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  • - Do you think there are benefits

  • of waiting to have sex until you're married?

  • - Can't think of one.

  • - How did everyone meet their husbands?

  • - I was 10 years old, and I've been married 58 years

  • and told my mother at 10 he was the one.

  • - And you were right.

  • - Uh-huh. - What made you,

  • what did you like about him when you were 10?

  • - Well, he was cute, and he was not nice.

  • He did not like me. - So how'd you get him?

  • - He was mean to me, I'm very persuasive.

  • And we both went to summer camp together.

  • And I was Blue Team captain,

  • and he was Blue Team captain of the guys,

  • and we were together, and it just happened from there.

  • - And so, how did you wrangle him into your sights,

  • if he wasn't interested?

  • How did you use your womanly, 10 year old ways?

  • - Well, it sure wasn't sex.

  • He lived in Pennsylvania, I lived in New Jersey,

  • but it just worked out.

  • - So 58 years later, you still like him?

  • - I love him. - You do?

  • - I sure do. - That's pretty nice.

  • - He's a pain in the butt a lot of times,

  • but most men are.

  • You know, he's good, good guy.

  • - What about you, Barb?

  • How did you meet Harry?

  • - Taking mamba lessons, 1950, I don't know, 55,

  • something like that.

  • - How old were you? - 14.

  • - Wow!

  • You were taking mamba lessons at 14 years old,

  • little spicy, and so, when you saw Harry,

  • how did you, did you like him immediately?

  • Did it take you a little while?

  • Tell me the story.

  • - It took me, I had my eye on another guy.

  • - You did? - But, he, Harry liked me.

  • And he was very persistent, you know?

  • And-- - So he wore you down?

  • - Yeah, but not, it didn't take that long.

  • A few months.

  • - And you were 14 when you met him,

  • and how old were you when you married him?

  • - 18. - Wow.

  • - Yeah, that's how we got be married so long.

  • - Wow.

  • - 'Cause I'm very young, you know.

  • - [Rose] How 'bout you, Lola?

  • How did you meet your husband,

  • and how old were you?

  • - I've been married 67 years,

  • but we did meet a year before that,

  • and I dated other guys, and he dated other women,

  • and finally, we got together.

  • Finally?

  • How old were you? - Finally, finally.

  • I was 17 when we got together.

  • - Yeah, finally, you guys got together.

  • 17, after all that time.

  • - And we lived in the same neighborhood.

  • Actually, probably a mile apart, but we had mutual friends.

  • And we had one particular friend that thought

  • that we were gonna be an item,

  • and she introduced us, and that's how it all started.

  • - And what did you think when you first met him?

  • What was the first thing you thought?

  • - God, he's good looking.

  • God, he's good looking, that's a--

  • - He was, he was really good looking,

  • and he was, my mother was so happy,

  • 'cause he was a nice Jewish boy.

  • And-- - Is this a Jewish Mahj group?

  • - It happens to be.

  • - And then I was 20 when we got married, and he was 21,

  • and it's been a beautiful marriage,

  • and we're very happy.

  • - [Rose] That's great.

  • - I'm gonna start crying. - Yeah, I was, too.

  • - And Grandma, you wanna tell us the story

  • of how you met Grandpa?

  • - Well, he picked me up on the beach,

  • and never let me wear that bathing suit again.

  • That was a winner.

  • - Tell us the story, Gram.

  • - 18, just came out to California,

  • to go to UCLA, I think I had been in town two days,

  • you know, and he walked over,

  • and asked me my phone number,

  • he didn't write it down, and I was so annoyed.

  • I thought, well why did he bother to ask?

  • That's so rude, you know?

  • So it was three months til I got a phone call.

  • - Ooh. - Which I always remember,

  • because if a guy doesn't call me

  • for two weeks, I'm like, forget it, he's trash.

  • I'm like, oh, wait, Grandpa took three months with Grandma.

  • - [Barb] If he didn't write it down,

  • did he remember the phone number?

  • - He memorized it. - Oh my gosh.

  • - By the next day, I would've forgotten it.

  • - [Barb] Me too.

  • - Well, you know, he was bright.

  • - And Grandma, how long did it take you

  • to take a shine to Grandpa?

  • - You know, I told my mom, I said, you know,

  • I think I'm gonna date him until I get a smile.

  • He was so serious, I couldn't coax a smile.

  • I said, I'll see, I'll get a smile,

  • and then I'm done.

  • But by then, it was too late.

  • - And tell me about you, Connie.

  • - I've been married 56 years the second time around.

  • - Impressive! - The first time was 10 years,

  • and I got married at 17.

  • - Oh, wow. - Which was too young.

  • - And how did you meet your second husband?

  • - We were in a group of friends, and he got divorced,

  • and I got divorced.

  • - And how'd you know you liked him?

  • - Oh, I knew right away.

  • - What was it?

  • Was it the eyes, the hair, what made you like him?

  • - Oh, I don't know, - You'll know.

  • - It was just everything.

  • - You'll know? - It was just everything.

  • - You'll know. - It was the whole package.

  • - The whole package, yeah.

  • - My kids ask the same thing.

  • They said, how did you know?

  • How did you know he was the one?

  • I knew nothing, nothing.

  • - None of us knew anything.

  • - At 18, what do you know?

  • You know nothing. - Oh, that's true.

  • - I said, blind luck.

  • I knew I wanted somebody that would be able

  • to support me, support a family,

  • send children to college.

  • - You know, it's interesting.

  • I never thought about that for some reason.

  • - Never thought about what?

  • - Never thought that, worried about him supporting me

  • or anything like that.

  • I fell in love with him and that was it.

  • - I felt the same way.

  • - I felt the same way.

  • I loved Eddie, and I didn't even know

  • what he was gonna be. - Well, sure,

  • you were 10 years old!

  • What the hell did you know?

  • - But you did know what he was gonna be.

  • In our cases, they were all gonna be something--

  • - Right! - Even if we didn't know

  • what they were gonna be,

  • and they were compatible.

  • - I spent a lot of time at my husband's house,

  • 'cause of different states,

  • and I could see how he treated his parents,

  • especially his mother.

  • If he treats his mother with respect and loving,

  • he's gonna be a good husband.

  • I'm not saying it's 100%, you know,

  • but the general, that's what I think,

  • and you know. - I think she's right.

  • I agree. - Yeah.

  • - Character of the person, even then was visible.

  • - Yeah, very. - What kind

  • of respectable person he was.

  • - I think they wait today to get married

  • because they're having sex anyways, so what's the rush?

  • - And they start much younger.

  • - [Lola] I'm telling you.

  • - Do you think there are benefits of waiting

  • to have sex until you're married?

  • - Can't think of one.

  • - I have-- - I don't know.

  • We were in a hurry to get married so we could have sex.

  • We didn't think about having it before.

  • Oh, we gotta play Mahjong.

  • - Okay, go play Mahjong.

  • This is great, good job.

  • - I gotta change seats. - Can we turn on the air?

  • - [Rose] Yeah, we'll turn on the air.

  • You guys can cut.

- Do you think there are benefits

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