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How To Stop Being Shy And Quiet – 12 Tips To Overcome Shyness!
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Do you have a hard time meeting new people?
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Do you find yourself declining invitations?
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You could very well be shy.
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Shyness is when you spend too much time in your head, judging yourself, based on other people's standards and opinions.
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You are constantly trying to figure out how you should be acting and behaving in various situations.
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Fortunately, you can use the following strategies to learn how to overcome shyness and become more confident in life.
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Number 1 - Accept Yourself
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If you are always trying to fit in, you are doing nothing more than wearing yourself out.
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You need to understand that not everyone will like you, and this is ok.
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It's normal.
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Everyone experiences times of insecurity and self-consciousness.
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It's not just you.
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If you accept yourself and your qualities, things will be much easier for you.
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Number 2 - Become Self-Aware
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If you want to overcome shyness and social anxiety, you need to understand that people are not looking at you.
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Most of them are far too busy looking at themselves.
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When you are around people, seek within yourself.
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Observe your thoughts.
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By simply admitting your shyness, you can reduce your anxiety, which in turn will help you relax.
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Once you become self-aware, you will be on your way to improvement.
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Number 3 - Embrace Your Strengths
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In order to gain confidence and self esteem, find something you enjoy and know you are good at.
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Focusing on doing this very thing, whatever it is, could help you overcome your shyness.
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Think about how your unique strength gives you an advantage over other people.
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Knowing that you possess some unique quality will boost your self-confidence.
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It will help you accept yourself wholeheartedly.
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Number 4 - Take Care of Yourself
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Taking care of yourself can totally boost your confidence!
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Even just small things, like shower, flossing your teeth and keeping your nails trimmed can make a big difference in how you feel about yourself.
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When you add dressing well in addition to good hygiene, you will be surprised by how much better you feel about yourself!
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With this increased confidence, you'll no longer fear meeting new people and striking up conversations.
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Number 5 - Practice Talking
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This one is very important.
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If you don't start talking to people, you'll never stop being shy and awkward!
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Try to be a bit more talkative and practice talking more openly with friends, family and even complete strangers.
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Talk to people at bars, restaurants or wherever you are.
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Approach others and strike up a conversation.
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This will give you a chance to meet new people, and you'll be facing your fear of talking to others.
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Number 6 - Start Focusing on Others
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Shy people often feel that they have to come up with amazing topics to talk about.
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But this is not the case.
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Try to focus more on others.
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This will help take your mind away from your shyness.
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People always like talking to others who seem interested in them, so ask a lot of questions and be genuinely interested.
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Before you know it, you'll be so deep in conversation that you'll completely forget about your shyness.
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Number 7 - Take a Deep Breath
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When you're around new people, you feel the anxiety and it overwhelms you quickly.
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Next time, just excuse yourself and head over to the restroom or a quiet corner and then close your eyes and breathe.
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Concentrate on your breathing, and breathe in and out, slowly.
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Do this for a few minutes if possible.
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This exercise will help you relax.
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Number 8 - Relax Your Muscles When Anxious
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Relaxing your muscles is another great way to deal with anxious situations.
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You can do this by focusing on a specific part of your body.
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Then tighten those muscles for a few minutes, releasing slowly.
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Start from your toes and then move up gradually.
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At the same time, you can also practice deep breathing.
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Number 9 - Make Eye Contact As Much As Possible
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Making eye contact is one of the best confidence building activities you can do!
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Direct eye contact helps create a more emotional and meaningful connection.
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Have you ever noticed that when you are with a group, the person who is looked at the least is the one who talks the least?
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The more eye contact you make, the more interested you seem.
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It lets the other person know that you're interested in the conversation.
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This makes them feel comfortable.
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Number 10 - Focus on the Moment
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When you focus on the present moment, you take your attention away from your self-consciousness.
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The next time you are having a conversation with someone, focus on the words they are saying.
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Focus closely on what they're talking about.
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Focus on their tone and expressions.
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If you completely become absorbed by what the other person is talking about, you automatically shift your focus away from your shyness.
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Number 11 - Mimic Others' Interactions
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If you have a hard time interacting with someone and you feel yourself getting all tense, try to mimic them.
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I don't mean full out mimic every single thing they are doing, but you can mimic their posture and tone.
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This tends to naturally give off the vibe that you understand what they're saying and you enjoy the conversation.
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Number 12 - Start Saying Yes Instead of No
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Whenever you say no, you create a barrier.
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You're closing all the doors.
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When you say no, you're missing out on a chance to meet new people and explore new situations.
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Instead of always saying no to everything, give yourself a chance and start saying yes!
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This will allow you to be around people and socialize with others who share your interests.
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If you constantly put yourself around people, you will get used to it.
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And this will definitely help you stop being shy and quiet.
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By doing these self confidence tips every day, you can slowly overcome shyness and become more confident, until you can publicly display who you are, without fear of being judged.
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