Name: Why you shouldn't ask your friends for dating advice
Uploaded: 2025-11-26T17:02:36.000Z
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Why I stopped asking my friends for dating advice.

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Look, I know we all fancy ourselves as living in Sex in the City.

But I read a fantastic interview with Logan Urie.

Hopefully I'm pronouncing her name right now.

She's the author of how not to Die Alone and now works as the director of relationship science for Hinge after studying psychology at Harvard.

She also ran Google's behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab.

She now currently runs a research team dedicated to helping people find love.

Now, Logan perfectly vocalized the why behind why I've stopped asking my friends specifically for dating advice.

And she says, first of all, friends are fantastic for accountability, but

not necessarily in offering advice, because we all have different values, desires, and

He's all about monogamy, stability, and family.

Not to mention advice from your friends can be heavily clouded from their own personal experiences and judgments.

The last time I dated a Gemini, he turned out to be an asparagus.

Definitely do not date anyone in the food pyramid when Mercury is in Gatorade in the microwave.

Now, according to Logan, you need to tune into your own feelings, define your goals, and

then your friends can encourage you to achieve those goals.

So you want to think of them as like cheerleaders rather than coaches or advisors.

So rather than deferring to your group chat for every decision, including, do I like this person?

Set an intention, and then get the girlies to support you in that intention.

So rather than asking, so, what do you think of them?

Instead, ask, what do you think of me around them?

Because your friends aren't experts on dating, but they are experts on you.

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