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Anyone who has attempted to foray into the great wide world of dating knows that, when it comes to flirting, cheesy pickup lines just don't cut it.
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Attracting a partner can be tricky, and there are many pitfalls one can fall into.
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But when it comes down to it, flirting is just an evolutionary tactic to acquire a mate for reproduction.
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With this in mind, here's a list of 10 psychologically proven flirting strategies that actually work!
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Number 10: Eye Contact.
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Eye contact is key when it comes to demonstrating your attraction to another person.
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When we make eye contact with a prospective partner, we are actually searching for evidence of their attraction to us through the psychological response of pupil dilation.
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This is also why staring into one another's eyes can often feel so intimate.
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Therefore, one of the best ways to let someone know you're interested in them is to gaze into their big brown, blue or green eyes.
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Number 9: Wear red.
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Not only is red an eye catching color that flatters many different skin tones, red is also a symbol of lust and sexuality.
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With studies showing that, when both men and women wear red, they appear more attractive to the opposite sex.
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This may be due to social expectations.
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However, psychologist Adam Pasteur suggests that our attraction to red may be a hangover from humans evolutionary past.
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As animals, such as female baboons, display patches of bright red skin to indicate that they are ready to mate.
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Number Eight: Be funny!
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Humor is actually a huge factor in the search of a potential mate.
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University of New Mexico psychologist professor, Jeffrey Miller, suggests that being funny is one of key ways we decide how attractive a partner is.
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This is because, to be truly funny, someone must be able to think quickly and be creative, skills that are extremely necessary for survival.
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To be humorous is to be smart, so telling a joke could just result in you getting that date you wanted.
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Number Seven: play hard to get.
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Studies show that when we're unsure of how much someone likes us, we actually like them more than when we're told they like us a lot.
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This could be due to the fact that playing hard to get make someone seem more desirable and sometimes even out of our league.
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When someone seems too needy, we're likely to believe we can do better, so it may be better to act aloof.
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Number Six: are you a woman? Smile!
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Not only it does a smile exhibit a sense of humor and a caring nature, but it also displays good health.
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Research from the University of British Columbia suggests men find smiling women more attractive than prideful.
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Possibly because of its association with submission and maternal urges.
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Number Five: are you a man? Brood.
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The stereotype is true!
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In the same study from the University of British Columbia, researchers found that women rated smiling men as the least attractive, compared with prideful and shameful looking men.
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Therefore, acting like a "bad boy" may win you a mate, regardless of whether you're actually bad or not.
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Number Four: mirror body language.
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55% of attraction communication is made through body language, and one of the most subtle, yet most effective methods of flirting with someone is to mirror their actions.
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This is because we unconsciously copy those we're attracted to as a sign that we're interested in what they're saying.
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Mirroring someone demonstrates that we have good communication skills, but also that we're invested in their thoughts and feelings.
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This is also a way of knowing whether someone is interested in you.
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If they copy your mirroring, they may just reciprocate your feelings.
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Number Three: Be a smooth talker.
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Pitch and tone actually have a lot more to do with flirting than one may think.
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Research from MIT suggests that men are more attracted to women that vary their tone at which they speak.
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Women whose voices went up and down in frequency received more romantic interest from men than those who speak with a flatter tone.
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The same study also found that women were more attracted to men who interjected when they were speaking with phrases such as "I see", "Okay", and "Yup".
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This not only suggests dominance but also understanding.
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Number Two: Confidence is key.
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A study by Doctor Monica Moore of Webster University found that, when observing real-life person in bars and shoppings malls, it was not the most physically appealing people that were most often approached for flirtation.
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Instead, those who signal their confidence through basic flirting techniques, such as smiling, were more likely to attract others.
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And, Number One: Touch them.
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Most research has demonstrated that touching a person can increase their compliance to complete a wide variety of requests.
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And this may extend to the world of flirtation!
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Dr. Moore found that when a young male confederate in a nightclub asked young women to dance with him, his request was most likely to be followed if he touched a woman's forearm for one to two seconds.
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This could be because tactile contact is associated with dominance.
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Later, when the women were asked to complete a survey about their experience, a high score of dominance was associated with the tactile contact!
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And that's our list.
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Hopefully this can help you in the dating world.
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If you have your own tips for flirting, let us know in the comments below!
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