Name: you can actually choose how you want to feel
Uploaded: 2026-01-15T16:37:33.000Z
Duration: 5 min 23 s
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Have you ever realized that you can choose how you feel all the time?

Like, we can choose how we feel every day?

The moment you wake up in the morning, you can literally decide that today I will feel at peace or calm or happy or grateful, regardless of what's happening.

But the thing is, for such a long time, we have programmed our brain to associate feelings with outer experiences and circumstances.

So we link negative emotions with some certain events and positive emotions with some other events.

For example, we form a belief that we have to feel bad when something unpleasant happens, or we have to feel bored when life is slow.

We have to feel frustrated when things don't go our way, we have to feel disappointed when we don't get what we want, or we have to feel hurt when someone judges or criticizes us.

And of course, we also believe that we can only feel happy when something pleasant or favorable happens.

When life is full of exciting adventures and positive changes, when everything is happening in the exact same way that we want, when we get the exact same thing that we want, or when other people are showing us a lot of support and love and respect, or when they are praising us.

All of this makes us susceptible to external changes.

And we ride an emotional roller coaster every day.

Our emotions are fluctuating and changing every minute according to what's happening in the outside world.

And the attitude that all the people are showing us isn't that tiring.

I don't know if you are tired of being controlled and influenced by other people and by the external world or not.

But like me, I am so sick and tired of that.

It's so crazy that I gave the world and other people the right to control my inner world when it's my world is my world.

And I have the right and the power to decide everything that is happening inside me, including the thoughts, beliefs and emotions I have, the information that I want to absorb, the energy that I want to create and maintain, and

But I gave the world and people that power.

I realized a harsh truth that changed me forever.

And that is outer circumstances and other people can only make you feel bad when you allow them to do so.

It's like you open the gate to your inner world and you just let whatever wants to enter come in and make a mess.

You know, like disappointment, frustration, anxiety, fear, doubt.

All these emotions dominate your mind because you let them do so.

Other people's opinions about you make you feel insecure because you let them do so.

Stop giving them the power to control your inner world.

Actively choose how you want to feel every day and stay committed to that choice.

Like every day when you wake up, choose how you want to feel throughout the day.

For example, when I wake up, I say to myself, okay, today I want to feel at peace.

And once I've made my choice, I've also made up my mind.

I have decided how I want to feel and I'm not going to allow anything or anyone to change it.

Your mind is the only thing you can control.

You can never control what's happening in the outside world, right?

You can never control what's happening in someone else's mind, but

you can have full control over how you feel, what you think and what you believe in.

But you are telling me that you are giving the bad weather, the traffic jam, the financial difficulty, or some random guys or girls the right to mess up with your inner world.

AKA the only territory that you can truly own and take control over.

You deserve peace and happiness, but only you can bring peace and happiness to yourself.

Only you can protect your peace and happiness.

So yeah, just make decisions on how you want to feel every day and stay committed to those decisions.

Making decisions is one thing, but you have to stay committed to it.

And you always have to ask yourself the question, okay, is this bringing me peace and is this bringing me calm?

If it doesn't, it has to go and just eliminate that from your mind.

Just keep doing that every day, every minute and then it will become a habit and you'll see when you can protect your own peace and happiness, you will always feel safe and secure and at peace on your own.

You don't have to seek anything from the external world to make you feel at peace.

You have yourself and that's all you need.

That's everything that I want to share in today's video.

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you can actually choose how you want to feel

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