Name: 【TED】Sofia Jawed-Wessel: The lies we tell pregnant women (The lies we tell pregnant women | Sofia Jawed-Wessel)
Uploaded: 2017-11-17T07:11:05.000Z
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Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Joanna Pietrulewicz

We're going to share a lot of secrets today, you and I,

some of the shame many of us feel about sex.

How many here have ever been catcalled by a stranger?

is when that stranger was a student of mine.

and his words confirmed what I already knew:

If I had known it was you, I would never have said those things."

I wasn't a person to him until I was his professor.

and we see it reinforced through every aspect of our lives.

How many of you have seen an advertisement

that uses a woman's breast to sell an entirely unrelated product?

that portrays women as only love interests?

These examples might seem inconsequential and harmless,

slowly building into a culture that refuses to see women as people.

We see this in the school that sends home a 10-year-old girl

because her clothes were a distraction to boys trying to learn,

or the government that refuses to punish men for raping women

because she asked a man to stop grinding on her on the dance floor.

Media plays a large role in perpetuating the objectification of women.

Let's consider the classic romantic comedy.

We're typically introduced to two kinds of women in these movies,

This is the unbelievably gorgeous woman with the perfect body.

Our leading man has no trouble identifying her

and even less trouble having sex with her.

the beautiful but demure woman our leading man falls in love with

and therefore worthy of our leading man's future babies.

We're actually told that women have two roles,

but these two roles have a difficult time existing within the same woman.

On the rare occasion that I share with a new acquaintance

if they don't end the conversation right then,

"I'm really interested in studying the sexual behaviors

At this point I get a different kind of response.

Have you thought about studying sexual desire

Tell me. What are the first words that come to mind

I asked this question in a survey of over 500 adults,

and most responded with "belly" or "round"

we take away a lot of their intelligence,

to imagine a woman that they're partnered with is pregnant,

and then asked women to imagine that they are pregnant,

and then tell me the first words that come to mind

"Not worth the trouble." "Not worth the risk."

We might think that because we divorce pregnant women and moms from sexuality,

we are removing the constraints of sexual objectification.

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【TED】Sofia Jawed-Wessel: The lies we tell pregnant women (The lies we tell pregnant women | Sofia Jawed-Wessel)

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