Name: This Video Will Change The Way You Argue (Animated)
Uploaded: 2019-01-13T08:37:55.000Z
Duration: 6 min 15 s
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We believe that we are right. (light piano music)

And no matter how much you talk to each other,

it just seems like you're never going to come

I'm going to go over exactly how to have an argument,

the five critical things that you need to understand.

Let's say you have a girlfriend who is always late,

You may have brought it up subtly before,

or it would be nice if you would come on time.

But for some reason, she does not get the hint.

The first thing you want to do is clarify

So in this example, we could say something like this.

What I want is for my girlfriend to be reliable.

when she makes commitments that I depend on.

and heated conversation that does not lead to change.

it will allow you brain to be focused on that outcome.

which is common when you have a discussion with someone.

The next thing you need to do is ask yourself

with my girlfriend about being more dependable?

And avoid creating bad feelings and wasting

One of the best ways to avoid creating bad feelings

is to be sure to establish a safe talking environment,

had a really hard time with in my own life.

and sometimes, my intensity can be misinterpreted as anger.

that the other person does not feel attacked

you need to use something called contrasting statements.

that I'm trying to make you out to be a bad person

who does not care about my feelings or my time.

I know that you care about me and my time,

but it's important to me for you to be on time

you are communicating in a safe and friendly way

This whole late thing is kind of a mild issue,

and I bet a lot of you are probably thinking,

I don't even care that much to even bring this up.

Let's say that you are not happy with your sex life

The first thing you need to do is start with heart.

What do I really want out of this conversation?

What I want is for my girlfriend to understand

Or when I casually bring it up that I'm dissatisfied,

she needs to understand that it is important to me

How can I have a calm conversation with my girlfriend

or bad feelings towards me or the relationship.

If you want, you can pause the video right now,

how you would bring this up to your girlfriend.

you will quickly see how hard it really is.

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This Video Will Change The Way You Argue (Animated)

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