Name: Stop Being Shy in Meetings: 5 Communication Mistakes Holding You Back
Uploaded: 2026-03-10T17:37:26.000Z
Duration: 18 min 53 s
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Have you recently been told you should share your ideas more in meetings or you should socialize more with the directors?

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Or the classic you need to speak up more.

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When someone says those things to you, it likely hits a nerve because it feels as though they're ignoring everything that you already do.

Deep down, you're thinking, I'm one of the hardest working people here.

You meet your deadlines, you're thoughtful, you're capable, you're detailed, you care.

And you're the person that everyone can count on when things get stressful.

And yet, when it comes to visibility, influence and promotions, you're seen as not yet leadership material.

In other words, you're not being seen as the leader that you know you could be and that is holding you back from advancing in your career.

This is not because there is something wrong with you as an individual.

It is purely due to several communication mistakes that you are making that you may not even realize you're making that is causing you to be seen this way in your job, in your office, in your organization.

These handful of communication mistakes that I'm going to address and talk about today are the things that are quietly keeping you stuck at the same level, quietly keeping you stagnating in the same position and not being seen as that promotion material, that next level material that you know you deserve to be.

And the good news is, if you start to fix them, people will start responding to you differently, they will start trusting you differently, they will start including you differently.

And that is what changes the trajectory of your career.

if you're ready, buckle in and hang on tight because we're going to get started.

So there's several things that we're going to discuss.

The first is you're going to understand why speaking up is vital in today's workplace, especially right now with the world of AI that we're in.

Second, we're going to talk about the five communication mistakes that Quiet Achievers are making and how you can fix them.

And lastly, you're going to learn two specific communication frameworks that you can start implementing immediately.

If you want to enhance your communication, the goal is not to become louder, it's to become trusted.

Because trust is what is going to get you promoted in your career.

Now, just before we get into it, if you want to go deeper, if you want the exact framework that I'm discussing, make sure that you type the word confident down in the comments, down below so that you can get access to my Speak Confidently in Meetings PDF guide for free.

It will give you the scripts, phrases and guidance on how you can speak up more clearly more confidently in your next meeting at work.

So be sure to write in the word confident down in the comments below.

Now, if you clicked on this, it's likely because you are someone who is naturally a little more quiet, a little bit more reserved, a little bit more introverted in a group setting.

You are not the type of person who's going to dominate the room, and

you're also not the type of person who's just going to talk just for the sake of talking.

And I know because I wrote an entire book on this topic of being a quiet Achiever and helping quiet achievers over the last 10 years to advance in their careers.

And so I understand that there are several things that you can shift and change in the way that you show up, in the way that you communicate that will help you to go from invisible to influential in your career As a quiet Achiever, I fully understand you.

You don't complain, you don't even prefer to have attention on you.

You just want to do a great job and be respected and rewarded for it.

And for a lot of us quiet achievers who come from an immigrant background, maybe you were a child of immigrants, you're an immigrant yourself, or you grew up in a non western culture.

The challenges of communic that you're experiencing go even deeper in non western cultures and upbringings.

We grow up believing the ideas of work hard and stay humble, don't draw attention to yourself, respect authority, don't challenge people older than you, don't embarrass the family, be grateful to be in the room.

And most importantly, you were taught, don't show off, don't be overly cocky or confident, don't talk about your wins.

And so you learned to be excellent but in a quiet way.

But what happens is as you grow up and you become an adult and you end up working in a western environment, what you realize is quiet excellence can accidentally be interpreted as no leadership presence, no executive communication, no influence.

And I know how unfair that feels because you are likely the most hardworking person on your team and yet you are lacking visibility.

People do not see you as a trusted leader that they turn to for guidance, for insight, insights and yet, you're the most capable person on the team.

And the good news is these are learnable skills.

I grew up born and raised here in Canada.

However, my parents are from Southeast Asia and I grew up with the same mindset of be humble, don't speak out of line, don't rock the boat, don't show off, don't talk positively about yourself.

And I grew up with a deep lack of confidence throughout my schooling and even my early adulthood years in my career.

And that caused me to really struggle in those early years as a CPA in a Big four accounting firm, when I was working alongside partners and senior executives and important clients and not knowing how to speak up.

And it's over the last more than last decade that I've had to learn for myself while helping thousands of professionals to advance in their careers, what it really takes to get to that next level in your career, and

what it really takes to show up in a confident, calm way as a strong communicator, as someone that people can turn to and see you as a trusted leader.

And if I can do it successfully, as well as the clients in our Quiet to Cough Confident program can do it successfully, so can you.

As an example, one of our clients, Attitudn, a project manager, shared with me that before joining our program, she felt that she was overly focused on how people perceived her.

she felt that her background wasn't good enough for her to belong in the room or to speak up in meetings.

And once she focused on her strengths and honing in on her expertise and she learned the key structures, frameworks and strategies that I teach in the Quiet to Confident program, she has been showing up differently.

She's been able to speak up intentionally in meetings, she's built deeper relationships with her co workers, and

now she feels much more confident and clear on the trajectory of her career in her organization.

So let's address the first question, which is why is communication so important in 2026 and beyond and something that you need to work on?

And the answer to that is because we are in something that is called a visibility era.

We're also in something called an AI and layoff era.

In the past, up until very recently, working hard in your job, doing really good, strong, technical used to be enough.

Doing the technical details in your job used to be enough.

But now with AI on the scene, that no longer applies.

If AI can Do more and more of the technical work, then what separates you isn't more of what you can do.

It's whether people trust you in real time.

It's whether you can communicate your expertise in a way that moves things forward.

And if you're not visible, your ideas, your suggestions, your recommendations, your decisions will not be considered.

And the reason for this is because those who are visible are memorable.

And decision makers will promote people that they can remember.

They promote the people who can create the clarity under pressure.

They promote the people who can walk into a meeting room and make the whole room feel more organized, more calm, and

I'm already working so much, I don't have time to play these games, the answer to that is, I know, I get it.

But that is why it is more important than ever for you now to start implementing new ways of being and doing in your job without having to spend more hours at your job.

This is the moment to upgrade how you're being perceived without working more hours.

Okay, so let's get into the five mistakes that are causing you to struggle with your communication.

Now, on the surface, you can play this off and say, oh, I'm just being professional.

But most of the time, this is due to fear.

You're waiting for exactly the right thing to say.

You're waiting for a perfect person to ask you directly to share.

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