Name: 大部分人不願接受的人生真相 - Naval Ravikant 納瓦爾 |《納瓦爾寶典》原文作者
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People who break their back and people who win the lottery are back to their baseline happiness two years later.

Whether you're happy or unhappy at the end, it tends not to last.

If you get that thing, then you get used to it, and then you get bored again.

Then a few months later, you want something else.

You live long enough, you'll be a philosopher.

Philosophy is just when you find the hidden, generalizable truths.

I think it's just basically being okay with where you are not wanting.

Not wanting things to be different than the way they are.

Not having the sense that anything is missing in this moment.

I always like the Socrates story where he goes into the marketplace and they show him all these luxuries and fineries, and

he says, how many things there are in this world that I do not want.

So not wanting something is as good as having it.

Ironically, I think most people, if you were to ask them when they were happiest for a sustained period of time, not for a brief moment, because pleasure can override happiness and create kind of this illusion of happiness.

But if you ask people when they were happy for a sustained period of time, they were probably doing some variation of nothing.

That's interesting, because in the chase is this sort of lack, this contingency.

If you just sit around all the time, you get bored.

So you want adventure, you want surprise.

Like, there's the funny thought experiment of the bliss machine, right?

Which is, suppose I could drill a hole in your head and put an electrode in, and

I can stimulate just the right part of your brain, and

I can put you in bliss, and you'll just be in bliss.

So most people will say, well, I don't want that.

And if you kind of run this thought experiment long enough, I think most people realize actually what I want is I want surprise.

I want to wrestle with it in ways that are somewhat predictable, but somewhat not.

For some people, pure happiness is the ultimate goal.

They want to, you know, just be blissfully happy wherever they are, whenever they are.

But I think other people, most people would say, well, I'm here in this world.

I don't understand it or why, but I want to be.

I want to be engaged, I want to be surprised, I want to do things, I want to accomplish things, I want to want things and then get them right.

That's kind of the whole game that we're all playing here.

If nothing worked out the way you expected, if it was all serendipity and you didn't want that, you would just be a ball of anxiety.

On the other hand, if everything worked out as you expected and wanted, you'd be so bored you might as well be dead.

So there's some, you know, the river of life kind of flows between these two banks.

You hear from a lot of successful people, they look back and they say, oh, the journey was the fun part.

That was actually the entertaining part and I should have enjoyed it more.

And the journey is not only the reward, the journey is the only thing there is, even success.

It's human nature to bank it very, very quickly.

Because the normal loop that we run through is you sit around, you're bored, then you want something.

Then when you want something, you decide you're not going to be happy until you get that thing.

Then you start your bout of suffering or anticipation while you strive to get that thing.

If you get that thing, then you get used to it and then you get bored again.

Then a few months later you want something else.

And if you don't get it, then you're unhappy for a bit and then you get over it and then you want something else.

So whether you're happy or unhappy at the end, it tends not to last.

Now, I don't want to be glib and say that, oh, there's no point in making money or being successful.

That said, there are those, those stories.

I don't know if you've seen those studies.

I would say in general, this, this loop that we run through of desire, dopamine, fulfillment, unfulfillment, like, you have to enjoy the journey.

99% of your time is spent on the journey.

So what kind of a journey is it if you're not going to enjoy it?

The worst outcome in the world is not having self esteem.

I look at the people who don't like themselves and that's the Toughest slot because they're always wrestling with themselves.

And it's hard enough to face the outside world.

And no one's gonna like you more than you like yourself.

So if you're struggling with yourself, then the outside world becomes an insurmountable challenge.

To some extent, self esteem is a reputation you have with yourself.

You know what you're doing, and you have your own moral code.

But if you don't live up to your own moral code, the same code that you hold others to, it will damage your self esteem.

So perhaps one way to build up your self esteem is to live up to your own code.

Another way to raise your self esteem might be to do things for others.

If I look back on my life and what are the moments that I'm actually proud of?

It's not the material success, it's not having learned this thing or that.

It's when I made a sacrifice for somebody or something that I loved.