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  • - You're better at toast.

  • - No, let them hear you,

  • please, say-- - No, you're so good.

  • - No, say something nice. - Come on.

  • - He's shy.

  • Okay, to my husband I've been married to for two months

  • in one week.

  • It's been the best two months in one week ever.

  • - Cheers. - Cheers.

  • Welcome to Love Like!

  • A show about what love looks like today.

  • - And today we're your hosts!

  • Patrick and Paolo!

  • - Welcome to our home! - Yay, this is where we live.

  • Here's out living room-- - Family room.

  • Here's out kitchen-- - That's our dining room.

  • - Sorry, dining room, so what's, oh yeah.

  • - That's our kitchen.

  • You know you're a real Oprah fan if you have

  • a vision board, especially if you have two vision boards,

  • then you're like a hardcore Oprah fan.

  • One of these was supposed to be mine and one of these

  • was supposed to be his, but his visions are much grander

  • so he's taking-- - Wait, he has no vision!

  • You have, what is your vision, you have no vision!

  • - Take turns describing how you first met,

  • only one sentence at a time.

  • - Patrick massaged me.

  • - I was a massage therapist.

  • - And I went to go get a 25 minutes massage on my back.

  • - So I went into the quiet room and I said, "Paolo?"

  • and then he came out.

  • - I wasn't sure is Patrick was straight or gay when I

  • first met him, so I had to go back for a second massage.

  • - And then he came back for a third massage,

  • and after that third massage--

  • - I knew he was gay.

  • That sounds really bad!

  • No just, no because, I just knew.

  • - The rest is history.

  • - We're soul mates.

  • (laughing)

  • (upbeat music)

  • I kind of knew for a couple months that I wanted to get

  • Patrick rings.

  • I finally had surprised him when we took a trip to

  • San Francisco and that's where it all started.

  • (upbeat music)

  • - We were, like, playing around making videos and he

  • takes hi book bag off and puts it down and he's like dancing

  • on the train 'cause we're the only ones in there.

  • - Oh my God, this is so cool, we're in San Francisco,

  • I'm so happy!

  • What can go wrong?

  • - We get on the bar, we're like half way to the city

  • and then all of a sudden Paolo's like--

  • - No! My book bag!

  • He's like, "It's okay, it's okay!"

  • I'm like, "No it's not okay, like oh my God!"

  • - We finally find out that it's at the police station

  • in the air port.

  • - The thought they had to close the airport because

  • they thought I had some kind of bomb.

  • And I even told security 'cause he said,

  • "What's in your book bag?"

  • And I said the only thing I have in my book bag is

  • Oprah Magazine and then a watch.

  • - I was like, "We'll get you a new Oprah Magazine,

  • "it's okay."

  • - I didn't want to tell anyone about the rings because

  • I didn't want, like, this is like the one thing I worked

  • so hard to surprise him!

  • - He was straight up lying to them so I wouldn't know.

  • - I had one of our close friends, I text her,

  • I said, "Hey can you call Patrick?

  • "I need him distracted 'til I talk with security."

  • - So then I get on the phone with her and she's like,

  • "Oh my God, did you hear the new Britney album?

  • "I love track one, did you listen to track three?"

  • And I'm like panicking 'cause I'm like they're arresting

  • Paolo and then I hang up on her and then the door closes

  • and I'm like stuck outside by myself.

  • - The apologized to me and said that they found the book

  • bag and that it was okay.

  • But it was one of the scariest days of my life

  • because I did not want to lose the rings.

  • Like, how could I do that?

  • On March 13 of 2011, whem we went to the restaurant.

  • - When we walked in they were like,

  • "Oh, we have your table ready."

  • We have a beautiful view, we have our dinner,

  • we have wine, it's so beautiful and lovely.

  • - But I'm not really listening to him,

  • I just kept nodding my head because I kept thinking

  • about the rings and if this is all gonna work out.

  • - And then they come out with dessert.

  • - The waitress comes a box of rings on each dish,

  • one for me and one for Patrick.

  • I knew that this, this is the moment that I've been

  • waiting for.

  • We unwrap the box and then I just said that I want him,

  • when we can in the state of California,

  • I want him to be my husband.

  • - I feel like I kind of, maybe, didn't give the reaction

  • he wanted.

  • - I thought he'd be like, "Oh my God,

  • "this is so beautiful!"

  • - I just kept saying, "What are you doing?

  • "What are you doing? What are you doing?"

  • - He was just like, "Oh my God, what's happening right now?"

  • - My parents got divorced when I was in college so I was

  • kind of like, "Marriage is stupid, whatever."

  • - After I declared my love for him and why he means

  • the world to me, our conversation, kind of, it shifted.

  • - I just, kind of, told him exactly what I was feeling,

  • the anxiety about the idea of marriage.

  • - Once we started talking about it, that kind of like,

  • he just came back to us and the relationship

  • and what it means.

  • - It's not about being perfect, it's just about, you know,

  • being hopeful and giving it a shot and, you know,

  • seeing what happens.

  • - Our good friend Jameson's mom gave us these pillows

  • 'cause-- - For our wedding.

  • - For our wedding, do you get it?

  • Mister-- - And mister.

  • If I sit on the end of this bed to put my shoe on,

  • he yells at me.

  • - That's not, okay, it's just because it's so much

  • work fixing this damn bed!

  • I am so organized in our home,

  • we are so very neat.

  • I Swiffer the floor every day, I Windex, I Pledge,

  • I clean.

  • - Knowing him now, when he first came to my apartment

  • that I lived in when we met, I'm like,

  • "How did you not break up with me?"

  • Because I had, like, stacks of mail all over the place.

  • - Oh my God, his room was so dirty!

  • Piles of dirty clothes, his bathroom had junk.

  • Can he hear me say this?

  • - The fact that he stayed with me through that,

  • that's pretty good.

  • - If you can change one thing about me,

  • you would change?

  • - I would just make you a little more confident

  • 'cause you should be confident,

  • you have nothing to be insecure about.

  • Your favorite thing about me is blank?

  • - That's easy!

  • Your smile.

  • Your favorite thing about me is?

  • - How much you make me laugh. - Aww.

  • I don't really want to know this.

  • My worst habit is?

  • (Patrick laughs)

  • - Um, like, the way you eat.

  • It's really messy.

  • (humming)

  • You're gonna break my teeth with that.

  • - That's how he eats.

  • I spend a lot of time in the kitchen.

  • - I do not spend any time in the kitchen.

  • - And he's telling you the truth.

  • - The kitchen scares me, I go in there and I get water

  • and I get out immediately.

  • We've been together for eight years and I've never

  • helped him bake once, ever.

  • Is that true? - It's scary.

  • So I'm basically in a cage and I can't see anything,

  • and where are you, Patrick?

  • - I'm in the kitchen!

  • - I'm going to be telling Patrick how to make these cookies.