Name: 【TEDx】Ending the pursuit of perfection | Iskra Lawrence | TEDxUniversityofNevada
Uploaded: 2017-09-11T06:45:10.000Z
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We nearly did, because I just had hiccups and they were quite violent,

so luckily we're all good now, so I can start.

We do have a problem though, and that is,

the most important relationship we have in our lives

is the one we have with ourselves and we are not taught about it.

if we were taught how to look after ourselves using self-care,

could we help enrich our lives, make us happier,

combat our insecurities and enable us to reach our full potential?

For example, have you ever blamed your body?

It's because I put on ten pounds last week.

body image is often associated with teenage girls.

But in fact, men and boys are affected too.

Eating disorders and mental health can affect anyone

And that's why this is so important to me

and why we are here today connecting with you all.

So many guys now are going to the gym and they're even abusing steroids,

because maybe their selfies would get more likes

I know that when I was younger, I would look in that mirror

"Why does it look like this thigh ate the other one?"

of self-loathing,  calorie obsession, and jealousy.

So I decided to use those experiences that I've had,

to gain a better understanding of the relationship I have

And by practicing self-care, I was able to change my life.

I hope, today, I can encourage you all, If you haven't already started,

We have so many pressures, and now we have social media.

With the rise of social media, we literary have

a weapon of mass destruction to our self-esteem 24/7.

Have you ever lost one, two, maybe even three hours of your life,

Thinking, "Oh, wow, look, they're so in love."

"Oh, they're going to all these amazing holidays!"

"They have the dream job! They have this perfect life!"

Social media is a curated, filtered, often airbrushed,

That's why we need to be taught about it.

That is why we need to be taught how to cope

And it's become my mission, to teach self-care

Because we need to be taught how to look after ourselves

I'm very grateful; I have over three million followers online

and I commit to being authentic, honest with them,

and not retouching my pictures that I own, because I have to forgive myself.

that my family couldn't even recognize me when they flipped through the magazine.

I would look at these pictures and think,

"Oh, wow! Where did half of my arms go? My legs are so much skinnier!"

"Wow! Well, I can't even look like that and that's me!"

So, why is it that we feel these insecurities in the first place?

Because from a very young age, we've been conditioned to believe

that our success and our happiness is highly dependent on our attractiveness.

Think about all the prince and princesses you saw:

slim, toned, tall, proportional features.

The magazines - and celebrating severe weight loss that's actually unhealthy.

Or those who have been nipped and tucked to look 20 years younger.

Because if we are insecure, we are a motivated consumer.

We can be sold an anti-wrinkle cream by a 13 year old,

a push-up bra that looks absolutely ridiculous,

because I've been on set years ago, where they were actually wearing a bra

under the bra to give unattainable cleavage.

The butt-pads are in all those jean adverts you see, just saying.

by the National Eating Disorders Association of the US,

whom I'm an ambassador for, and something called "The Body Project."

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【TEDx】Ending the pursuit of perfection | Iskra Lawrence | TEDxUniversityofNevada

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