Name: Give yourself an emotional facelift
Uploaded: 2025-11-28T17:03:59.000Z
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So tell me, what seems to be the issue today?

Okay, so I read your 1960 book, Psycho Cybernetics.

By the way, we stan cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to assist others in regulating a supportive self concept.

Oh, and hold on, I actually see a few things that we can absolutely do here.

And mm, I really love that in your plastic surgery work you notice the discrepancy between patients.

Some would get their physical disfigurements fixed and go on to leave happy chill lives, while others would be mega bummer vibes.

And that this phenomenon, you know, really inspired you to deep dive into understanding the cognitive dissonance that caused these different outcomes despite having the same procedure.

Well, I can't take full credit for the techniques I offer in the book.

You know, I used theories by Prescott Leckie, a fantastic lecturer of psychology at Columbia University, as well as the cybernetics of Norbert Wiener and John von Neumann, who are brilliant mathematics.

You are sliving, sliving, slaying and thriving.

Now, as you have read, our brains are much like a computer with both failure and success servo mechanisms.

And you need to program it to best serve you.

You act and feel not according to how things really are, but

the image of what your mind holds of what things are.

Like, oh, like if I'm seeing a bug, I totally freak out, but

in reality, maybe it's just a piece of land.

Uh, yeah, that's technically a correct interpretation of what I'm saying.

And unfortunately, most of us are on autopilot when it comes to choosing our identities.

We pull from stories told to us by other people.

Stories we tell ourselves about our upbringing or ideas that have just been tossed into our brains and settled in there.

Like, ah, see here we have a failure servo mechanism.

You don't believe you're a talented singer?

Did you just take out a part of my brain?

We have skills and talents that are disabled by our belief systems.

You are perfectly capable of things that you otherwise mentally block yourself from excelling at.

And I'm gonna prescribe you a few things.

Our brain can't tell the difference between an event that's happening and one that's perceived.

So this is a technique that makes many, many elite athletes utilize.

And we've had studies that actually show visualization can be more effective than physical practice.

Given the accuracy one can have in the imagination versus the body.

Next, we're gonna overhaul your inner dialogue.

This requires a lot of practice and self awareness at first, but

for one week, I want you to keep track of every belief, good or bad, that comes to mind.

So for instance, I'm an athletic person, or I'm not a good business person.

Whenever you notice a thought that relates to your identity, write it down.

This is going to help you paint an extremely accurate picture of your self identity.

And then we can target all of those disempowering beliefs.

Finally, once your self image has been expanded, I want you to write a list of goals and then write out the concrete small steps that you can take to achieve them.

In those steps, make sure to write out failure, but

that you will learn from those failures, because that is an essential part of success, not something that's in lieu of it.

So unless you practice thought patterns that support the person you want to be, you will continue to fall into ugly, familiar territory.

But stay diligent, stay disciplined, and stay compassionate towards yourself.

I can see why all of my friends are sliving and sliding.

Thank you so much for giving me the tools to check transform my self concept into a more empowering one.

Now that what I believe is possible has been expanded, my belief in myself is solid and I'm determined to take corrective action to achieve my goals.

I'm so excited to see how much my life and my perception of it changes.

This self help piece just a critique on the for profit, corrupt health care systems that are ruining our country.

Yeah, we have the lowest life expectancy at birth and the highest mortality rate for treatable and avoidable diseases.

Don't get me started on how we have the highest suicide rates because of a lack of mental health care.

What are you doing America, you're 200 years young.