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  • I’m dealing with these matters because there are

  • some of God’s true children that seriously are struggling

  • with the areas that I’m going to deal with today.

  • And so,

  • I do want to, I want to visit these things.

  • The first one is a revisit.

  • 2 weeks ago, we had this question come up,

  • and I want to, I need to deal with this again.

  • And, I just want to emphasize once again,

  • what I’m about to talk to is taboo for many,

  • but we have many people looking for Biblical answers in this very area.

  • I’m not trying to be unnecessarily graphic.

  • But the question that I fielded 2 weeks ago that I want to return to is this one.

  • A man by the name of Dan asked this question:

  • Is masturbating a sin?

  • I sought to answer that, and we got so much response.

  • And we got folks who felt that it wasn’t clear,

  • that maybe I was being dogmatic about things that

  • maybe weren’t really so much biblical.

  • There have been a number of responses that

  • just led me to believe that we probably needed to revisit this one.

  • You know, based on the feedback that I saw,

  • based on some of the things that I have heard,

  • I am quite convinced that probably every man in this room has struggled with masturbation.

  • I am quite convinced that almost as many girls, at one time or another.

  • What I want to do is... you know the question is, ‘is it sin?’

  • That’s the first question.

  • And what I don’t want to... look, I realize this...

  • this is a realistic issue

  • that we need to deal with;

  • the church needs to deal with, Christians need to deal with;

  • myself as a pastor, I need to address.

  • And I don’t want to do it in a way where I just beat everybody over the head,

  • I just dismiss you as, “well, if youve got a problem with this, youre not a Christian.”

  • That’s not the case.

  • Weve got true Christians that have struggles in this very area.

  • Now the fact is, if youre over your head in bondage to it,

  • there may be a very likelihood

  • that a person in that situation, may still be under the power of sin, and may not be converted.

  • And that’s a very realistic possibility

  • that each one of us needs to evaluate

  • anytime any kind of sin gets a hold on us where we suffer defeat.

  • Now you see right there I’m making an assumption that it’s sin.

  • Well let me just show you some things about this

  • that I want you folks to take away with you.

  • What I want to try to do first here is just inform you a little bit.

  • The first thing, if you have your Bibles there, I’d like you all to turn to Matthew 5,

  • and verse 28.

  • You see, folks, one of my pastoral concerns is this:

  • We have a whole movement.

  • Really this has been a movement

  • on the move for 2000 years.

  • Because you can go back all the way to the time of the Scriptures,

  • and youve got the apostles themselves

  • saying, “Do not be deceived.”

  • Basically, if you are in bondage to sin,

  • if you are in bondage to unrighteousness,

  • theyre sayingdon’t be deceived, youre not a true believer.”

  • And we have false prophets rising up on every hand today

  • that would basically teach us

  • you can be a true Christian, and you can run and be a slave to all sorts of sin.

  • And that’s just not biblical and it’s just not true.

  • And that’s a pastoral concern, because I don’t want people to be deceived.

  • And you see one of the things is,

  • weve got folks, and probably some of you sitting in this room: you profess to be Christians,

  • and yet you are in such bondage to pride,

  • to lust, to your idols, to money, to some appetite, to something in life,

  • that, it’s a big waving red flag

  • that things are not well with your soul.

  • But because of false teaching, because of ignorance on your part,

  • youve been led to believe that, ‘once saved, always saved,’

  • and basically you said some prayer,

  • you basically went up to some altar somewhere, you raised your hand at some point.

  • Whatever it is. There’s a whole lot of this thinking today.

  • And yet, people do those things, and theyre quite convinced that theyre on their way to Heaven.

  • And then, the fact is, they are slaves of sin, and true Christians are not slaves to sin.

  • Theyre slaves of righteousness the Bible tells us.

  • Theyre slaves of God.

  • And here’s this big red flag waving, and yet you don’t have the eyes to even see it.

  • And what I don’t want, is I don’t want any of you waking up on judgment day to find out

  • “I was dead wrong.

  • The indicator was there the whole time and I missed it.”

  • Well the reason I had you turn to Matthew 5:28 is this:

  • Jesus Christ is teaching,

  • “I say to you, that everyone who looks at a woman...”

  • And obviously this could be a woman looking at a man.

  • Everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

  • Now let me tell... I want to make several observations about that text.

  • Fornicators and adulterers do not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven.

  • The Bible teaches that.

  • You find that over in 1 Corinthians chapter 6 verse 9.

  • Fornicators and adulterers do not--you can find it in a number of other areas as well in the Scriptures--

  • but they don’t inherit the Kingdom of Heaven.

  • That is an indication- to be under the power of that,

  • that is and indication that a person is lost.

  • And if theyre a slave to that type of thing...

  • Now look, don’t think I’m making this up here, because, just go on and read the next verse.

  • Jesus Christ is not saying that this is a minor issue,

  • it’s a small matter, and something that you don’t have to give a whole lot of concern about.

  • If your right eye causes you to sin...”

  • Now notice, notice the context.

  • Jesus isn’t just coming out of the blue with this teaching,

  • He’s dealing with what He just talked about.

  • He just talked about not specifically the sinful act of adultery, but adultery in the mind.

  • And on that note, He says this:

  • If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away.

  • It is better that you lose one of your members

  • than that your whole body be thrown into hell.”

  • Now I’m going to tell you something here.

  • Jesus Christ is teaching us that there needs to be repentance,

  • there needs to be evidence of true regeneration

  • in the life of somebody if they are going to escape hell.

  • That’s a reality.

  • He’s not saying this is a matter of whether youre going to have greater or lesser rewards,

  • He’s saying this is a matter of life and death.

  • If you don’t tear out these eyes, and if you don’t lose these members,

  • youre going to be thrown into hell, that’s what He’s saying.

  • You say, “Wait! Do I get to Heaven by my works, by being pure?”

  • Let me tell you this,

  • a person gets to Heaven by nothing less than faith in Jesus Christ,

  • but where there is genuine faith in Jesus Christ,

  • there is also genuine transformation of the heart.

  • God said, “A new heart also will I give them

  • He said, “I’m going to write my law on them,

  • I’m going to put my Spirit within them.”

  • That Holy Spirit puts to death sin in those in whom He dwells.

  • If that’s not the case, then youre not a true Christian.

  • That’s like Romans 8, what is it, verse 9?

  • If you don’t have the Spirit of Christ, youre none of His.

  • You don’t belong to Him.

  • This is a matter of life and death.

  • Now lets come back to the masturbation thing.

  • Folks,

  • I’ve heard this week and last week about people insisting

  • that they can masturbate with nothing happening in the mind.

  • Now folks, I don’t think those people are being honest with themselves.

  • I have a hard time imagining orgasm of the body without pictures in the mind.

  • And if there are pictures in the mind...

  • and I heard somebody just recently say,

  • well, ya they get them, but they try to fight them off.

  • Well the fact is, they are involved in something that’s bringing them in.

  • Theyre involved in something that’s bringing them in that would even force them to have to fight it off.

  • Theyre opening the door to invite these things to come in.

  • Now let me just ask you guys something because I know this is especially a problem there.

  • You start taking images of a lady,

  • some young lady in your mind, what are you going to do?

  • Walk out the door here and go evangelizing?

  • How are you going to respect people of the opposite sex when you use them that way?

  • And youre... that’s what it is,

  • even if it’s just an image of them that you have in your mind.

  • Youre going to use people of the opposite sex that way?

  • I’m... folks, this idea that people can be involved in this kind of activity

  • and theyre not sinning in thought...

  • I’m not going to say, I’m not going to be here and say,

  • “I’ve been in all your minds, and I know every circumstance,

  • and I’m going to say it’s impossible.” I’m not going to say that, I can’t dogmatically say that,

  • but I know, and you know that to be involved in that type of thing

  • without images in your mind...

  • And Jesus Christ says this is a matter of life and death.

  • And people can try to justify, but I’m telling you, this is a matter of life and death.

  • If youre going to try to justify this, I would tread very, very carefully.

  • Because Christ is talking about lustful intent in the mind,

  • and being thrown into hell.

  • Don’t play with this thing.

  • And just on that note,

  • I’ve heard some guys try to say

  • this is how they try to cope with sexual temptation.

  • Wait a second, 1 Corinthians 6:18 says,

  • Flee from sexual immorality.”

  • Flee from it.

  • And even the guys that say they try to use masturbation

  • to kind of take the edge off

  • so that they won’t fall into sexual temptation...

  • Look, if the same guys admit

  • that theyre also being attacked by images in their mind that they have to fight off,

  • I would just ask the question,

  • is masturbation running from sexual immorality,

  • or is it running into it?

  • Are you fighting against it, or are you inviting it?

  • That’s just something to ask.

  • Now, turn in your Bibles to Hebrews 13:4.

  • Because I also want you to see this passage.

  • Hebrews 13:4.

  • Again, this is another text I think we really, really need to take seriously.

  • Hebrews 13:4.

  • Let marriage be held in honor among all,

  • and let the marriage bed be undefiled.

  • For God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”

  • You know what’s so interesting about this passage?

  • You have one thing that God honors, which is what?

  • What is honorable?

  • The marriage bed.

  • And the writer of Hebrews

  • runs right from what is honorable, to what it dishonorable.

  • And it’s as though there’s no middle ground here.

  • The marriage bed is honorable.

  • And then right after that isn’t it amazing that he jumps right into

  • God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”

  • Now I’m not going to be dogmatic here,

  • but it’s as though the writer is implying... what?

  • Everything aside from the marriage bed

  • as far as sexual outlet goes,

  • falls into the category of sexual immorality and adultery.

  • And if youre going to say youve found some secret little middle ground that isn’t covered there,

  • again, I tell you, you’d better tread carefully.

  • Because just like in the other one we had hell threatened,

  • we have God’s judgment threatened.

  • This is not a small matter folks.

  • Don’t think you can toy with this and be wrong,

  • without it costing you much.

  • Lets go futher.

  • I want you folks to turn to 1 Corinthians 6:12.

  • And again, I think it’s so interesting here, here’s Paul’s words to the Corinthians,

  • it’s so interesting, his context.

  • I mean, its almost as though it’s written just for us to give consideration to,

  • just these kind of things.

  • 1 Corinthians 6:12.

  • All things are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful.”

  • Now watch this.

  • All things are lawful for me, but I will not be enslaved by anything.

  • Food is meant for the stomach, and the stomach for food,

  • and God will destroy both one and the other.

  • The body is not meant for sexual immorality,

  • but for the Lord. And the Lord for the body.

  • And God raised the Lord, and will raise us up by His power.

  • Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?

  • Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute?

  • Never!

  • Or do you not know, that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her?

  • For as it is written, “the two will become one flesh.”

  • But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one Spirit with Him.

  • Flee from sexual immorality.”

  • Isn’t it interesting,

  • where Paul’s saying “I won’t be enslaved to anything

  • it’s right in this context of fleeing sexual immorality.

  • Let me tell you this:

  • When Paul tells us how he lives,

  • you are under commandment of God to imitate him as he imitates Christ.

  • Have you ever heard him say that?

  • Paul calls us to imitate his example repeatedly.

  • Now listen,

  • being brought under the power of anything, is basically what?

  • I mean, we might look at it as idolatry .

  • But here’s the thing that Paul says: he wouldn’t be brought under the power of anything.

  • As Christians, we have the responsibility not to be brought under the power of anything.

  • Look, where youve got a guy saying,

  • Well, I need to do this.”

  • You know what he’s basically saying?

  • What is he confessing to?

  • What’s he admitting?

  • He’s a slave, he’s brought under the power of it.

  • Paul says, “I will not be enslaved by anything.”

  • You know what? Once in a while my wife

  • cuts coffee out, you know why?

  • To show she’s not enslaved to it.

  • Once in a while I’ll sayYou know what?

  • I’m going on a sweets fast, a soda fast for the next 3 months or whatever, I’m not touching it.

  • Why?

  • The apostle Paul says this: “I discipline my body,

  • I keep it under control, lest after preaching to others...”

  • Now listen to this again.

  • “I discipline my body, and keep it under control,

  • lest after preaching to others, I myself should be disqualified.”

  • or rejected, or cast away.

  • You see what Paul’s saying again?

  • This is a life and death matter.

  • Paul says, “I keep myself

  • disciplined, lest when this is all done, and I’ve preached the truth to others,

  • I end up a castaway.

  • Young men,

  • are you keeping your body disciplined?

  • Are you keeping yourself un-enslaved?

  • Do you have control of your body?

  • The apostle Paul gives...

  • the apostle Paul tells us to imitate him.

  • Are you imitating him here? Can you tell your bodyno

  • to any physical appetite, anytime, and keep it under control?

  • That’s what Paul did, and that’s what he calls us to do.

  • To imitate him.

  • To follow him as he follows Christ.

  • Lets go here:

  • Jesus Christ said "Follow me."

  • If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross and follow me.”

  • Now listen to this,

  • Jesus Christ says in order to follow Him, what do you have to do?

  • You have to deny yourself...

  • You have to deny yourself...

  • Folks, and I say this to anyone that‘s watching,

  • anybody that’s seated here.

  • Jesus Christ is ultimately the example that we are to follow.

  • We follow Paul in as much as he followed Christ,

  • but Christ is the example.

  • Christ told us, bid us, follow Him.

  • Youre walking on really treacherous ground

  • if you believe that Christ was involved in any type of sexual activity like that.

  • He calls us to follow Him.

  • We have to really ask ourselves:

  • would we try to contend

  • For the fact that masturbation is in any shape or form following Him?

  • My estimation folks, that’s a stretch.

  • We find in the Scriptures this, go on to another thing:

  • Titus 3:3:

  • We ourselves were once foolish...”

  • Now listen, this is describing...

  • what Paul is doing is he is describing what we once were.

  • He saysWe ourselves were once foolish

  • Titus 3:3

  • We ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray,

  • slaves to various passions and pleasures.”

  • Now look, the only reason I bring this up is because I would ask this question.

  • One of the things that we see happen when people are converted,

  • is what Paul describes in 2 Corinthians 5:

  • old things pass away, all things become new.

  • And I would just ask you folks,

  • is masturbation, is that not something that characterizes

  • the old life?

  • The lost life? The way of the world?

  • We ourselves were once

  • slaves to various passions and pleasures.”

  • I mean, let me just ask the question, is masturbation characteristic of our past sinful life?

  • Or is it characteristic of a pure life God has called us to?

  • Let me throw another thing out at you, 1 Corinthians 10:13.

  • No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man.

  • God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted

  • beyond your ability,

  • but with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape,

  • that you may be able to endure it.”

  • And what we need to ask ourselves is this:

  • Is masturbation a way of escape that God has provided for us

  • from sexual temptation? Or is it a way that man chooses?

  • I think we need to ask that.

  • What about the guy that comes and says,

  • “I can’t be involved in anything like that, except I have images in my mind.”

  • He’s thinking about girls all the time.

  • What that text tells me, is there’s a way out for him.

  • Again, I think youre walking on dangerous ground if you say,

  • Well ya, the way out for him is God will help him clear his mind.”

  • I don’t believe that’s what that text means.

  • God will give a way out.

  • Now listen to this; Romans 8:13:

  • If by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.”

  • Let me tell you something, I think some of this,

  • some of this which is being argued for is coming from lost people,

  • but also I think it’s coming from some Christians

  • who are suffering from,

  • well really theyre guilty of a large dose of unbelief.

  • Theyre just not confident about the power of the Spirit.

  • Listen, you know what I know?

  • I know there are men in this room,

  • and women in this room

  • that have been delivered from masturbation and pornography altogether.

  • The same Spirit that delivered them can deliver you.

  • It’s a matter of faith, folks. We have to walk by faith.

  • You really have to have an expectation that with God all things are possible.

  • You know what? Most of the folks

  • that continue on in this and try to justify it,

  • they really don’t believe that the sexual impulses,

  • the bodily desires can be so subdued, that they can have victory.

  • That’s really where theyre coming from.

  • They say, “No I’ve got to take the edge off, I’ve got to be involved in this,

  • this is an outlet.”

  • What are you saying? Youre saying the Spirit of God is too weak to overcome that?

  • Even if it’s the greatest, strongest, most enslaving desire of the body.

  • What are we going to say? The Spirit of God isn’t stronger?

  • That’s crazy folks.

  • By the Spirit, deeds of the body can indeed be put to death.

  • Then I would bring this one up:

  • Just 2 texts. Hebrews 13:7: “Remember your leaders, those who spoke to you the word of God;

  • consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.”

  • And then Philippians 3:17:

  • Brothers, join in imitating me,

  • and keep your eyes on those who walk according to the example you have in us.”

  • You see what both of those texts are?

  • Theyre calls to follow godly leaders.

  • The one there in Hebrews,

  • Consider the outcome of the way of life of your leaders, imitate their faith.

  • Philippians 3:17: brothers, join in imitating me...” that’s Paul speaking

  • and keep your eyes on those who walk according to the example you have in us.”

  • Soimitate me, and imitate any others that are like me

  • is basically what he’s saying.

  • What I would ask you guys is this:

  • Come across the men and women who’s faith you admire the most,

  • and ask them if they masturbate.

  • I guarantee youll find they don’t.

  • I guarantee youll find men and women who have had victory.

  • Imitate them. Follow them.

  • I ask you this question:

  • Do you think the most godly men and women that you come across,

  • that you read about in history, were slaves to this?

  • Do you think that the Robert Murray M’Cheynes,

  • the Brainerds, these men who stayed single,

  • the Henry Martyns, these guys that stayed single and served the Lord,

  • that are written about in the history books, and in the biographies,

  • you think these guys were slaves to this?

  • You think they were knocking the edge off so they could get victory in these areas?

  • I’m telling you no.

  • If you doubt it,

  • start asking people that you respect,

  • people that you see walk with Christ, people that you see...

  • You know what I’ll guarantee you?

  • Look at the ones who are justifying this,

  • and you will find that they are people with not much spiritual depth.

  • I’ll guarantee you that’s the case.

  • Imitate those men. And if you don’t believe me,

  • I know it might be embarrassing, but you know what?

  • Mature Christians will not be afraid to answer that question.

  • Theyll pull you aside, and theyll tell you.

  • Ask them.

  • Mark my words, youre going to find

  • they have victory over sexual passions.

  • Theyre not slaves to them.

  • The last thing I would say here is this:

  • James 4:6. God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.

  • You say what is that about, how does that enter in here?

  • Oh folks, please, listen to me.

  • You know what I’ve found in my Christian life?

  • A lot of times, even God’s true children;

  • they stall out in victory over sin in a certain area of their life,

  • because of another sin.

  • In other words, they have some other...

  • Who is it that puts to death the deeds of the body?

  • You do, but by who’s power?

  • The Spirit’s; Romans 8:13.

  • Now here’s the thing, if you grieve that Spirit,

  • there’s where the grace and the power come from.

  • But what can happen is you can grieve the Spirit by another sin in your life

  • that gives you an inability to conquer sexual temptation.

  • And I’ll tell you one of the chief ones is pride.

  • Let me tell you something.

  • For some of you, this is going to hit right close to home.

  • Some of you have problems in this area because

  • youve got some resentment and bitterness towards God.

  • And it can fall out just like this:

  • Well I think I ought to have a husband

  • or “I think I ought to have a wife

  • and God hasn’t given me one,

  • and you know what, I don’t really like that.”

  • And you can begin to find fault with God, and begin to have a pity party,

  • that leads you into this kind of sin.

  • And you can begin to feel resentment towards God,

  • and what it is is it’s pride,

  • youre not willing to be humble before the Lord.

  • And if you would repent of that pride, you would repent of that bitterness,

  • you would come to humble yourself under the mighty hand of God,

  • and the situation He’s put you in...

  • You may not like your singleness,

  • but it’s where God has you right now,

  • and if you would humble yourself and submit yourself there,

  • you would find God give you grace.

  • But because of the pride in your life...

  • Listen to the text again.

  • God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

  • And one of the reasons you may not have the grace to overcome

  • is because you haven’t humbled yourself.

  • And you throw pity parties, and you have anger.

  • It may be an underlying thing, but you have some resentment and anger towards the Lord

  • that He hasn’t given you a girlfriend, He hasn’t given you a wife,

  • youre not courting anybody right now,

  • you don’t have a husband, it’s not working out the way you want,

  • you don’t like your situation;

  • and what your base problem is in all this,

  • it’s toward the Lord, it’s a pride matter. ’’

  • You want your own way, and you don’t like His way for your life,

  • and youre not content with where youre at right now.

  • Folks, consider that one.

  • That may have more to do with this than what you may know.

  • Well there’s that.

I’m dealing with these matters because there are

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