Name: Top 1% Secrets To Make ANYONE Respect You Instantly
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If you want to be respected, liked and taken seriously, your actions matter more than anything.

Gerund

You see, I spent years working with the top business owners and starting my own multimillion dollar business.

So I've seen firsthand the differences between the people who get respect versus those who get overlooked.

So these are the five ways to make anyone respect you.

Do you want to be respected or do you want to be liked?

I am a natural people pleaser and I think this should shocks people who meet me today because I don't have traditional people pleasing qualities any longer.

And that's because I have made active choices for the last decade to not choose to be liked more than I want to be respected.

See, when you don't know which one of the two you're going after, you can get confused.

Because when you're meeting people and you want to please people, you can end up pleasing the wrong people.

And I can honestly say that until my early 20s, I always prioritized people liking me and what people thought about me more than choosing the right people to respect me.

And what happens when you prioritize people liking you is you compromise.

You spend time around people who do things that you actually disagree with, but

because you want to be liked, not respected, you don't say anything.

You don't change the environment, heaven forbid, you don't correct them.

You just keep going on agreeing to things that actually make you feel like you're compromising in order to be respected.

The first person who has to respect you is you.

So when you think about who you spend your time with today, are you making compromises?

Are you feeling like you have to make people happy or like they have to like you over the things that you know you need to do in order to respect yourself?

When I first went to college, I wasn't really the partying type.

However, the friends that I was hanging out with did like to party and they liked to drink more than I like to drink.

But I didn't know how to stop spending time with them because.

So I just fell into this role where I would be there, I would always be the sober one.

But I was wasting all of my time trying to get them to like me or think that I was cool because I was still in the environment.

It took me longer than it should have to extract myself from that environment.

And not that there's any judgment that I have for people trying to figure their lives out while in college, but

I know that for me, I was making decisions at that time based off of what somebody else thought and what somebody else wanted me to do instead of prioritizing the decisions that I knew would allow me me.

Remember, without respect, your voice just gets drowned out and your authority will be entirely ignored, no matter how friendly or charming you actually are.

You have to establish clear boundaries, show competence, communicate with authority to start to earn respect.

Consistency over long periods of time creates confidence.

It is easy to just go into the gym for a couple of days and you get all excited about it and you buy your cute workout clothes and you start to think, man, I'm gonna finally take control of my health and wellness journey.

But if you fast forward two weeks and you're no longer in the gym, your confidence in your ability to stick to your word goes down.

That is the exact same thing that happens with the people in your life when you tell them that you are going to show up for them and you are going to make it to dinner and you back out last minute because you don't feel like it, you don't want to, you don't feel good, you are not going to build confidence that you're the type of person that does what they say that they're going to do.

So every decision that you make when whether it's consistent or inconsistent, is giving somebody an understanding of how much confidence they can have in you.

Now extrapolate this to the work that you do.

Whether you're a team member, you own a business.

When you say that you're going to get something done, do you do it by that time?

When you say that you're going to follow up, do you actually follow up?

You see, people learn by how you follow up, by how you show up over long periods of time if they can or can't count on you.

I know instantly who I can and can't count on.

And the people who I count on are the people who always follow up with me.

And if they follow up with me consistently for six months, if they happen to miss something, I'm not that worried about it because I know by their actions that they are a consistent person.

But if they sometimes follow up, sometimes don't follow up, sometimes do what they say they're going to do, sometimes they don't say what they're going to do, I'm just going to bypass them.

And when you bypass somebody in an organization, all of a sudden you start to ask yourself, well, why do I need this person if I'm going to end up having to do their job?

And yet when you talk to the person, all they want is more opportunity.

They want to be trusted with more, they want to handle more, they want to make more money, they want to do big things, but

they can't even handle what's in front of them.

This is actually why respect doesn't just happen overnight.

If you say that you're going to do something.

And what's also cool is you don't have to commit to something.

If you have no intention to do it, that's fine too.

One of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is not just setting boundaries, but

is actually getting other people to respect those boundaries.

The first is creating them, the second is enforcing them.

When it comes to setting boundaries, the first thing that you have to ask yourself is what are you not willing to tolerate in your environment?

Pull out a piece of paper or maybe the notes app on your phone and list the types of behaviors that you will not tolerate from people who work with you, who spend time with you, who are friends with you, what are the things that are absolute no's for you.

From that list, you can then start to create the list of characteristics that you would expect of the greatest people who would come into your life.

then you also have a list of this is what I would expect of the best people, people that might not even know who I am to represent and bring into my life.

Once you have that list, you then have to look at how do I spend my time and do I spend my time?

Because if you don't have great people in your life, it might be because you aren't living in the same value set as the people that you want to bring in your life.

So of course they're never gonna wanna spend time with you.

When I first started wanting to spend time with Elena Cardone, I realized that if she hung out with me for a day, I would have to tell her and talk to her about things that I was interested in and things that I was doing at the time.

I didn't hold myself accountable to goals that I was setting.

I was wishy washy about what I did or didn't want for my future.

I wasn't able to clearly communicate the personal goals that I had for myself.

And so I spent six months Becoming the type of person that Elena would want to be friends with.

So that when I did have the opportunity to meet her, to spend time around her, we had similar shared interests.

When she wanted to go to the gym on the very first trip that we took together, I wasn't embarrassed by how out of shape I was because I had already started to go to the gym.

So you have your list of the things that you want, and

when it comes to the list of things that you don't want, here's the challenge.

When it comes to the things that you don't want and the boundaries that you are setting where you would kick somebody out of your life for violating those boundaries, it can be incredibly difficult to draw a hard line.

I can't tell you how many people have, to my face, made disrespectful comments, have laughed at me, have lessened my role, have not taken me seriously.

It's challenging to actually say, you no longer get a spot here because they're already there for a reason.

They're there because you've known them for a while, because you hired them.

You thought that they were gonna help you, and they were responsible for something.

And I have always found that if somebody is violating a boundary that I have and I get rid of them in my life, my life has never gotten worse.

But if you think that things are gonna get worse, be challenging, everything's just gonna meltdown.

When you get rid of people that aren't respecting you, then you're not going to get rid of them.

But I can promise you, just trust me on this.

You are going to be amazed because you will not go backwards.

You will actually springboard forward because you don't have somebody constantly invalidating you.

Now we're on to number four, one of my favorites.

The easiest way to get respect is to be great at something.

If you aren't great at anything, hard to think about.

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