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  • So a while ago my boyfriend and I went to a party

  • and his ex girlfriend happened to be there

  • so he turned to me and asked, "So do you want to meet her ?

  • and I very politely responded..

  • 'Why the fuck would I want to do that?'

  • okay...

  • Cause it was just so foreign to me.

  • I mean this isn't coming from a place of immaturity.

  • I hope.

  • But it's like why would I want to talk to someone that you've been inside of?

  • That is all I'll be able to think about.

  • Is it wrong that I don't want to put myself in that very awkward situation?

  • And as we started talking I realized..

  • "Wait, so are you like friends with all of your exes?"

  • "I mean yeah. Aren't you?"

  • "Ha. No. I am not friends with my ex. Any of them."

  • "At all."

  • "So what do you hate them or something?"

  • "I don't hate them. I just wish that once we broke up they would like cease to exist."

  • "y'know not that they'd die."

  • "Just that they'd never been born."

  • Okay maybe this is immature.

  • But if we breakup I don't want to see you anymore.

  • I don't want to know anything about you.

  • And maybe that's cause every break up I've ever had has been terrible.

  • I've never had a mature adult breakup where both parties are like..

  • "I really like you as a person I just, I don't think we're compatible."

  • "Oh. I agree. I think you're awesome but we don't have chemistry."

  • "I'd really like to still be friends"

  • "I'll need some time to move on."

  • "Of course. Me too."

  • "But, when I'm ready I hope we can have an awesome friendship."

  • Nope.

  • If those breakups are classical music.

  • Mine have been heavy metal.

  • RAAAAWR!!

  • You want to breakup with me!?

  • I've never remained friends with an ex.

  • Ever.

  • The fact that my boyfriend is friends with all of his ex-girlfriends...

  • It's kinda cool. Honestly.

  • It's kinda like wow what's that like? Y'know

  • I don't know it's like seeing a new colour or discovering a new species.

  • Like the very thought of having a friend who was formerly a romantic partner...

  • Is an entirely new concept to me

  • MY GOD!

  • It can't be done.

  • But, maybe I'm not friends with any of my exes

  • because I've never actually been friends with them first.

  • You know all of my relationships have kinda started out as romantic.

  • There was never really a solid foundation of friendship.

  • I've also never dated someone from my friend group.

  • Where it would make more sense to remain amicable after a breakup.

  • But, who knows?

  • I mean, are you friends with your exes?

  • Or are you immature like me and wish that they..

  • NEVER BEEN BORN.

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So a while ago my boyfriend and I went to a party

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