Name: It Took Me 39 Years to Realize What I’ll Tell You in 14 Minutes
Uploaded: 2026-01-02T18:04:46.000Z
Duration: 14 min 6 s
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What if I told you that you're not focused on the right things in life?

To-infinitive

What if all this time you spent trying to crack the code, asking why things happen, what it all means, where it's headed, was actually a distraction?

Gerund

I'm going to save you 20 years of suffering because what you're really looking for is so much simpler.

Although it's going to take me 30 years to learn.

Oscar Wilde actually had an amazing line about the punishment for knowing exactly what you want to be is that you know exactly what you want to be.

The real journey is in waking up every day and.

And figuring out more and more who you're supposed to be.

I went into sales, I went into finance, I worked in startups.

Now I own a bunch of businesses and started investing in these small businesses until they were big, huge businesses.

But I don't think I found my actual path until five years ago.

You know, my mom used to say the grass is greener, but that's not true.

I just kept learning and growing because the most boring journey of all would be one that's a straight line.

You were meant to have a bunch of curves, curveballs, a bunch of maybes and could have dones and a bunch of missed shots that later on you find out, we're so grateful you never took.

Ten years ago, I got pushed out for the first time from a company.

And I was heartbroken, like I had given my all to this company.

I had made them millions and millions of dollars.

So I spent a few literal months depressed, anxious, upset, until my father told me a story.

He said, life is often filled with nails we step on and we could spend our lives trying to figure out why it got there, who did it, whose fault it was, or we could just pull out the nail and feel it.

So at that point, I finally realized it was the greatest gift I could ever have.

And that's when I first started truly betting on myself, investing in things.

I owning some of these businesses, not listening to people who told me that I wasn't good enough.

That's when I had my first really big personal win.

You're Supposed to move through it like a river.

You want to be on a boat, not on a rock that has to stand steady and never move and never sees anything differently.

And, you know, some of us are just born with the bite in us.

I was deep in a relationship with a person who completely lied to me.

The only thing I could do or even think about doing was moving out of that city.

I didn't know how to walk the streets there anymore.

It inspired me to go become the person I wanted to be, that I didn't feel like another person had to choose me.

You don't have to be stronger or brave or have more courage.

For some reason, you just got that grit in you, that consistency to push through that sick little part inside of your head that likes it when there's a fight because you want to see what you're made of.

I don't think God gives us what we deserve.

So whatever you got going on in front of you, just know the big guy believes you got everything you need to handle it.

But a harsh truth is, if you hang out with losers, you will become a loser.

If you hang out with people who say that's not possible, you will.

You will become a person who thinks it's not possible.

If you hang out with people who have never built anything, you will never build anything.

If you hang out with people who make fun of other people, they'll make fun of you next.

You know, on the road to success, I lost so many friends.

The worst part of it is I didn't choose to lose them.

Most of them I tried to pull along to invite places, but

for some reason, my success would trigger them.

One of my oldest friends from college I now never speak to because she said I was too focused on my builder friends and didn't want to go out and drink with her anymore.

She made up this whole story in her head about how she thought I thought she was less than her.

And I thought, man, I never thought that until right now.

Since then, of course, she's done all the things, you know, talked badly about me to other people, and

I've pretty much lost that Entire friend group.

They will pretend they're happy for you, but they are not.

Only other winners want to see you win, but losers can become winners.

So if you've been a loser before, it's okay.

But it is not your job to change other people from losers to winners.

It's your job to become a winner yourself.

Staying around other people who want to keep you down is how you stay down forever.

Imagine trying to get healthy when you're sitting in a petri dish of disease.

You'll start looking like them, talking like them, acting like them.

And before you know it, you'll have the same life as them.

There's nothing worse than being around cynics who have achieved nothing.

And you know, that kind of made me think that.

Like the other day I heard this ridiculous line that stuck with me.

Do crackheads say I can't get high because I'm broke?

So don't let a crackhead work harder than you.

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