Name: 聽演講 | 學英文 | 這是我聽過關於“自愛”最温柔的詮釋（備好紙巾）！學會愛自己，餘生皆温柔！Learn English with Speech 英語学習 英文演讲 ted talks
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You are who you've been looking for, so stop looking for more.

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Unless you're looking in a mirror, because it's about time for you to see clearly that you are who you've been looking for.

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And that empty feeling you got, that hole in your chest?

You only got that feeling because you think you're not blessed with everything you need.

You see, we live in a consumerist society, which means they need you to buy stuff.

And the easiest way to sell it is to tell you you're not enough.

And we're seeing it so much that we start believing these lies.

But the truth is, the makeup they're selling to make you feel prettier is the same makeup you buy to stop feeling shittier about this lie they keep telling you that you are not enough.

But if you can't love yourself, how can you ever love me?

And loving yourself, what does that even mean?

Like massages and selfies and that sort of thing?

Because the more I think about it, the more it feels weird.

I've always thought self love was something to be feared.

I've been taught that arrogance is bad and vanity, it's not good.

And even my bracelets are telling me to act how Jesus would.

Well, I got a trick that I picked up from a friend that noticed that I was quick to defend her.

When she'd say something negative about herself, she'd say, I'm so dumb.

And when she said, I feel ugly and I said, you look beautiful, she asked me why I was so dutifully filling up her cup constantly and yet treating my own cup so irresponsibly.

Because when I looked in the mirror, my voice was quite clear.

You're ugly, you're too thin, your hairline's receding, and you got a pimple on your chin.

And that was when she gave me a piece of advice that changed my life.

She gave me a hug and she said, treat yourself like someone you love.

And now I had been standing, but I needed to be sitting.

Because I couldn't believe that I had been letting myself keep forgetting that I was who I'd been looking for.

And deep in my core, I knew it was time to stop looking for more.

Until I could look through all my fear and look into a mirror and see clearly that the man looking back at me is the only one who can make me happy.

And I'm not any more special or unique than you.

And when you start to see that, you will start to be that your world will get brighter, your load will get lighter.

And you can see that with life, you can be a lover, not a fighter.

And that life, you deserve it because you are worth it.

And there's no point in letting yourself keep forgetting.

Because no matter what you say or do, you are perfect.

And so today, I hope I leave you with a direction correction away from the flaws you see in your reflection.

They are simply protection against all the doubts you have of your perfection.

Take a good long look in the mirror and say, I am who I've been looking for.

That poem is one of the most viral in history.

It has been viewed over 250 million times.

When it was first posted in 2018, it spread like wildfire.

And overnight, I saw an explosion in my social media following.

I got invitations to speak all around the world, and I dropped into a deep, suicidal depression.

I was in Bali when it happened, because that's where you go when you're a hippie and you're healing from a breakup.

Tropical weather, great food, beautiful sunsets.

And one morning, I turn on my phone and I immediately notice that something's different.

I have thousands upon thousands of new followers.

It got 40 million views in the first 48 hours.

In fact, it would continue to get more than a million views a day for the next several months.

Most of them being messages of appreciation.

I sent this to my mom, my brother, my girlfriend.

But for every nine of those, there was one that was very different.

One that would say something like, I don't know how to love myself.

My husband hits me and I'm too scared to leave.

I had a poem that was getting millions of views a day, but

I didn't know how to respond to people who needed something more than a poem.

I felt so much shame and guilt that my body began to break down until eventually I found myself.

One day I locked away in a dark hotel room, feverish, shivering, covered in sweat, unable to open the curtains because any amount of light was excruciatingly painful to my eyes and my head.

And what I didn't know at the time was that moment was the beginning of a long and painful journey.

A multi year quest deep into depression so that I could find the answer that I didn't have.

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聽演講 | 學英文 | 這是我聽過關於“自愛”最温柔的詮釋（備好紙巾）！學會愛自己，餘生皆温柔！Learn English with Speech 英語学習英文演讲 ted talks

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聽演講 | 學英文 | 這是我聽過關於“自愛”最温柔的詮釋（備好紙巾）！學會愛自己，餘生皆温柔！Learn English with Speech 英語学習 英文演讲 ted talks

constantly

depression

content

matter

聽演講 | 學英文 | 這是我聽過關於“自愛”最温柔的詮釋（備好紙巾）！學會愛自己，餘生皆温柔！Learn English with Speech 英語学習英文演讲 ted talks