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  • Brainy Dose Presents:

  • 10 Reasons To Ignore What Other People Think Of You

  • It is human nature to want to be liked and accepted by others.

  • We accept the status quo for what it is because everyone around us does.

  • We tip-toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others.

  • Eventually, our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other

  • people perceive us.

  • But the truth is, what others think about us can often adversely impact the choices

  • we make and the things that we do.

  • This desire to conform to the wishes of others can seriously conflict with our ability to

  • lead independent and rich lives.

  • In this video, we give you some pretty solid reasons to ignore what other people think

  • of you!

  • Number 1 - Your Life Is Your Business

  • How many times have you pondered over questions like:

  • How are these clothes going to make me look?

  • What will my colleagues think if I speak out?

  • Are those people talking shit behind my back?

  • If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me?

  • Look

  • People are entitled to think whatever they want.

  • Just as you are entitled to think what you want!

  • What people think of you cannot change who you are or what you are worth - unless you

  • allow them to.

  • This is your life to live.

  • At the end of the day, you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices.

  • Well, unless of course if you're married

  • That's a whole other topic!

  • Number 2 - They Don't Know What's Best For You

  • It's important to recognize that another person's opinion is often based on what

  • THEY would do.

  • This alone is the problem.

  • What is best for somebody else, may not be the best for you.

  • Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you.

  • So only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices.

  • The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions and taking

  • full responsibility for them.

  • This way, if you do fail, at least you can learn from it wholeheartedly, as opposed to

  • blaming somebody else.

  • Number 3 - People's Thoughts Change

  • We all have an internal story that influences how we treat other people and what we think

  • at any given moment.

  • But, our thoughts, ideas and views change on a regular basis!

  • This means, even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance

  • they will think differently in the near future.

  • So basically, people's thoughts don't mean shit!

  • And that's a pretty darn good reason to stop caring about what other people think!

  • Number 4 - You Will Be Much Happier

  • You'll find that when you start focusing on your own needs, you'll be spending more

  • time doing things that make YOU happy.

  • This self-awareness will make you a more rounded individual.

  • It will allow you to better manage your time and give you space to have fun.

  • As a result, you will actually improve the way that people perceive youand this

  • of course will make you even happier.

  • Number 5 - Your Relationships Will Improve

  • Try putting yourself first, in more situations.

  • This way, in relationships, you will have a much stronger base to explain what you will

  • and won't do.

  • The ability to set boundaries effectively will give you the ability to sayNO

  • - and mean it.

  • Instead of taking on every request, you'll only do the things that make you happy and

  • that will give you more energy and a better reputation for being reliable.

  • These things will make your relationships with other people much healthier in the long

  • run.

  • Number 6 - It's Good for Your Career

  • Think about this for a second

  • Who are the people who climb the management and leadership ladders at work?

  • It's usually those who are more self-serving.

  • When someone puts their own needs first, they are more likely to set goals and to strive

  • to meet those goals.

  • They're also less likely to be apologetic about their drive, and as a result, they are

  • much more likely to seek a promotion and ask for a raise.

  • While leaders and managers have to take care of the people around them, they also have

  • to take care of themselves.

  • And if you can't take care of yourselfit's unlikely you'll be very good at taking care

  • of others.

  • Number 7 - Others Don't Care As Much As You Think

  • We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us.

  • But the truth isthose people are thinking the exact same thing.

  • In fact, people generally don't think outside themselves a great deal of time.

  • The average person filters their world through their ego.

  • We simply think about most things in terms ofmeormy.”

  • This means that, unless 'who you are' or what you have done directly affects another

  • person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all.

  • Number 8 - You'll Never Please Everyone

  • You cannot please all of the people, all of the time.

  • It is impossible to live up to everyone's expectations, so there's really no point

  • in burning yourself out trying to do so.

  • It's better to be loved by a few people that you care about, than to be liked by everyone.

  • These people include, family, friends and your spousebasically, the people who love

  • you for who you are, and the people who will be there for you during your worst times.

  • Focus on these people, because they're the people that matter the most.

  • Number 9 - You Reap What You Sow

  • Worrying too much about what other people think can become a self-fulfilling prophecy,

  • because the way we think starts to become the way we behave.

  • And the behavior we use in an attempt to please others, can actually cause the opposing effect!

  • This means that if you're a push-over, then you're going to be attracting others in your

  • life who are also push-overs.

  • And vice versa

  • Being a people-pleaser is not going to stop you from being judged.

  • Most people don't like push-overs, but, at the same time, they don't like arrogant

  • assholes either.

  • In the end, it is you who faces the consequences of the things you do.

  • Both good and bad.

  • Number 10 - Life Is Simply Too Short

  • You only have one life to live, so why would you spend it worrying about other people's

  • opinions?

  • Do whatever you want, be whoever you want.

  • Live your life without worrying about other people's thoughts and opinions, and you

  • will live your life to the fullest.

  • Remember, you are allowed to make decisions that are in the interests of YOUR life - even

  • when others don't approve.

  • You really CAN make a conscious effort to stop giving a damn

  • And once you give up catering to other people's opinion and thoughts, you will find out who

  • you truly are.

  • The world is already full of people who obey the status quo.

  • But the people who don't give a crap are the ones that change the world.

  • Now it's up to you to choose which way you want to go!

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