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  • I wanted to start off by asking a question to everyone in the room,

  • and you can take a minute to think about this question.

  • I wanted to ask what do you find most beautiful?

  • And not in the world, like butterflies and flowers, but in a person.

  • What do you find the most attractive in a person?

  • Is it eyes?

  • Do you like pretty eyes?

  • Blue eyes?

  • Curly hair?

  • Long nails?

  • Big feet? Some people like big feet.

  • What is it about people that we find attractive?

  • I think that the way that we think of beauty

  • comes from different things like:

  • social media, the Internet, magazines, especially,

  • if that's coming from a model.

  • I feel like those are kind of what define beauty today.

  • And personally to me, I feel that beauty is in everything.

  • Some people may say that big feet are not cute,

  • but there's going to be a pair of shoes that will look better

  • on my size 9 feet than a size 6 foot.

  • So, I find that there could be beauty in everything.

  • For example, I love your dreads!

  • They are amazing.

  • Your gorgeous hair, Talia. Oh, my god!

  • I wish I could get mine to be that big.

  • Sir, with the shiny bold head, I think that this is amazing.

  • That sheen, perfect!

  • As you can see, I find beauty in everything.

  • And, of course:

  • "I find beauty in everything" is super duper cliche.

  • Like beauty in everything.

  • I don't think everyone thinks that there is beauty in everything,

  • but the reason why I feel that there is beauty in everything

  • is because when I was young,

  • I was picked on for something that today I feel is amazing.

  • One thing about me connects millions of people around the world.

  • And that is something I think you can probably see,

  • it's my skin condition, it's called vitiligo.

  • And vitiligo is basically my immune system that feels that my melanin

  • which is what makes color in your skin,

  • thinks that my melanin is a disease,

  • something similar to the common cold,

  • so it fights it off,

  • and that makes my skin turn white.

  • I was singled out because of this skin condition.

  • I was bullied.

  • I was alienated.

  • Even by people who didn't mean to alienate me.

  • For example:

  • we would, like everyone does, take family pictures,

  • and my mom would bring a little top of makeup,

  • and it was her makeup.

  • My mom is not the same skin color as me, she's much darker than I am.

  • So, could you imagine me having a dark paste of face,

  • and the rest of me as like brown, white?

  • I obviously didn't feel comfortable,

  • but my mom was trying to make me feel comfortable.

  • I was alienated.

  • In school,

  • I changed school in about grade 3, grade 2

  • and it's already hard to make friends when you change school

  • especially at such a young age,

  • but luckily I found two girls who were willing to play with me.

  • They didn't really know who I was, but they wanted to play,

  • they wanted to check me out and see if I was one of the cool kids.

  • And after a few weeks of being in that school and having those friends,

  • all of the sudden, I didn't have them.

  • And I was kind of confused as to why I was struggling to make friends.

  • I finally did and now, where did they go?

  • They would avoid me at recess, they would avoid me at lunch,

  • and I finally went up to them one day and was like,

  • "Guys, what's going on? Why aren't you talking to me anymore?"

  • They said to me,

  • "We can't talk to you anymore, sorry.

  • Our parents said that we might catch your skin condition."

  • Can you imagine how that made me feel in grade 2, grade 3?

  • That hurt.

  • I was alienated, I was embarrassed, to be honest.

  • I didn't know what this skin condition was in grade 2 or grade 3.

  • I wasn't asked if I wanted this skin condition.

  • I didn't ask for it, yet I was alienated for it.

  • But here's the thing, when I got a little bit older,

  • I didn't want to be in that position anymore, I didn't want to be bullied.

  • So rather that taking myself out of the position, what did I do?

  • I became the bully.

  • And it's not better on one side than the other.

  • I can tell you, because I've been on both sides.

  • I didn't want to be bullied anymore

  • so I kind of took lead with those people who were bullying and I said,

  • "Cool, those are going to be my friends now because I don't want to be bullied,

  • or on this side of the spectrum.

  • So I guess the only side is to be on this side, this must be the good side."

  • So I decided to go to that side.

  • I would pick on kids.

  • I would be like, "So ugly your hair!"

  • "Ugh, who did that?"

  • "Rude, right?"

  • But I came to a realization

  • that I was trying to put myself into a mold that I didn't fit.

  • I mean, who's to say that I'm supposed to fit in a mold anyway?

  • I can make my own.

  • So, I decided that I was going to take myself away from this side

  • and away from this side, and make my own side,

  • and fit myself a new mold.

  • And that mold is so cliche,

  • but I feel that there is beauty in everything.

  • So, I just want to put this idea in your head,

  • that it takes one person

  • to realize that there is beauty in everything.

  • And you don't have to be on one side of the spectrum

  • or the other side of the spectrum,

  • or fit into someone's mold, your mom's mold,

  • whoever's mold that you are trying to fit into.

  • Be your own person.

  • Know for yourself what beauty is

  • rather than looking to a magazine or to even me for what beauty is.

  • Know it in your heart, and make your own mold for what beauty is.

  • (Applause)

I wanted to start off by asking a question to everyone in the room,

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