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  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTVthe place to be to create a business

  • and life you love.

  • And I have to say, today you are in for such a treat because my guest is truly a creative

  • genius.

  •   Sarah Jones is a Tony and Obie award winning

  • playwright and performer, best known for her multi character, one-woman shows.

  • Called a “master of the genreby the New York Times, Sarah’s work is celebrated

  • for its humanitarian approach to character and story through the lens of multiculturalism.

  •   The daughter of two physicians and the product

  • of a multiracial, multi-ethnic family and community, she was interested from an early

  • age in both the welfare and cultural backgrounds of her diverse relatives, neighbors, and friends.

  • She’s a regular guest on public radio and has appeared on Charlie Rose, the Today Show,

  • CBS Sunday Morning, and Sesame Street, as well as in her own special, the Sarah Jones

  • Show on Bravo.

  • Her three multi-character TED talks have received millions of views and she’s currently developing

  • new multimedia projects based on her characters.

  •   Sarah, I’m so excited to have you here!

  •   Yay!

  •   I can’t take it.

  • I know we were just talking off camera, this is like the most exciting thing.

  • I’ve admired you for so long.

  • I told everyone like you are about to witness a creative genius and I am just thrilled that

  • you took the time to be here with us today.

  •   I’m so happy to be here, and the feeling

  • is mutual.

  • The admiration is mutually long.

  • It’s good.

  • I’m so happy to be here.

  •   So let’s take it back to the cornerstone

  • of your work, which is really –  a piece of it is about being culturally inquisitive.

  • And through your wide array of characters you morph across gender and age and ethnic

  • barriers.

  • Can you share how this all began?

  •   Well, it’s funny.

  • I sort of had no choice in the matter.

  • I was born to a multicultural family.

  • And, you know, on my father’s side theyre African American, a mix of people from the

  • south, there’s some Caribbean roots back there.

  • And then on my mom’s side, my grandmother is Irish American and German American.

  • And we have both Christians and Jews on that side of the family.

  • Yes, we like to say it’s a long story filled with intrigue and interfaith guilt.

  •   And then we had more relatives from the Caribbean

  • from my grandfather.

  • So it’s just this sort ofmy Thanksgiving table growing up looked like, you know, the

  • delegates dining room at the United Nations.

  • It was justin fact, I brought one of the inspiration for my characters is, you

  • know, theyre loosely based on people I really know.

  • But I do change the names to protect the innocent and especially the guilty.

  • But so, you know, picture little me.

  •   And here I would be.

  • Hi, sweetheart.

  • Marie, wonderful to meet you and your friends.

  • Hi, there.

  • And Sarah puts me in her shows, what she calls her one-woman shows.

  • And you know what that means.

  • That means she takes the credit and makes us come out and do all the work.

  • I know you wouldn’t approve of that.

  •   Anyway, so I know you know these relatives

  • of mine, I was sort of marinating in this stew pot of different cultures.

  • And for me it was very normal to identify with somebody who didn't look anything like

  • me.

  • You know, it could be my aunts, my uncles, my cousins, West Indian relatives who talk

  • like this and they're all literally sitting around the same table.

  • So one is saying, “Can you pass the Gefilte?

  • You know, what’s wrong with Thanksgiving Gefilte fish?

  • People are looking at me.”

  •   And the other one, “I don't have a problem

  • with white people in principle, but your food, it is so bland.

  • Youre killing me right now.

  • Youre actually attacking my mouth with this food.”

  • So, you know, it was like this … I don't know.

  • I just was born into like a dialect, you know, palooza.

  • And, again, because for me the family members getting along sort of ran counter to the story

  • I was seeing outside my home.

  • On the news it was race riots and, you know, these people don't get along with these people

  • and they're others and were different.

  • And my experience was the opposite.

  • I mean, we were literally all, you know, had the same blood.

  • So I think I wanted to bridge that gap for myself.

  •   Did you always know that youlike, did

  • you perform as a kid?

  •   You know, I really didn't in a formal way.

  • And I was actually a shy kid.

  • I had a pretty – I’ll call my childhood colorful.

  • It’s a little double meaning there.

  • Bad joke.

  • You know, we had the multi-culti colorful thing on the one side but it was alsoboth

  • my parents were doctors.

  • They were very young when they met.

  • And so it was sort of like being raised by two kids, like kids in lab coats.

  • And we had babysitters, but I had this experience of feeling like I had to be an adult too.

  • Like they weren't home a lot and so I think the characters became sort of like my babysitters.

  • They were a way for me to entertain my sisters at the time.

  •   And I was actually just talking about this

  • with Lily Tomlin, who we both love.

  • She’s a hero of mine and she’s on my new podcast, which well get to talk about later.

  • But we both came by our character performance very similarly, as little kids watching the

  • people around us and wanting to have a place to entertain ourselves.

  • And the characters kind of made me feel safe.

  •   Did you always have such an ability and a

  • skill around the voices?

  • I mean, when I watch you it is miraculous what youre able to do.

  •   Thank you for that question.

  • I feel like with anyone, you know, youve practiced your craft, the ways that youre

  • able to think about, you know, kind of life and business and, you know, connect dots.

  • For me I guess my brain was firing on the sound of my relatives all my life, so my ear

  • was being trained.

  • I’ve heard that it’s akin to music.

  • So it’s sort of like if you grew up in a musical family and youre always hearing

  • a tune and you know how to carry one in perfect pitch.

  • But for me it was always being able to hear the melodies of these different voices, always

  • having the awareness that no matter what the outside world said, we did belong together.

  •   Because I got a lot of, you know, this was

  • before Obama.

  • This was a time of, you know, people seeing me and my mom and they would assume who is

  • this weird white lady with this little black kid?

  • Is she adopted?

  • What’s going on?

  • So my mom jokes that we should write a book calledWere Together.”

  • Like, because people would always say, “Are you together?

  • Are you together?

  • Are you together?”

  • Like they couldn’t put us together.

  • And so I think growing up with that desire to connect, that’s what really fueled the

  • trainingthe unwitting training.

  • It was like I was unwittingly sitting in, you know, hours and hours of repetition of

  • hearing other people’s accents, hearing their stories, and the cultural specificity.

  • And for me, I was just soaking in it and, you know, kind of on record all the time without

  • realizing it.

  •   Yeah.

  • And so what was the first time for you that you did like a public performance withand

  • how many characters happened to…?

  •   There were just a few.

  • We may not have space on the couches between you and me.

  • Were gonna be like a 50 person panel with two chairs.

  •   I love it.

  •   It’s gonna be fine.

  • But I would say the very first one I did in public, like I was doing the thing where I

  • would tell my sisters stories at night and I would be English, I’d play the witch and,

  • What do you think my pretty?

  • I’ll tell you.”

  • And they were like, “Wow.

  • This is really intense.

  • Were just trying to go to bed.”

  • You know.

  •   But then later on in terms of actual public

  • performance, the first time I kind of branched out I was doing something that felt safe.

  • I was doing like a spoken word hip-hop.

  • You know, you talk like this at the mic so that your words have a certain rhythm.

  • You know, like that type of thing.

  • And that was popular in the 90’s.

  •   And then I realized I had these other voices

  • that really wanted to come forth.

  • And I was I afraid.

  • I thought I would look crazy.

  • Again, you know, race stuff is tricky and people would be like, “Why are you talking

  • like a white girl or what’s wrong with you?

  • Youre not Latina.

  • Are you Latina?”

  • And I was like, “Well I’m everything.”

  •   And so I decided to let it be okay to take

  • the risk and experiment with these characters.

  • And the first one I did was a woman who was homeless.

  • Actually, I had seen her, I was going back and forth on the subway, I saw this woman,

  • and I thought, “what would I hear if she could actually share something about herself

  • instead of being this, you know, ignoredthisthingon the side that nobody was paying

  • attention to?”

  • And so I remember kind of watching her and studying her.

  •    

  • And I was doing a performance one night and this, I said, “I’m gonna do this.

  • I’m just gonna see what happens.”

  • She didn't have no teeth on the top and her face all messed up.

  • And the vain part of me, I said, “what if you wanna date somebody who is in this audience?

  • You never gonna get a date again looking like this.”

  • But that’s when I realized if I want to embody these people I have to forget myself

  • and try to give them some space.

  • And that means I might not look pretty for a minute, but I wanted to just imagine what

  • would it look like if she had some time to share who she is?

  •   So that’s what I did.

  • And I imagined she would probably yell at people and say, you know, “you ignore me

  • and I belong here too.”

  • And that’s – I started building this character who gets the ear of a well heeled theater

  • audience who would normally walk past her, you know, as though she’s just a piece of

  • debris on the sidewalk.

  • What would she say to them if she could?

  •   And so that character, and then did you start

  • to just likewas it this creative process of almost seeing someone either out in real

  • life or almost hearing them from within?

  • Or a combination.

  •   Both.

  • You know, Marie, and I think when I talk to people about the process, I love being able

  • to feel that they get it.

  • Even if you don't do this yourself, like were all creative.

  • Right?

  • Everybody watching, you, me, were all born with this innate creativity.

  • And in my case it does happen to come out in the form of feeling into people’s energy.

  •   I remember my sister was dating a guywere

  • from Queens.

  • So, you know.

  • And when I dosometimes I’m English.

  • You know, like there’s a character in my – I have a show calledSell By Date

  • and this character is the lead.

  • I’m the star.

  • Even though as an English person youre not really meant to admit that youre the

  • center of attention.

  • Youre supposed to shrink.

  • But I am the star.

  •   But the thought about that is that, you know,

  • English people, wherever were from, whatever our background, I joke that, you know, I do

  • speak the Queen’s English because I’m from Queens, New York.

  • But we had – I had relatives who talk like this.

  • You know, and like you had to have your nails done, you had your hairbig hair meant

  • something not this, but like something else.

  • And, anyway.

  • And so, you know, Sa.

  • They would call me Sa.

  • Sa, what are you doing?

  • What’s happening?”

  • And my sister was dating this guy who was an electrician who is, you know, kind of a

  • Queens guy, gotta spread my legs out like this.

  • And eventually I start, you know, I would just cobble together like these different

  • guys, these different people.

  •   Sounds like somebody I dated, actually.

  •   You know what?

  • I wasn’t there.

  • So but these guys, you know, it’s easy to stereotype them or to think you know who they

  • are, but I thought these are really multidimensional people and theyre not always the ones who

  • are the stars of our films or who we focus on in the culture.

  • And so I liked the idea of bringing the marginalized voices more to the center and not just as

  • caricatures.

  • We all knowhey, hey, that guy.

  • Yeah, my cousin Vinny.”

  • Nothing wrong with that movie, but the point is, you know, this guy my sister was dating,

  • he was a fully fleshed out human being with thoughts and dreams.

  • And I just thought, especially for me as an obviouslyblack from a distanceappearing

  • woman, what could be more of an interesting exploration than to take his life and see

  • if I could step into his shoes and, you know, maybe paint a more complex portrait of him?

  •   Did you ever in your own experience thinking

  • like, “what am I going to be when I grow up?”

  • Let’s say in that period in our early 20’s when we're all trying to figure out who we

  • are and like how were going to take care of ourselves and where are we going to live?

  • Did you ever struggle inside going like, “Oh, my goodness.

  • I have these incredible gifts.

  • Theyre amazing.

  • I don't really fully understand like how the hell am I gonna make a living doing this?”

  •   Well, I think more than that, I didn't trust

  • them yet.

  • So I sort of skipped around.

  • But, you know, my parents sent me to the UN school, so on top of that multicultural family

  • environment I had teachers from everywhere.

  • And I was joking recently, but when you have a math teacher who is from Delhi you might

  • be a geometry genius, but you might never figure it out because you can’t understand

  • the accident of the teacher.

  •   But the reality was I had been, like I said,

  • sort of soaking up all of this energy in all these different cultures.

  • I felt an affinity for everybody from everywhere, but I didn't know what to do with that.

  • What do you do with that?

  • And so I thought I was going to be a lawyer.

  • I thought like international policy.

  • I was always interested in social justice and, you know, women’s rights.

  • I was a feminist early, all that, but I definitely didn't think – I thought it wasmy silly

  • voices.”

  • You know what I mean?

  • And my friends were like, “Hey, leave the outgoing thing on my answering machine.

  • Be the Chinese lady.”

  •   “Marie is not available.

  • If you want to call her back you can do that another time.

  • But if not, you can leave your message and tell her Pauline Ling send you.”

  • Whatever.

  • And so it was like taking my friendsparents, you know, and like sayingcan I sit with

  • you and talk with you?”

  • And like absorbing their accent and practicing.

  • But I didn't see this as a career path until I really started to follow thatyou hear

  • ... I think it’s Joseph Campbell, follow your bliss or whatever those expressions are

  • for hearing that still, small voice that says “I know youre thinking about the LSAT

  • but that makes you feel like you just want to get in bed and put the covers over your

  • head.

  • It’s not really your passion.

  • You don't really want to do it.”

  •   And what actually sparks that sense of excitement

  • in you when you think about doing it?

  • And whenever I went and saw other people perform I would think, “That’s awesome.”

  • And I would also think, “I think I can do that.”

  • So I was afraid, but eventually I started performing at these open mics that I was talking

  • about.

  • And hip hop was really popular and there was this sort of hybrid poetry hip hop thing that

  • I was doing.

  • And, in fact, I ended up getting some national attention and the career kind of found me.

  • I don't know if I so much made the choice as I just kept following that guidance.

  •   That’s incredible.

  • I love it.

  • So let’s talk a little bit more about the creative process itself.

  • Like if youre sitting there, and especially now if we kind of fast forward a bit.

  • Do your next projects, like do you literally sit and look at a blank page, screen, or is

  • it something else?

  • Like I know for me, you know, in the beginning, very much like you, it was following that

  • still, small voice.

  •   But as I’ve gotten older and as weve

  • built a team and things have come to life, then there’s like all these different parts

  • of your brain and you have to deal with like well, the logic and what is the wise thing

  • to do next?

  • So coming to your creative process in perhaps more recent years, do you still follow those

  • intuitive hits where there’s like youve heard a story or youve met someone?

  • Or is it like I know I want to talk about this subject because it’s fired you up,

  • it’s pissed you off, it’s got you inspired?

  •   That’s definitely happened withlike

  • the first play I wrote was calledBridge and Tunneland it was about, like I’ve

  • been saying here, people from all walks of life.

  • Immigrants.

  • And in a way the point of the play is were all immigrants.

  • I mean, unless youre a Native American, somebody came over here on some kind of vessel

  • from some other country.

  • And I really wanted that message to hit home, so ...

  •   And also my goal is not to start from the

  • place of a message and come hit you over the head for an hour and a half.

  • My goal is for you to have fun and recognize people you know and feel connected.

  • And then realize at the end, “Huh, my last name is Scharfenberger.

  • I never thought about it.

  • I’m American, but I’m also an immigrant.

  • Maybe 10th generation, but I’m still an immigrant.”

  •   So that’s my goal is to create work that

  • is fun and, you know, interesting.

  • But I do find that there are things that piss me off.

  • And my newest show, “Sell By Date,” is about women.

  • It’s about women’s empowerment.

  • It’s about sex and sexuality and how we commodify sex.

  • Is itsex workand a culture that’s kind of we sort of want more empower ... as

  • women I think we're reaching for more empowerment than ever.

  • And a lot of times it’s confusing because that empowerment can look like Miley Cyrus

  • twerking on a pole and were kinda like, wait a minute.

  • Which one’s the empowering thing?

  • Are both empowering?

  • So I really wanted to explore all of those questions, and that motivated me.

  •   I love that and I love that conversation particularly

  • because I’ve had that conversation in my own mind.

  • Weve had it on the set.

  • I had it with friends.

  •   I had it this morning getting dressed.

  •   Did you?

  •   How tight are my jeans and why?

  • For whom?

  • What’s going on?

  • I really want to kind of as women, we get to explore all of this now.

  • Yeah.

  •   Yeah, that’s reallythat’s incredible.

  • Do you have like a way to capture your ideas?

  • Because I would imagine that at times they can come fast and furious.

  • And youre like, “Okay, little baby.

  • We need to put you over here right now.”

  •   Oh, my God.

  •  I definitely need a naughty step.

  • But I will say, so I brought along a couple of friends.

  • Like, my name is Bella and I just wanted to say hi to you, Marie.

  • I’m like super stoked to be here right now.

  •   Hi, Bella.

  •   Hi.

  • So like what you do is like so amazing because you speak to like a range of women.

  • Like women my age and like women who are like older, just like helping them, I don't know,

  • like feel more empowered and likeand men too, and like trans people.

  • We have to be woke and like super intersectional about everything.

  • But like Sarah Jones, I think her whole goal is let the character speak.

  • So I’ll have my phone, which I must really love you because I don't have my phone in

  • my hand at this moment.

  • That’s obviously like a sign.

  •   It’s huge.

  •   Yeah, believe me.

  • But I will just like talk into her like voice memos on her iPhone, and so that’s how shell

  • write a whole likeif we go have to go perform somewhere.

  •  I gotta go do this thing like at the UN, which is like amazing.

  • Yeah.

  • And like Sarah Jones became a Goodwill Ambassador, but like I get to go talk.

  • And I was like oh, I just, you know, you imagine like I’m at the UN.

  • What would you say?

  • Hi delegate I can’t pronounce that.

  • But I respect you.

  • No, I didn’t actually do that.

  •   But yeah, that’s what we do.

  • We like work out scenarios.

  • Like I show up and then Sarah Jones just let’s me like record myself.

  • So I let them write, which is probablythey should probably be on my taxes.

  • I don't know.

  • I should talk to you about that.

  •   We should.

  • I was just thinking like, oh wait.

  • Maybe we can get a lot of Social Security.

  • You know what I mean?

  • We can build up a whole 401K.

  • We can have a whole corporation.

  • I love this.

  • Were gonna plan it.

  •   No, that’s awesome.

  • I know a lot of people ask that question a lot.

  • Theyre like, “Oh, my God,” when theyre creative.

  • Theyre like, “I have so many ideas and how do I not pursue them all at the same time?”

  • I love that you just use whatever's around you, the characters come speak, and they

  • They prioritize themselves.

  • I think there's a lot of life that for me is self-organizing.

  • And I resisted that for years because I was like, “I have to do this.”

  • I would give myself my own to do list, my own priority list.

  • But really my instinct, whatever you want to call that, your higher self, I think we

  • all have that voice, that still small voice, or just the voice that’s kind of your GPS,

  • you know, like your greater positioning system that’s helping you find, “okay.

  • Somebody is pulling me in this direction, but actually I can really feel what I want

  • to do is over here.”

  •   And even if it’s not like the sexy choice

  • all the time or the one that’s gonna make me look good, I find that the more I am worried

  • about my self image and not focusing on my true self, I get lost.

  • And a lot of the decision that I’ve made in my career where like, “Ooh.

  • I’m gonna stay at the Chateau Marmont.”

  • That’s not a good enough reason to sell a TV pilot that you don't really believe in.

  • So I’ve had to learn those lessons the hard way.

  • But I would say in some ways it’s all worth it.

  •   100%.

  • And people, I get this question a lot, theyre likewhy are you not pitching a show on

  • network?

  • Or why are you not doing this?”

  • And similarly my intuition has guided my entire life, still does to this day.

  • And if you ... it’s so magical.

  • Itll often lead you in places that you wouldn't expect.

  •   So true.

  •   Everyone else is just like, “Are you crazy?

  • Why are you doing?”

  • And I’m like, “I have to do it.

  • I have to follow it.”

  •   Yes.

  •   So youve said this and it’s so beautiful

  • I need to read it word for word: “Laughter is a deceptively powerful tool.

  • If you can make people laugh, really laugh, then you have done something.

  • Because when that mouth is open and laughing, an open mind can’t be far behind.”

  •   Thank you for lifting that out to me.

  •   It is gorgeous and I would only imagine that

  • the letters and the response that you receive to your work, because it’s true.

  • When were laughing and were looking at some of these tricky subjects.

  • When were looking at race, when were looking at sexism, when were looking at

  • the injustices that surround us, to be able to have people laugh about it.

  • Anything you want to share on that?

  •   Yeah.

  • I think our humanity is dependent on havinglike the survival of our species is going

  • to depend on how much of a sense of humor and connectivity we have around that humor.

  • When I laugh – I love comedians.

  • I’m actually sort of announcing this on your show, but I’m starting to veer towards

  • just experimenting some more with stand up comedy.

  • Because what I love to do with my characters is very improv based.

  • I love connecting with an audience.

  • And I think, you know, you don't have to be the same background as that comedian to really

  • find the humor in what theyre saying, to see what’s absurd, to identify.

  • And when we do that, it’s a lot easier to hate people, to think that theyre other

  • and that you should fear them and that theyre a threat to you.

  •   When you remember, “wait a minute, were

  • laughing about the same things,” you know, it’s a real truth serum.

  • I think kind of comedy brings people to a truer, deeper place in themselves, again,

  • in a surprising way.

  • You would think it’s just, “Two drink minimum.

  • What’s the big deal?”

  • But if youre sitting there and somebody gets you to feel into like, “Oh, wow.

  • I am that insecure.

  • I do pretend that there’s nothing wrong with me.

  • But really I’m in the mirror like, “oh my God.

  • Are we okay?

  • I have enough.

  • I have enough.

  • I do enough.”

  •   You know, like you need to get at those truths

  • that we all kind of hide.

  • Everybody’s on Instagram.

  • Everybody’s photo-tuning and curating their life so it looks perfect, but I think comedy

  • and laughing at ourselves is the quickest route to avoiding the kind of insecurity that

  • frankly I think is running Washington right now.

  • Right?

  •   Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

  •   Ain’t nobody got a sense of humor up in

  • there.

  •   No.

  • Not a lot of them.

  •   Not funny.

  •   And I just want to say, I’m telling you

  • right now, consider my full support for you.

  • Like stand up comedy, whatever.

  •   You gonna be at my first show?

  •  You gonna be front row?

  •   Are you kidding me, I’ll be rolling on the

  • ground, cheering, laughing.

  • Yes, please.

  •   I can’t wait.

  •   That is a yes, please.

  • Youve also said this, another genius statement.

  • Hurt people hurt people, but guess what?

  • Free people free people.”

  • Let’s talk about how we can take care of ourselves in this current socio-political

  • climate.

  • Because there’s a lot going around.

  •   There’s a lot going on.

  • And I want to be clear, because I like to give credit where it’s due.

  • So I actually heardhurt people hurtpeople elsewhere, and then heardfree people

  • free people.”

  • And I was like yes.

  • And so the moment were in, Marie, I mean, none of us ... you know, we all have wonderful

  • friends who have been activists and in the public eye for years.

  • Gloria Steinem is a friend.

  • And when this election, you know, first happened I remember going to her and asking for guidance,

  • help, hope.

  • And she said, “Well, I’ve never seen anything like this in my lifetime.

  • And so we don't get to pretend that were just going to have a perfect solution to what’s

  • going on now.

  • But I think we get to get very present, we get to connect in a deeper way than we ever

  • have.

  • It’s amazing to me how different marginalized groups have galvanized into a larger movement.

  • The women’s march was amazing.

  • More women of color and, you know, white women and trans women, men, like people are coming

  • together across issues like we never would have if we didn't have the I think the sort

  • of – I want to be careful about calling it, you know, “doomsday scenario,” because

  • that’s not what it is.

  • But this is a real threat if you are – I’m thinking about I actually have a character.

  • I’ll let her join us briefly.

  •   I don't know why it has to be brief.

  • My name is Habibur.

  • She wants to get rid of me too fast.

  • But the joke ... I am coming from the Middle East and nowadays I do want to be quick because

  • I don't want to get deported.

  • I have to keep moving around.

  •   But, you know, it’s like I want to remind

  • myself that this is a difficult political moment, rather, for a lot of us.

  • It’s actually a life threatening moment for a lot of people.

  • It is destroying families.

  • There are immigrants who, you know, they don't know whether theyre going to come home

  • and find their entire family intact.

  •   So at a time like this I want to take it very

  • seriously.

  • AND being depressed does not help the movement.

  • So we don't pathologize ourselves for the fact that were upset, that were scared,

  • that were anxious, that were stressed.

  • But we do get to reach for support, for solutions.

  • I know that I can’t do this alone.

  • I lean on my friends like never before.

  • Most people don't use the phone anymore.

  • I am on that phone.

  • “I’m so depressed.

  • Did you see?

  • Oh, my God.”

  • And just hearing that other person’s voice and reminding ourselves, “okay.

  • What can we do?

  • What’s a practical thing we can do?”

  • Our friends who have a lot of money, please donate to the right candidates so we can do

  • what we need to do in 2018 when it’s time to vote.

  • How can we hold our officials accountable?

  • How can we run?

  • I’d love to see you run for office.

  •   Oh, my goodness.

  •   And just saying.

  • I mean, if you agree please, you know, do whatever is the equivalent of retweet.

  • Write her.

  • Tell her.

  • But my point is, these are real shifts that change in a – you know, we can create substantive

  • change in our culture that, frankly, weve needed a long time.

  • And I love Hilary.

  • There is a part of me that wonders if she had come in, would we see just how deep and

  • awful some of the, you know, kind of systemic injustice in our society really is?

  • And so while I’m devastated by what happened, that I don't think was a real show of our

  • democracy, I am seeing where we can focus on the positives and expand upon them together.

  • And by, you know, following each other, nobody’s – there’s no guru here.

  • I think we all get to keep learning from each other as much as we can and stay connected.

  •   And stay connected.

  • I love that word.

  • And I feel like that is such a ... just a huge piece of everything you do is this connectivity.

  • The characters are all connected.

  • I mean, youre the thread, but when I watch all of the amazing characters come through,

  • my heart goes out and I go, “Yes.

  • I love you.

  • Yes.

  • I love you.

  • Yes, I love you.”

  • And they're just ... and I think the humor pieces also, it’s huge.

  • Because if we can laugh, amidst things that are really disturbing, and absolutely wrong,

  • our creativity opens up.

  •   That’s it.

  • We maintain contact with our humanity.

  • It’s key.

  • It’s really important.

  •   And for ideas in terms of solutions.

  • That creative channel stays open where we might be able to see a new possibility that

  • we haven’t ever seen before or been open to.

  •   100%.

  •   Okay.

  • Let’s talk about some of your latest projects.

  • So we mentionedSell By Datecoming up 2018 in LA.

  • We talked about the premise.

  • Anything else you want to say about that?

  •   You know, I’m excited to shareSell By

  • Datewith people not only in LA, but I’m also planning on creating a film version of

  • it.

  •   Ooh!

  • So that’s coming up.

  • Were talking to folks about, you know, where that would make sense, how it makes

  • sense to do that.

  • And it’s because there’s so many women and young girls out there who, I’m certainly

  • no expert or authority on anything, but I know I as a young woman, I was confused.

  • You know, “like am I a ho because I’m wearing the shorts?

  • But they told me to buy the shorts.”

  • I mean, it’s mixed messages.

  •   I know.

  • I had my little – I mean, at a certain time in the 2000’s, little thongs were hanging

  • out.

  • It was cute.

  •   It was cute!

  •   It was real cute.

  •   It was cute.

  • I mean, if theyre selling a shirt it says Porn Star and I buy it, what does that…?

  •   I love this.

  •   So I think having that conversation and making

  • sure that we do feel empowered, so I can’t wait to share that with people.

  • And they can follow me on my website.

  • They can find me at Sarah Jones Online.

  •   Were gonna put it all, just so y’all

  • know, youll see it right on the bottom.

  • And sorry, sound.

  • I know I’m like slapping my thigh.

  •   I’m clicking.

  • Were like a onetwo woman band.

  •   And can we just talk aboutwe need to

  • talk about jewelry for a moment.

  •   Oh, my God.

  • Can I talk about jewelry?

  •   Yes.

  • Please talk about who is this designer?

  •   So this is Rebecca Nadler, who I lurve.

  • And what I love so much about her work, she’s an independent artist.

  • I love supporting a female entrepreneur.

  • And her work is as diverse … I feel like her work is as diverse as my characters.

  • Like you look at one ring, youre likethat’s one designer.

  • That’s one idea.

  • This is a completely different feeling.”

  • And yet it all goes together, sort of grounds me.

  • So definitely look for her stuff.

  • She’s fantastic.

  •   Perfect.

  • Okay, now.

  • I want to hear more aboutThe Foundation.”

  •   Yes.

  • So I had this amazing experience early in my career of getting support outside Hollywood.

  • There were roles that just felt so stereotypical and I was likedo I really have to move

  • my,” you know.

  • Like I needed a chiropractor to fix what I was supposed to do as this character on this

  • show.

  • So I realized, okay.

  • Maybe I have to create my own roles if I don't only want to play like one.

  • And I found that whether it was the Ford Foundation and a great women's rights group called Equality

  • Now.

  • Which, by the way, they introduced me to Meryl Streep.

  • It’s like I avoided the Hollywood stereotypes because it didn't feel good in my soul, even

  • though everybody was like, “What are you doing?

  • Youre going to ruin your career.

  • Youre never work in this town again.”

  • I walked away from a TV show, I walked straight into like Meryl Streep’s arms because I

  • was following what I cared about.

  • Right?

  •   Yes.

  • That’s a big lesson, people.

  •   That’s a big one.

  • I need to hear it.

  • Because even now it’s like the check and the ... This is your kinda higher financial

  • advisor right in here.

  • But foundations like the Ford Foundation and the Novo Foundation, which supportedSell

  • By Date,” they do incredible work on women and girls.

  • And actually, Warren Buffett, through his son Peter Buffett.

  •   I love them.

  • Aren’t they amazing?

  • Jennifer Buffett.

  •   They're amazing.

  •   Theyre incredible people.

  • And Pamela Shifman actually is the executive director there.

  • She saw in me this potential to create a piece that was about a difficult topic, but where

  • I was committed to entertaining people and having them feel hopeful rather than deflated

  • about it.

  • So that was great withSell By Date.”

  • And most recently the Hewlett Foundation.

  • So these foundations, philanthropy, supporting the arts.

  • By the way, people.

  • Just so you know, we have an NEA, National Endowment for the Arts, that if were not

  • careful were going to lose it.

  •   Yes.

  •   So I want to really talk up how much foundations

  • have been a huge supporter of my work.

  • And the Hewlett Foundation is commissioning works of art.

  • Theyre based out in the Bay Area and, you know, they really understand that in times

  • like these we need art.

  • This is not a time to say, “Oh, well, you know, we have to strip down to bare bones.

  • And so, you know, makes sure everybody has a sandwich.

  • That’s it.”

  •   You know, that’s actually the opposite of

  • how it works.

  • When you take away what nourishes our souls, it doesn't matter if you feed our bodies.

  • You cannot, you know, starve our souls and expect us to thrive.

  • Whether were coal miners, I know that’s a big argument.

  • Well, people are laborers and they don't care about art.”

  • That is not true.

  • If you want to know how much coal miners and laborers care about art, listen to the beautiful

  • folk music.

  • You know, the banjo picking from people who would come out of the mines and then feed

  • their souls at the end of the day.

  •   So for me, there’s no separating the human

  • being from the art and the creativity.

  • And the Hewlett Foundation commissioned a piece that I wrote calledThe Foundation,”

  • which I’m now taking around especially to companies, especially to businesses who want

  • to do good, and I perform it.

  • Usually it’s a – it might be a private audience, it might be a public audience where

  • I get to talk about how philanthropy is helping people hold on to our democratic values at

  • a time when theyre under threat.

  • We get to talk about the environment.

  • Basically it’s lots of different characters.

  •   Youll actually get to meet me.

  • I am Somali.

  • I am very excited to be on your TV show, and I am from Minneapolis.

  • I know you can tell from my accent, it sounds very Minneapolis, but actually it’s true

  • Somalia.

  • But I’m very excited because were different people from all around the world come to the

  • United States because this is a place that represents the freedom.

  • And if you take away that freedom with the government, what will we do?

  • So we have to protect that.

  • So I have all these different voices talking about how we can take care of ourselves as

  • a country until we have a government that knows how to help us.

  •   Yes.

  •  Yes, yes, yes.

  • Oh, my God.

  • This is bringing me to tears.

  • Finally, love that you launched a podcast.

  • Playdate with Sarah Jones.

  • So I listened to the first one with India.Arie.

  • Loved it.

  • What inspired you to start a podcast?

  •   You know, I’ve always done these characters,

  • as you now know.

  • Weve met a million of them.

  • And I always had fun playing around with identity because if you can’t see me, well then if

  • I turn into this person right now, you have no idea that I am actually still the same

  • person who I’m about to be right now.

  • Marie, I just want to say.

  •   Hank?

  •   My name is Hank.

  • I’m so glad that you remember me and I’m glad that I’m getting a chance here on your

  • program to say hello.

  • I just want to say, Sarah Jones, she may not understand a man like me, man my age.

  • I am a Trump supporter.

  • She doesn't appreciate that.

  • But I did sit down with India.Arie and she’s a very nice young woman.

  • We don't agree about everything but, you know, on the podcast we all get to have our say

  • and come together.

  • And I always like to mention to Sarah Jones one final philosophical point to the guests,

  • which is that we won.

  • No, he’s terrible.

  •   But I do appreciate Hank.

  •   I appreciate him too.

  •   Hank’s new.

  • He’s new.

  • Well, he’s actually old.

  • So Hank has come back to us but that’s a sign of, you know, kind of people can learn

  • more about that if they check out the podcast.

  •   Sarah Jones, you are just a miracle.

  • Thank you so much for taking the time to be here today.

  • And I know everyone is going to be really excited to tune into your podcast.

  • And, of course, well share your website and all the places they can see your magic

  • in the interwebs and in real life too.

  •   Thank you so much.

  • We have been thrilled to be here with you.

  •   Now Sarah and I would love to hear from you.

  • From everything weve discussed today, what’s the one idea or concept that you want to take

  • and put to practice in your life or your work starting today?

  • Leave a comment below and let us know.

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