Name: Should Men Always Pay For The First Date? | Who Pays On 1st Dates The Man Or Woman?
Uploaded: 2019-07-27T00:02:50.000Z
Duration: 9 min 15 s
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[0:00:00] Should a man always pay on the first date?

It seems like a simple question but it doesn't have a simple answer.

Past simple

What they found 10% said yes, a man should always pay.

And then there were the 80% right in the middle.

They said, well it depends on the situation.

So, I want to give you three rules that you can use to determine whether or not you should

pay on the first date or go 50-50 in addition.

I did some information research one out there.

How they're kind of deciphering the signals that are sent when you offered to pay or when

Guys, I'll talk about all that and why it matters in today's video.

So as I was going through the research there are two things that really stood out to me.

One is that men over 80% of the time are still paying for the first date in full.

Now the reasons for doing it were interesting.

A lot of them they just want to be perceived and they wanted to come off as a gentleman.

They also felt it was something that men needed to do.

Some men actually felt guilty having a woman pay for any part of the date.

But what was more interesting to me was the fact that women used it, the vast majority

of the time, as a signal to indicate whether this guy is really interested in them.

She talked about if I never want to see this guy again and I want to get out of there,

If I like him but I never want to see him, he's a nice guy, 50-50.

But if I really like and I want to see him again then I will let him pay for that date

and then I will offer to pay for the next one.

Cause they start talking about how women in their 20s often times push to go 50-50.

But as women got a little bit older and they realized they've been dating quite a bit

more, they realized it's a waiting out factor to very quickly tell if a guy is really interested

or not will he pay for the entire date, so very interesting stuff there.

Rule #1: A man should always pay or try to pay for the first date.

They were like no, Antonio, you got to go 50-50.

By the research I saw the vast majority of women this is what they're looking for.

So there are definitely exceptions to this rule.

But for me I think the man should always be prepared to pay the first date.

Rule #2: If you ask for the date, you pay for the date.

It actually makes sense because some guys are being asked out by women.

But the vast majority of the time we're going to almost go back to rule #1 men are

But I like this rule because it gives you justification in the case that she's saying

You can simply say hey how about you grab dessert.

I love this rule because it goes to show that you have respect for the individual.

That you appreciate your time with them and that you want to show them that you are still

Now if you're not really interested in them and they want to pay 50-50, I guess you can

go ahead and split it to kind of maybe send off that signal that yeah we probably won't

But I love this rule because if you asked somebody out you should definitely be prepared

So you don't want this to ruin a date and you may be really interested in this person

and she may be at that 10% that she wants to go 50-50.

If you're really that much interested in her then you're going to have to understand

this is an area that you're going to have to compromise on.

You can go pay for the bill when she's not looking.

You can go ahead and say hey I really love spending time with you.

What she's looking for her is wit, is humor, is a higher level of intelligence.

Guys, it's an easy ways for you to go ahead and make sure to pay for that date.

But now let's answer some frequently asked questions.

If you're asking that question, we have a problem here.

You're entitled to a good time with the person you're with.

That doesn't mean that you're going to be able to get something after the date – a

You are not entitled to anything because you pay for the date.

I can't afford to take them to that super nice restaurant.

Well guys, think about and make sure you plan what this is going to cost and make sure you