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  • >>Okay, I had to. But Haddaway’s question is one most people would struggle to answer.

  • >>The Oxford dictionary defines love as a strong feeling of affection, which whilst

  • being one of the attributes- is incredibly vague.

  • >>You can love something but don’t have to feel an overbearing affinity towards it.

  • >>I mean I love drinking and playstation but it doesn’t mean I’m in love with them.

  • >>Or does it?

  • >>So- what does it mean to be in love? Well The Guardian did a great article on this

  • in December 2012, and at the time of writingWhat Is Love?’ was the most popular search

  • on google. Who knew Haddaway had such an extensive fan

  • base.

  • >>They asked 5 people what their definition of love was including a psychotherapist, a

  • physicist and a nun.

  • >>The psychotherapist deconstructed the variants of love and found you can’t find the emotional

  • resonance with one significant other. For example- philautia. Self-love.

  • Not- not- self-love. You know, like an emotional resonance with

  • yourself. The great philosopher aristotle found that

  • if you can’t care for yourself, then your not going to be able to care for others.

  • >>So if youre feeling down on yourself, give yourself a break because- you deserve

  • it.

  • >>We all deserve a bit of philautia.

  • >>Am I the only one realising it sounds like fellatio?

  • >>The nun took a sweeter approach, describing love as life’s greatest blessing.

  • More easily experienced than described. Easier said than done.

  • >>Theoretical physicist Jim Alkalili shed a little bit more light on the process and

  • I ran out of costumes.

  • >>He explained love as chemistry, a neurological condition like hunger or thirst.

  • Wow! That’s a little bit daunting.

  • But there’s a little bit of truth to it. Let’s look at the biology of love.

  • >>Studies in neuroscience have took a look at the chemicals active in the brain during

  • love such as testosterone, oestrogen, dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin.

  • >>The neuroscience looks at love as a game of two halves including sexual attraction

  • and attachment. Well guys- we already know what happens when

  • you get sexually aroused. We produce high levels of testosterone which

  • is pivotal to sperm development, so let’s take a look at attachment.

  • >>Butterflies in your stomach? That might be serotonin.

  • >>And that might not be your stomach doing somersaults. Approximately 90% of your bodies

  • serotonin is located in enterochromaffin cells in the alimentary canal better known as the

  • gut.

  • >>So youve gone with your gut and decided you are attached to this guy or girl and you

  • just can’t get them out of your head. Well- serotonin.

  • >>During attachment, higher levels of serotonin are produced creating a similar chemical process

  • in the brain to that of obsessive compulsive disorder.

  • >>This may explain why when you fall madly in love with somebody you can’t think of

  • anyone but them. Deep.

  • >>But- let’s not bog down one of life’s rawest emotions with too much science.

  • Some of the greatest musings on love have come from philosophers, novelists and playwrights.

  • You don’t think love- you feel it.

  • >>I’ve gone ahead and put a link in the doobly-doo to a great website which has over

  • 200 literary definitions of love throughout time.

  • Some of them are really quite poignant and really highlight just how important love is.

  • >>Me? I think love is that transitionary period between no longer being able to think for

  • somebody, only feel. Where your feelings for your object of affection

  • grow existentially and become a part of you.

  • >>No-one knows for sure exactly what love is, it varies from person to person.

  • All I know is in this crazy fucked up world of ours, we need a lot more of it.

  • >>I’m Josh James and I love you. Thanks for watching.

>>Okay, I had to. But Haddaway’s question is one most people would struggle to answer.

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