whole heart out in the hopes that they'll feel the exact same way? Don't do it, trust

me. There's a very good reason why you shouldn't and I'll explain why after this. This is The

Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks. Imagine someone showed up to your door and

told you that they loved you ever since the first moment that they saw you, what would

your first reaction be? In a case like this, it might make you feel like you've been put

on the spot. What if you don't know the person? What if you don't feel the same way? What

if they get upset by your response? There's a lot of pressure in that moment to not just

respond, but to respond in a way that eases the tension created. That's what you're putting

your crush through every time you confess your feelings to them. When we have crushes,

we tend to focus our thoughts inwardly. We think about ourselves, how we feel and what

we want from the other person. But, how often do we stop and think about how they'll feel

if we just unload these feelings on them out of nowhere? That's why a much better way to

approach the situation is to ask the girl out. By asking a girl out, you're not delivering

a single sided confession, you're creating an atmosphere where both of you have the ability

to express your feelings openly. By asking a question instead of giving a statement,

you're never explicitly tossing yourself out there, instead you're creating a much more

mysterious gateway for them to learn about how much you actually like them. Plus any

kind of confession usually happens where you feel like you've been hiding your feelings

from them. So re-frame your way of thinking. Having feelings that you haven't expressed

aren't you hiding them away, it's simply you not acting on them. So inviting her out on

a date gives you a way to act on them rather than just saying them. "I just want you to

know that I've always secretly liked you" isn't as powerful as "I don't know what is

it but I find you really adorable right now. I found this really cool place that I want

to take you out to sometime." The first response leaves her open to saying something like "Aww

thanks" while the second actually pushes her to either give you a yes answer or a no answer.

And the reason why the second situation is so much better, regardless if the answer is

a yes or a no is that her answer is so much clearer. What do you guys think though, have

you ever confessed your feelings to someone? Leave your comments below so we can talk about

it. The next time you want to tell a girl how you feel, think about things from her

perspective. If you want your feelings to manifest into something, you need to create

a situation where you can act on it. Because simply talking about it, just ain't being

about it. As always guys love and peace. Hey thanks for watching. If you're new to the

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mistake of confessing my feelings to a girl and it did not work out for me so please,

take my advice.