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  • Matt Abrahams teaches strategic communication for Stanford's Graduate School of Business.

  • He's also co-founder of Bold Echo Communication Solutions.

  • Speaking in front of people is nerve wracking- we get anxious.

  • So what I'd like to do is share with you ten anxiety management techniques.

  • The very first technique is to greet your anxiety. When you begin to feel those jitters - you start feeling like "Oh no, everybody's going to tell that I'm nervous!"

  • and we begin to actually make ourselves more and more nervous.

  • Say to yourself "It makes sense that I'm nervous" and by acknowledging your anxiety, you short circuit that building of anxiety.

  • Another very useful technique is to work on breathing. Nervous speakers breathe very shallow;

  • by simply taking some deep belly breaths prior to speaking,

  • you slow down your blood pressure and your heart rate. It can help you tremendously.

  • Another thing to try is to warm up your voice. Singers practice their vocal range before they go out on stage.

  • Speakers need to do the same thing. Say a tongue twister- do something to warm up your voice.

  • Too often nervous speakers feel like everybody's attention is focused on analyzing and evaluating them.

  • If your attention is on your audience and giving them what they need,

  • that gives you less bandwidth to worry about yourself.

  • Another useful technique is to write down your fears. By writing them down, we get them out of our head.

  • It gives us more of a sense of agency and control over them.

  • Many of us when we speak, worry about how bad things can go. And instead, we should expect success.

  • What could it be like if it goes well? Success can simply be getting through all of your material.

  • If you expect success, that gives you more of a sense of control and a goal that you will be pleased to try to achieve.

  • Reframing the speaking situation is one of the most powerful tools.

  • Instead of seeing speaking as a performance, view it as a conversation. First, practice conversationally.

  • Sit around and converse your presentation with somebody.

  • Second, use conversational language: Nervous speakers say things like "One must consider the ramifications."

  • We don't talk that way. They should say things like "You should consider..."

  • Third, use questions - questions are dialogic. They're two-way, they're conversational.

  • Another thing that we have to rid ourselves of is procrastination. A great way to do that is to publicly commit to your goals.

  • By publicly committing to those goals, it will help you actually get your presentation prepared and ready.

  • Another thing that gets people very nervous is thinking about all the things that could go wrong.

  • So if you're afraid that your slide deck isn't going to be able to project -

  • have a file that you can email to people. By having contingencies thought about

  • and planned for gets you out of that paralysis that comes from all of these concerns.

  • The last bit of advice I give you is to break away from slides. Start with an outline.

  • By having a structure that you've thought about that's in outline form, it gives you something to come back to.

  • If all you have are slides, then you are floating in space - you don't have something to root them down.

  • Be sure to check out Matt's nofreakingspeaking.com for more advice on public speaking.

Matt Abrahams teaches strategic communication for Stanford's Graduate School of Business.

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