blogger be aware they'll probably want to go 50-50 but that's

  • a pretty big generality.

  • A stand-up comic.

  • She's like hey don't forget who makes 20% more.

  • The guy pays.

  • She takes a little bit humor on that but yeah men in general make more.

  • I don't know if they'll stay up there forever but there you go.

  • The glamour girl, a.k.a. a model.

  • Her take is you've got to spend the money to impress the girl.

  • So if you want to date a model or you are dating a model, something to consider.

  • The academic.

  • Her take.

  • Don't try to buy a woman.

  • So if you're dating a very smart educated woman who has a master's degree in women

  • studies you probably want to go 50-50.

  • Alright, the athlete.

  • She wants to see a guy make the gesture.

  • She wanted to see a gentleman.

  • So that's' what the athlete is saying.

  • We got the showbiz reporter.

  • Her take.

  • Pay but for the right reasons and her thing was don't expect anything which I talked

  • about.

  • Next stop we've got the feminist pundit.

  • Her take is it should not matter.

  • Then we've got a porn star and she insists that men go all the way.

  • There you go guys.

  • Now it's your turn.

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