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  • I think what hurts the most is when you're young, and someone makes fun of the way you look.

  • Because you can't control that.

  • I've gotten shoved into lockers.

  • I was bullied by a small group of boys, like about three boys.

  • My friends always said I was kind of easy to make fun of, but it felt like it always came from a place of love, I hope.

  • When I was a little kid, I was a little chunkier than everybody else and all the other girls, so people noticed that I was different,

  • and they'd like to touch my stomach or point it out.

  • Today, I think I would say, in response to that, "I think you meant, can I touch your six-pack?"

  • A guy once told me that I would be much hotter if I had a bigger butt.

  • So, my response to that guy would be: "My butt does not need your approval to be 'fantasstic'."

  • I was a skinny kid, but I didn't really have a flat stomach.

  • I had a little extra baby fat that kinda hung around.

  • So they always told me that it looked like I had a little kangaroo pouch.

  • And to this day, they still will mention it.

  • When I was growing up, kids would tell me that I was adopted because it's impossible for a brown girl to have a white mom.

  • Well, my dad is from India, so white plus brown is a lighter shade of brown.

  • "Did you even listen during middle school science? 'Cause that's not how genetics work."

  • The mean comment I remember hearing about my body was that I had no butt.

  • I think many African American communities, having a big butt is very, like, it's looked up upon.

  • But it was really, like, that one comment one time that got me to realize, like, "Oh my God, something's wrong with my body."

  • To the person who made that comment I would say that, "Maybe I'm not your cup of tea, but my body is fine the way it is."

  • It was about two to three different bullies, and they just would all say I was ugly.

  • One of them specifically, whenever he saw me in the hallway, he would run the opposite direction, and just make, like, a huge scene about it.

  • People do that out of fear, they do it to fit in.

  • So, in fifth grade, a boy who was in my class told me that I had fat thighs.

  • My response to him now would be that, "My thighs were not fat, they were strong!"

  • Now, I actually, like, think I have really great thighs.

  • The thing that I got teased most for was my mustache and my general body hair.

  • And my name is Fazeelat.

  • Fuzzy was a really easy nickname.

  • It's because of people like you, who picked on me and hurt me, that I became as strong as I am today.

  • I feel bad for people that feel a need to bully other kids 'cause it's probably just coming from a really dark place.

  • So, instead of trying to fix themselves, they're just trying to make you feel bad about yourself and say mean things about you.

  • Work on being comfortable with your own body, and be around people that love you.

  • Don't let their words affect how you feel about yourself.

  • They're probably jealous of how pretty your skin is.

I think what hurts the most is when you're young, and someone makes fun of the way you look.

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