Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles Hello Everybody! Firstly I want to say how very sorry I am that I have not uploaded in two weeks. I think that's the longest I've gone on this channel for a really long time without uploading. I do have a good reason for it.. I have been so busy. The reason I'm out of breath is I've just run to the top of the stairs.. ow, I've got a blister.. Always wear socks with trainers! And the reason I'm out of breath is because I've run up all the stairs and this room is like a sauna! So I'm a sweaty mess. I'm just gunna be a bit of a mess in this video I think. I've had the same make-up on all day.. I'm just not really sure what this looks like. But we're here! We're making a video! And yeah, as I said, really sorry I have been so busy it's actually unreal, and I didn't feel very well last week so, here I am! Up in my attic! Uh! Listen to the seagulls! Aww it's like being back in my old flat on the sea front, who remembers that? I've got my legs open, this is not a good look, it's a good job you can't see! I know you guys really like my more kinda chilled, chatty videos or Q&As, whether that's just me or with a friend.. umh.. and so I thought I would do one today! Do another little chatty Q&A. Have I got lipstick on my teeth? Nah. So the biggest portion of my viewership or audience on YouTube are people over the age of eighteen, but there are still a huge, huge amount of you who are under eighteen, and I always notice a lot of you have a lot of questions about what it was like for me being a teenager and how I dealt with certain situations growing up and I don't feel like I've ever done a video like this.. umh.. so, I asked you all on Twitter if you had any.. oh and on Instagram actually! I said on Instagram story, if you've got any questions then, come Tweet me. I feel like the first thing I should point out though is how different it must be, being a teenager to when I was a teenager, because funnily enough, as much as I hate to admit it, that was actually quite a long time ago for me, so I was seventeen, ten years ago, so my early teens was a wee while, I'll let you do the maths and I get asked the same question quite a lot which is, if you were a teenager now how would you find it, and honestly I don't know, I think you all deserve a medal because things like social media and Instagram, and likes and like this whole kind of popularity thing wasn't around when I was in school, we had MSN messenger and there was like AOL chat-rooms, and we could text if we had credit, and there is a huge part of me that is so thankful that things like MySpace, Beebo, and Facebook, only really happened, towards the end of my teens. Which was the first one we had? We had.. I feel like I had MySpace first, and then Beebo, and I must have been fifteen, sixteen And I feel like, no one really knew how to use it, and it was all very new, and it wasn't the same. Although I would say for any of you nineties kids out there who may have also use Beebo and MySpace, the only thing we ever really had arguments about, was in what order your friends were In your top 8 friends. *laughs* I used to hate doing that! I think I used to shuffle mine, or put them on random, because it was like That was, the only thing that caused rows in our friendship group Or did it? I don't know; maybe I just secretly got really sad if i wasn't like at least someones top 5 *laughs* The most interactions I ever had with people would be on MSN messenger and in those days, you only had your friends - that was it. and the only thing you really had to think about was which song lyrics you were gonna put in your MSM messenger like tagline what was it called? bio? tagline? I can't remember but hey! if we didnt have twitter you wouldnt have been able to ask me these questions so... theres that i guess! Julia did actually ask "How do you think being a teenager in present day differs from when you were a teen? and I guess I sort of answered that. There's more pressure now outside of your friendship group, which I didn't have back then. The only interaction with people who we were really friends with was actual face to face conversation, and then by the time we were sort of friends, that's when you'd get their MSN and that's when you'd get their number, but there wasn't that same kinda of image to portrait on social media I guess. I don't know, I would love to chat to like a room of teenagers to find out how they really feel about it. That would just be so great. Please let me know in the comments! Let's have like a discussion about this. How do you feel being a teen with things like Twitter, Facebook.. things like Ask.fm. Honestly.. just sounds like a nightmare to me! When I was at school someone created the like "Rate my teacher" or something and that was about as like savage as it got. "How do you control your hormones as a teenager?" and that is by Shannon. You can't! Is the answer to that. You can't, really. And actually when I think back to when I was a teenager. Tean-ager? Teen-ager... my hormones were quite extreme, but it's only as I look back at some of my behaviour.. I wasn't terrible, don't get me wrong, but my mood swings and I remember I used to have arguments with my mum and dad and I definitely struggled with the hormones. I wouldn't have ever admitted it at the time, but looking back I can see that I did. Being a teenager is such a.. weird time, because you've gone up to secondary school, you're sort of trying to figure out who you are, who your friends are, you're getting put with people who you might not necessarily have a lot in common with but feel you need to be friends with and you see these people every day five days a week.. like for a massive portion of your life. No wonder you're gonna struggle with it sometimes. So it's only natural again when hormones are included within that that you are gonna struggle sometimes and also you start to feel all the feels. You start to feel sad, you start to feel jealous, you start to feel bitter, you start to feel angry, you start to feel over emotional, you start to feel overly excited, overly happy. It's like all the feels, all the emotions and all the feels and I definitely had that. Emh.. but it made some of the best moments and the best memories and some that I'd look back on and be like, "wow, I was a beatch!" to my parents and my brother probably. You need to remember everyone else around you is also experiencing that and it kinda varies person by person and you know.. hormones affects people so differently, but essentially you're all on the same boat and it's happening to everyone, so don't feel weird or feel like you have to control them in any way. I think hormones are something that's very difficult to control but I do think trying to find a bit of kinda you-time and chill and have like a space that you like to be in and to be able to go and have a moment.. I think it's really important, so obviously like.. your bedroom, like maybe ligh a candle, put some fairylights on.. like it's about making yourself feel at ease if everything is getting a little too much. I feel like this video is gonna be really long cause I'm such a rambler. Faith Dorsen said "Pressured to smoke/vape?" I did not have a group of friends that ever pressured me into anything, actually. Umh.. but I have seen where other people have felt pressured to do it. And I guess I.. when I was a teen I did think.. See the thing is I never felt pressured by anyone else and my parents weren't very like.. strict in that sense, like they would never lecture me about don't drink, don't smoke and.. They sorta left me and my brother to make decisions ourselves, which I think was kind of clever, because neither of us are very wild. Uhm.. And.. I think the only pressure I ever had was myself. Like I had friends who smoked, who drank, I had.. I hung out with groups of people who were much, much older than me doing worst things at house parties. Some of those memories still haunt me to this day. Some of the things I saw in house parties just.. I don't think you should see it as like a fifteen or sixteen years old to be quite honest, but I never felt like I needed to do that. I didn't feel like I needed to.. smoke or drink or do drugs. I just.. I kind of.. watched everyone else do it and I was like, "that doesn't really look fun, I think he just looks stupid"! Like I just used to look at people and just be like, "you just look stupid"! I don't know, like.. it.. for me it was like.. it was actually quite like a.. turn off? I was just a bit like.. "ugh, no.. that's not for me!" Umh.. and the only sort of like pressure I had really was me at the back of my head thinking "but I am a teen, like.. should I be trying these things? Like.. shoud I be.." It was almost like it was me pressurizing myself? It was weird! It was like.. well I guess everyone should try something once in their life! Turns out.. you don't really have to because I can see what everyone else is doing and I really don't feel like I was missing out and luckly I wasn't within a group of friends where I felt pressured. Umh.. but I know I would've stood my ground and just said "no, I'm okay, thanks" and I do think if you ever feel that pressured within a group of friends you have to put your foot down because you'll never look back on that memory of trying something for the first time and feel confortable about it because you'll never be too sure if you really wanted to or not and I'm just not sure that that's a nice way to ever do anything. I think everything you do and everything you experience should ultimately be down to you because it's your life. If anyone is making you feel pressured to have sex, to smoke, to drink, to do anything you are not hundred percent confortable with say no and if they are your friends they will understand that and if they don't understand that they are not your friends. "Did you ever question your body or feel insicure about your figure? How did you overcome it?" Yes! I feel like I've touched on this a little bit in my Question I've Never Answered. I went through a stage where I had grown in height and I was super skinny and all my friends were getting like hips and boobs and a bum and I was still a bit like.. ugh, when's mine coming? And then they happened and they happened very quickly so my boob.. it's like I almost woke up one day and my boobs were there and my bum was there. So now I've got like stretchmarks , umh.. and for a while I didn't like it because it almost made me look skinnier? Because it was like.. ugh, these boobs don't like.. go with my body and like.. I don't look like my friends. Why can't I put weight on and I struggled with the fact that I just felt like I looked so skinny, umh.. and I was quite self conscious at like PE and I hated putting shorts on but what's so interesting is people assume you can't feel insicure about your body when you're skinnier.