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  • What do you want for dinner tonight?

  • Spaghetti tacos.

  • Spaghetti tacos?

  • Uh huh.

  • Wyatt, do you want that?

  • Yeah!

  • Yeah?

  • I guess we're making spaghetti tacos tonight.

  • I consider myself a gentle parent.

  • And if you don't know what a gentle parent is,

  • let me school you a little bit.

  • The three key points of gentle parenting

  • are understanding, empathy, and respect.

  • Letting your child kind of have autonomy over themselves and their lives,

  • while still being a parent.

  • But something that I've seen circulating

  • in my little mom groups on Facebook

  • is that gentle parents shouldn't say no.

  • I don't practice that because I think

  • kids are gonna hear no in their lives

  • and so shielding them from that is silly.

  • So, I wanted to try something for a week.

  • I wanted to try saying yes to my kids for a week.

  • So I did it and I learned a lot.

  • So first I had to set some ground rules

  • because, if not, my house would probably have burnt down.

  • First, I did not let my kids know that I was doing this,

  • because if they had known,

  • that would have been just pure chaos.

  • So they had no idea that this was happening.

  • Second, there were some things that needed to still happen.

  • There are certain hygiene-oriented things

  • that need to happen, health-oriented things,

  • like you can't have cookies for every meal.

  • But beyond that, I let things go and I said yes.

  • And we had some interesting results.

  • It is Saturday morning.

  • It is 6:45 in the morning.

  • Both of my kids are awake.

  • Usually, I'd have them watch a little T.V.

  • so I could get a little extra sleep,

  • but they both are hungry, apparently starving to death.

  • And they wanna go to breakfast.

  • So I'm gonna get up and we're gonna go.

  • So we're gonna get Jackson's hair cut.

  • We're walking and he wanted to ride his scooter.

  • For sure, something I would say no to

  • because I know my kids.

  • I know that we'll get there, get his hair cut,

  • and then I'll end up lugging the scooter

  • and his younger brother all the way home.

  • But I said yes.

  • We got there fine and lo and behold,

  • he rode his scooter the whole way back, too.

  • And that was a pleasant surprise

  • and that was kind of my first realization of like,

  • "Oh, this might not be a bad thing."

  • So they both wanted chicken nuggets for dinner

  • and they asked if we could sit and watch Adventure Time

  • while we have dinner.

  • So the one thing that I was most nervous about

  • in this whole experiment of saying yes

  • was the food situation.

  • If you are a busy parent like me,

  • you know what it's like getting meals on the table.

  • It's really tough.

  • So I have this rotation of standard meals

  • that I know work.

  • And so, I don't deviate from it

  • because you got something good, you just keep doing it.

  • So when I started saying yes to them,

  • the orders got a little weird.

  • So I have some spaghetti.

  • I'm gonna attempt to put it in a hard taco shell

  • because I feel like a soft one with soft spaghetti

  • is gonna be, like, pretty weird.

  • Do you like it?

  • Yeah.

  • Jackson, are you happy?

  • Yes.

  • Wyatt, are you happy?

  • Yeah.

  • So I think this was the one thing

  • that my kids caught on to during the week,

  • that I was being a lot more flexible with.

  • What I learned from this whole week

  • of them choosing their foods

  • is that they're more likely to eat the entire plate

  • if they've chosen what they're gonna have.

  • This kid's on his third one.

  • Oh my gosh, look at you go, Jackson.

  • And ultimately, they'll get what they need nutrition wise,

  • just maybe in a really weird way.

  • So this week wasn't all rainbows and butterflies.

  • There were definitely some slip ups

  • and some things that I learned

  • that I definitely should continue to say no to.

  • The kids really wanted Starbucks for breakfast,

  • so I said yes.

  • And we have a lot of errands to run today,

  • so I wanted to just drive there

  • and drive straight from there to go do our stuff for the day.

  • But Jackson really, really wanted to walk

  • 'cause he says he wants to get exercise.

  • It's about 85 degrees out right now

  • and Wyatt is insisting on being held, so we're doing it.

  • Big mistake!

  • It's 85 degrees, Jackson's already tired of walking

  • and so he's melting down, Wyatt's melting down,

  • I'm melting down.

  • It was a disaster and we ended up just going home.

  • Never again.

  • There was one evening this week

  • that I really stepped out of my comfort zone.

  • So the boys wanted to have a picnic at the park

  • and play soccer for dinner today and it's a work night.

  • So I normally wouldn't do this but it's really nice out.

  • It's a beautiful day and they're having a blast

  • and we're having a good time.

  • Are you guys having a good time?

  • Yeah!

  • If you are a fellow working parent,

  • then you'll understand that at the end of the day,

  • it's just kind of like food, PJs, teeth, sleep.

  • But I said yes 'cause I had to.

  • And it ended up being one of the most beautiful nights of the week for us as a family.

  • You know, we packed the picnic,

  • they played with their soccer goal.

  • The kids asked me to play soccer with them

  • and I said yes because I had to.

  • And that's not something I typically do

  • because I've never been good at sports.

  • And they didn't care that I was bad

  • and they had a great time.

  • It was really eye opening to me to realize

  • that we can spend weeknights doing quality family stuff,

  • instead of just reserving it all for the weekends,

  • 'cause that's something I didn't think was possible before.

  • Soccer star!

  • This is the best day ever

  • The best day ever?

  • Is that what you said?

  • Best day ever.

  • [Dad] 'Til she scores on you.

  • So the culmination of this week of saying yes

  • was really this one thing that my kids ask me for constantly

  • and I knew it was coming, but I was kind of dreading it

  • because I didn't know how I would handle it.

  • This morning I was getting ready for work

  • and Jackson was like, "I wanna come."

  • I couldn't think of a reason why not.

  • Are you guys excited?

  • Yeah, yeah!

  • Wyatt, are you excited to go to BuzzFeed?

  • (cheering)

  • Wow.

  • And I was terrified because kids are so unpredictable.

  • I've seen my two-year-old being a sweet, perfect angel,

  • then I've seen him morph into a shrieking banshee in the middle of the grocery store.

  • It ended up being so much fun.

  • But it was really cool, first of all,

  • to have everyone I work with meet both of my kids

  • and I was just really proud

  • to have these two really well-behaved, sweet,

  • and polite, and respectful kids at work with me that day.

  • It made me realize that they just really wanna know

  • more about me and what I do and they wanna be around me.

  • And it just, it made me feel like

  • maybe I'm not doing such a terrible job.

  • I think part of it also had to do with

  • we have this like chocolate-covered raisin funnel

  • that you just like twist it and they keep coming out

  • and that might have been the whole reason why they were happy that day.

  • I don't know.

  • I'm just gonna say it's 'cause of me.

  • So, what did I learn from this whole week?

  • I learned, first of all, that I say no a lot of the time

  • out what I think is convenient.

  • But it ends up not being that much more difficult to say yes

  • and it ends up being a lot more rewarding.

  • I've learned that there's a better work life balance that I can achieve as a parent.

  • It doesn't have to be this like

  • Monday through Friday is work

  • and Saturday and Sunday is kids.

  • And that has been such an important realization for me

  • because that's something I struggle with every day

  • being a working parent and I'm sure

  • most of you working parents out there can relate.

  • And finally, I realized I have good kids.

  • And I know that we all think our kids are the greatest.

  • Like, obviously my kids are the greatest.

  • But just having this week to relax

  • and let them make the choices,

  • made me realize how genuinely great they are

  • and how sweet they are and how smart they are.

  • And I also learned how to make spaghetti tacos

  • and I also learned that I am never gonna make those again.

  • So that's all I got for today.

  • If you've tried this experiment or want to try it

  • or you want me to try anything else in the future,

  • 'cause I'm totally on a kick right now,

  • leave it in the comments or you can text me.

  • This is a real number.

  • I do read every single text.

  • I don't necessarily respond because I get a lot of them

  • but I love to know what you guys want me to talk about

  • or do in future episodes.

  • 'Til next time.

  • I'm gonna try to take a bite of this spaghetti taco.

  • The one difficulty I'm running into

  • is keeping the spaghetti in the taco.

  • (crunching)

  • Oh man, I'm messy and weird.

  • (upbeat music)

What do you want for dinner tonight?

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I Only Said “Yes” To My Kids For A Week

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    Jerry posted on 2017/12/08
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