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  • -Today we're talking about ways to be more confident. -Yo man, I eat confidence for breakfast.

  • -You know there's a fine line between being cocky and being confident. -I know man, I totally hate those guys! Let's talk about that vid!

  • -Hey you're watching VidTalk on VoiceTube TV, I'm JR. -I'm Ray, and JR can you tell me again the phrase you just threw at me? What was it?

  • I eat confidence for breakfast?

  • -You eat confidence for breakfast. -Kind of delicious.

  • You know I have to reiterate, there is a fine line between being cocky, the obnoxious kind of confident, and being confident.

  • Yeah tell me about it, people are not modest these days. They totally need to learn about it.

  • But anyways, being confident to me, confidence.

  • You know it's about staying true to yourself and staying true to your goals in life, no matter what kind of pressure you're under.

  • How about you though?

  • To me, I think being confident is the belief in yourself and your ability and mastery to be able to achieve a goal?

  • -That doesn't sound quite confident. -That's a good point, because despite the fact that you know you might fail.

  • You're still going to go for it, you're still going to take the plunge.

  • That's blind faith. That's another thing.

  • Well we kind of disagree on the definition of confidence, but let's settle it with the standard definition from a dictionary,

  • so let's hear what the dictionary has to say about the word "confidence".

  • So the word "confidence" in the dictionary, its definition is "the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something".

  • So according to the dictionary, confidence is not just about believing in yourself, you can also have confidence in others.

  • So you can have faith in others or yourself.

  • So we're talking about this topic, this specific video today because me and Ray, you know we've been doing speeches all around Taiwan, on campus.

  • And we've been observing a lot of young students, and this is a general trend, something in common that we found together.

  • And it's that a lot of young Taiwanese, they lack confidence. They truly lack confidence.

  • A lot of times, there's a lot of great opportunities lying at their doorsteps, but they shy away from it.

  • -They don't dare to take that one first step. That first step out right there. -Out of their comfort zone.

  • Yeah and get out of their comfort zone, and try to do something new or fresh. They instead stay in their comfort zone.

  • And it's not because they don't have what it takes, it's because they're just too unconfident.

  • So today we're talking about this topic, this is going to be tips coming from us.

  • -I would like to think that I'm confident. Do you think you're confident? -I'm cocky!

  • So we've been to various speeches, public speakings, we've hosted various programs, so we have some experience giving tips to people

  • who are not confident enough, so today we're gonna share with you some tips but in particular we're going to talk about a video.

  • So this is a Ted-Ed video that is on the topic of how to be more confident, so we're gonna elaborate on some tips

  • and share with you some of our personal experiences, our stories, so that you can also learn to become more confident.

  • So our first tip for you is to believe in your ability to improve.

  • There's a catch here, you see, not just your ability but your ability to improve.

  • So you're not believing in your current ability, you're believing in the future basically.

  • -The potential. -Your potential to become better.

  • So if you have a fixed mindset where you think your talents are fixed and you can't go anywhere.

  • Then everything is gonna be like a dead end for you. But if you view every single challenge as a way to improve,

  • then that way, you will make slow progress but then you will get better and better and you will have more and more confidence.

  • So this is what the video calls the "growth mindset". It's just mainly talking about how people can grow in the future, and just picturing that in your mind.

  • And that's actually something I do with my own students. I'm a counselor for young college students at my church.

  • And usually I get a lot of questions from them, a lot of problems from them, saying that they don't have confidence.

  • How about this, let's do some roleplay, you be my young student.

  • -So my character is... -You're a student who lacks confidence and thinks he's not doing good in his faith. -Okay.

  • I'm so depressed, JR, I feel like a rotting pile of junk.

  • Well, maybe it's true.

  • What the heck! You have to stay in character! You're a counselor! You have to console me.

  • I'm sorry I couldn't help it. I'll do good this time.

  • -Take two! -Take two.

  • JR, I just feel like a rotting pile of junk.

  • Okay so Ray right? That's your name? Ray for how long have you come to church so far?

  • -About seven years. -Seven years and you haven't made any progress?

  • -What the heck! You have to stay in character! You're a counselor! You're supposed to counsel me.

  • Okay one more take, I'll do this right this time. I can't help it.

  • -I've been here seven years. -That was so fun. -I've been here seven years.

  • So you've been here for seven years, okay Ray I want you to picture yourself sevens years ago. Look at yourself seven years ago.

  • Have you made any changes? Have you made a difference? In your personality, in your attitude in life?

  • Come to think of it, yes I did. I changed quite a lot.

  • Right! You changed quite a lot! Now picture yourself seven years from now. Is it fair to say that you'll make quite the same amount of change?

  • Or even more change in the future?

  • It's kinda hard to picture it but if I imagine the last seven years of progress and I replicate it to the future.

  • Then maybe yeah, that seems really plausible.

  • Right. That's exactly right. That's how you build confidence. That is the so-called growth mindset,

  • when you picture yourself the potential to grow, so that's how we do it.

  • So as a counselor you're kind of implementing the growth mindset into your students,

  • so that they can believe not just in their current ability, which is kind of lacking, but also in their future ability.

  • And it's not a trick, cos you're actually thinking about your past, the things you've actually done in the past

  • -and then you just replicate it to the future. -Thinking more positively. -Wow I can do the same or even better than before.

  • So that's a very good first tip.

  • Okay tip number two, practice failure.

  • Now face it! You're gonna fail in your lifetime once in a while. Well it doesn't apply to me but for you muggles, pretty true.

  • You're gonna fail once, twice, three times, a hundred times in your life. Everybody does. Except for me.

  • You're really trying to get that point across, are you?

  • I'm just kidding. I'm just joking. Just playing with you.

  • But according to studies, according to this video, it says that people who fail regularly and get back up again, challenge again.

  • They eventually get better equipped to respond to challenges and setbacks in their life, in a very constructive way.

  • You know to me personally this is very true because I think in my sophomore year, I've always aspired to become a broadcaster.

  • You did? So this is the dream for you. We're living it.

  • Right that is, but I've come a long way. In the past when I was still in college it was really a far-fetched dream

  • because it's really hard for me to get into any kind of radio station, but eventually I did,

  • I got into National Education Radio, and then I was a news anchor.

  • And boy did I fail hardcore. I missed lines, I stuttered, my mind went blank. I made really bad mistakes.

  • -I know how that feels. -And after every broadcast I'm kinda like a little bit worried, because I'd be like thinking, will they fire me after this?

  • -Should I resign? -Right. I made really glaring mistakes.

  • -As an ICRT broadcastor in the past, you should relate to this right? -Yeah I was a broadcastor there.

  • -However, there is a dividing line between amateur and professional. -That is the definition of cockiness right here. -I'm just playing.

  • But the message we're trying to deliver to you, the takeaway from the video is,

  • you should not just look at your current ability. However incompetent, however miserable, however failing you current situation is,

  • you should always put faith in your future self as long as you have this growth mindset, as long as you are developing,

  • you should believe in your future ability to improve and to conquer different obstacles.

  • So every failure that you're facing, every hurdle that you're taking. It's for your better good and in the future, you will reach your goal and your milestone.

  • Wow I feel all pumped up right now, and if you wanna find out where Ray's inspirational speech came from,

  • well check out this video right now and we will be back with our weekly challenge.

  • It isn't possible to completely untangle these three factors, but the personal choices we make certainly play a major role in confidence development.

  • So, by keeping in mind a few practical tips, we do actually have the power to cultivate our own confidence.

  • Welcome to the weekly challenge section of VidTalk, today we've chosen one sentence out of the video and here is the sentence.

  • So, by keeping in mind a few practical tips, we do actually have the power to cultivate our own confidence.

  • So here we're looking at the phrase keep in mind, so what does that mean JR?

  • -Well keep in mind means to, you remember this. -I don't think that's it, no. -Not in that tone, but it does mean to not forget.

  • But there's kinda a difference between remember and keep in mind, cause like your mom would tell you, on your way home remember to...

  • buy some eggs. Remember to buy some eggs on your way home. But you wouldn't say, on your way home keep in mind, buy some eggs.

  • -Sounds really off. -It's wrong.

  • The reason why is because remember is more used for a single event, like a short one.

  • But keep in mind is something you need to focus on, something important. So that's keep in mind.

  • So you can make a sentence using keep in mind, for example, by keeping in mind something, you can something.

  • Or you can say keep in mind that something, but remember it needs to be important things that you want to remember for a long time.

  • Like in the movie, they usually say, keep in mind I'll be watching you.

  • Right, so that's a good example.

  • Alright. So leave your comments below and we just might choose your comment for the show next week.

  • Thank you for liking, commenting, and sharing this video!

  • And remember to subscribe to VoiceTube TV right up here and come back every Thursday night for a new episode of VidTalk.

  • Remember to subscribe to us, JR and Ray. This is rayduenglish down here and jrleeradio down here. Subscribe.

  • And right now let's go to our comments left by you guys in our last episode.

  • Alright so this is what we got, and last week we were talking about the phrase "call it a day", "call it a career". What does that mean?

  • So to end a day's work, or to end one's career.

  • Right and we got four comments right here. This is from Taboffer, one of our favorite listeners by the way.

  • He said: "JR and Ray will not call it a career until they're eighty." Really?

  • -I think that's too long. Thirty-ish? -You wouldn't want to see us on the screen when we're thirty.

  • Anyways he keeps on saying: "So we are gonna have thousands of episodes of VidTalk".

  • That is... well if you subscribe to us, we won't have to pack up and go home. Subscribe up here.

  • This is the next one funnyputz: "Since I learned the phrase call it a career from this video, I decided to call it a day and go to my warm bed. Choose me!"

  • -Didn't we? -Yeah we did choose you.

  • Next one is Mong Chi Shih, I think we selected yours last time, but this is a good sentence.

  • "Undoubtedly, the best way to call it a night is relaxing by watching VidTalks on VoiceTube and to be happy with what Ray and JR share."

  • That's sweet. That's sweet and a good sentence. And by the way he says "I really look like a monkey."

  • -Too much information. -(monkey sounds). That was hello.

  • Last but not least, Mou Brent, he said: "Allen dedicated to follow his father's footsteps to be a real estate agent, after his father decided to call it a career."

  • -This is like a sentence that came out of a textbook. -Yeah this is a really good one. Good job.

  • These are the comments for today, remember to leave your comments for this week's challenge below within the comment section right here.

  • And that wraps up the day!

  • -I'm JR, -I'm Ray, -And we'll talk to you next time.

-Today we're talking about ways to be more confident. -Yo man, I eat confidence for breakfast.

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    Ray Du posted on 2015/12/10
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