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  • Josh: You're just wasting time!

  • Marissa: And now you think I'm stupid

  • Josh:You know I don't think that Marissa!

  • You don't say it, but I know you're thinking it

  • Well of course Im thinking it right now! This whole thing is stupid!

  • SEE?!

  • "SEE" what?!

  • It is! Who cares if I want to leave early?!

  • Even you barely know her and you're getting mad at me?!

  • Yeah!! Cuz you think I'm annoying you!

  • Oh my god...this isn't even about us!

  • This is about your co-worker's lame potluck that you feel obligated to go to because she has no friends!

  • If we go, that counts! We don't have to stay the whole FOUR hours!!

  • But it IS about us! It's about you not understanding what's important to ME!

  • Eating homemade potato salad and playing with Scrabble Tournament is important to you?

  • Ugh...This is stupid...

  • Thats what I JUST SAID!

  • YOU'RE stupid....

  • You know what. I'm willing to let that one go. Can you just tell me if we can leave early or not please?

  • Josh...you tell me..

  • What?!(mouths)

  • Look..I'm sorry I brought it up. Can you just decide and I'll do whatever...

  • No Josh. Not this time.

  • I'm not going to tell you what to do, because you're just going to use it against me later saying

  • "I always do what you say"

  • No more.

  • Hey! This one wasn't my fault!

  • There's no reason for this!

  • You're right. There is no reason for this.

  • It wasn't always like this.

  • I can't really remember when it wasnt, but... I know for sure we weren't always like this.

  • She used to be...

  • my unicorn..

  • *Exhales sharply*You know?

  • Unbelievable...

  • Crazy special...the girl I thought could never exist...

  • but...as time went on...from one stage of our relationship to the next...

  • the path that started off so innocent and fun...has taken us to...

  • THAT...

  • but...like most, we started off as strangers...at Stage 1: Meeting....

  • Thanks to a shoelace actually.

  • 'scuse me!

  • 'scuse me, your shoelaces are untied.

  • Oh..Ohh! Thanks!

  • No prob! Would want you to...

  • Whoo!

  • I couldn't have planned it better even if I'd tried.

  • But thank goodness the city hadn't fixed their park trails in 5 years.

  • I didn't tell her that... it was my first time running in about 9 months.

  • and somehow, we ended up going for almost 5 miles that day.

  • *scoffs* It's so pathetic to see how guys would do just about anything for the right girl.

  • But it payed off...Because I got her number.

  • We really hit it off that day.

  • I think so at least. I blacked out for a few minutes, but when I woke up I remembered feeling like I had made a pretty good impression.

  • From that point on, we entered Stage 2: The Chase.

  • Some say its the best part. *"So Weightless" by David Choi*

  • All I wanted was to know more about her.

  • All I wanted to do was hang out with her.

  • Ready?

  • *Sigh* UGH...

  • The only person I wanted to talk to...was her

  • She was the number one priority.

  • *Cell phone rings*

  • What the hell man!

  • And every time I saw her...

  • Butterflies....

  • She was everything...that I thought could be perfect in a girl...

  • As soon as it felt right....

  • Would you be my girlfriend?

  • Yeah

  • With this simple word...we began our relationship...

  • Taking us into Stage 3: The Honeymoon.

  • Everyone calls it this...and for good reason.

  • It was the time when we could finally, fully express our affection to each other

  • and do all the things we wanted to do as a couple.

  • It was a dream come true.

  • The girl I wanted to be with so so badly , was finally mine.

  • But eventually, the fire cooled and both of us simmered down back to normalcy

  • By the end of it all, we had a bajillion pictures with each other...

  • knew every detail of our daily lives...

  • and like any normal healthy couple, we entered Stage 4: Comfortable.

  • What do you want to do tonight?

  • Iono...whatever...

  • Now, being comfortable isn't necessarily bad.

  • It's when we can truly be ourselves.

  • But it depends on what you do with that comfort.

  • Some use it positively, continuing to work at their relationship and grow together.

  • But...others allow it to create distance.

  • And for Marissa and I....

  • It made us take each other for granted...

  • *knocks on door

  • Hey!

  • What are you doing it's Tuesday. Why aren't you dressed?

  • Oh yeah I totally forgot...Can we skip it? I don't...I don't feel like going.

  • This whole thing was your idea.

  • I..I know. I just kinda have other things to do..Um, Next week yeah?

  • Alright.

  • *Cell phone rings*

  • You're not gonna get that?

  • *Cellphone continues to ring* I'll call her back after this level.

  • Hey watch out! *Cellphone continues to ring*

  • *Cellphone continues to ring* Josh: Whether its taking each other for granted...

  • or people changing over time...

  • Bottom line is...someone stops trying.

  • The feelings aren't as strong as before.

  • This could happen over a few months, or a few years.

  • For us...it was about one and a half years when we hit Stage 5: Tolerance.

  • *sigh* When Marissa and I got to this stage, I couldn't believe it...

  • and I was pretty disappointed.

  • Somehow, the girl I was so crazy about a year ago had turned into someone who just wasn't that special anymore.

  • It happened so gradually that I didn't even see it coming, but...

  • There we were...just tolerating each other.

  • Oh gosh, don't even ask about my day.

  • I won't.

  • Some of my co-workers are trying to get me to quit!

  • Where do you want to eat tonight?

  • Wherever you wanna go.

  • Can you just decide? I asked YOU.

  • And I'm being flexible. YOU pick.

  • Aw geez. You're like a 5-year old. Someone always has to tell you what to do!

  • *clattering utensils*

  • Normally I'd let that go...

  • but I'm having a bad day too so, Whadju just say?!

  • Arguing is one thing, but feeling dissatisfied and unhappy with your relationship is another.

  • *sigh* We tried various times to try to make changes, to fix things...

  • but like so many couples out there, it wasn't enough.

  • We became one of those relationships where it wasn't BAD, but it wasn't great.

  • and let me tell you. That's never a good way to describe a relationship.

  • Marissa: Well...I guess I'm gonna sleep now.

  • Ok.

  • Marissa: Good night.

  • 'night.

  • It wasn't long before we were in Stage 6: Downhill.

  • There's not much time left once you're here.

  • The effort to try to make things work just isn't worth it anymore.

  • Problems continue. Arguments don't get solved.

  • I don't even really remember what we argued about.

  • I can't talk to you right now you're-

  • Why won't you just-

  • I cant believe that-

  • Well how could you-

  • What DID we argue about?

  • Marissa and I...Sad to say, are nearing the end of this stage.

  • What's next is what happens to everyone at some point.

  • The end of the line.

  • The worst stage ever: Breaking up.

  • I don't know when it will happen or how..

  • but i hope we can leave it on good mutual terms.

  • If that's ever truly possible.

  • I think its for the best.

  • Fine.

  • And this is when the two of us will start a new path.

  • One that leads right back to where we started. Strangers.

  • The change will be so drastic and so blunt, that we'll probably want to get back together right away...

  • Just to restore what's normal.

  • Marissa: Hello?

  • Hey, Marissa.

  • I miss you.

  • Marissa: *sighs* Are you drunk?

  • But this doesn't always happen and the distance will grow.

  • Eventually the two of us will move on or find someone new.

  • Oh my god...

  • Donald...Donald! Don..Donald come-!

  • Donald!

  • [panicked] Who is that? Who is she with? Tell me who that is?!

  • *Exhales* Sorry man.

  • And even when we both get over the past, and try to remain friends, things will never be the same.

  • Josh?

  • Hey it is you!

  • Whoa Marissa!

  • Hi! Nice to see you!

  • Yeah you too. You still run around here?

  • Well when I visit home, yeah.