Name: Learning to be alone.
Uploaded: 2025-11-20T03:51:28.000Z
Duration: 15 min 58 s
Description: Thousands of YouTube videos with English-Chinese subtitles! Now you can learn to understand native speakers, expand your vocabulary, and improve your pronunciation...

To-infinitive

At the moment I'm kind of following everyone else, but

I don't know how, how much that's helping me.

It's okay to be alone for a while, you know, and

it's so important because being alone, going through a stage of isolation is vital to your personal development.

You know, I firmly believe that if you want to be the best version of yourself, you have to go through a stage of isolation, of being alone for a bit.

But the problem is a lot of people soothe that discomfort through distraction by doing scrolling for like 8, 10 hours a day, you know.

In fact, it's leading to your long term detriment.

So I wanted to show you guys what a day looks like for me.

I'm not around friends, I'm not very social with people that I don't know.

I'm not going to events, I'm not socializing, I don't talk a whole lot.

You know, I just kind of am in my own little world, as many people say.

A while, A while, A while, a while, long time.

I say a long time, like kind of jokingly, but also not at the same time.

a lot of the people that made life feel joyous for me are no longer here.

And I had to learn how to, how to manage that, how to cope with that.

Life honestly is not all that joyous for me right now.

It doesn't mean I'm sad or like depressed or anything, but I'm just not overly joyous every day.

I'm certainly going through a stage in life that is focused on patience and discipline and a lack of stimulation.

And I'm okay with that because I know what that leads to in the long run, you know, like, I know what role that skill serves in my future.

And the day that I do have a wife and children and we share Christmas mornings together and I take my kids to baseball practice or cheer or whatever they want to do.

We have family meals around the table and we talk about our day, those days are going to mean so, so much more because I certainly won't take it for granted.

Those are the purest moments in life, the ones that you get to share with family and friends.

You know, you can't really have that much of an appreciation for a sunny day unless you've been through a lot of rain.

You know, you can't exactly appreciate achievement, success if you don't also know what it feels like to experience failure time and time again.

And so it's almost like it's a universal law.

So whenever I'm going through something that feels bad, I know that it is adding to the cup that I will drink from in my future, which will feel joyous, which will feel fulfilling and rewarding.

And on that note, I want to thank you guys.

Your comments and words truly mean a lot to me.

And I really want to put an emphasis on how much I really mean that.

Because if I'm being completely honest with you, I don't feel, You know, like people will look at my life and they'll say, you have done so much.

You've accomplished so many things and you've come so far.

You know, like, you should be proud of yourself.

But I don't feel satisfaction in a lot of things anymore.

Like I was saying earlier, I'm not feeling satisfaction in the right things.

I don't feel satisfied by wasting my time.

I don't feel satisfied by going out and partying or drinking.

I don't feel satisfied talking about mindless things just to pass the time.

I don't feel satisfied in a lot of the small things that people tend to do to distract themselves.

In fact, I'm so hyper aware of when I'm doing it that it's the complete opposite of satisfying.

So I say all this to say that there are very few things in my life at the moment that make me feel satisfied.

And when I read comments on my videos that say things like, you have no idea what your videos have done for me, they say things like, you know, I know we don't know each other, we never met before, but

your videos have changed my life entirely.

And just to relay this back to you guys, you may be in a stage of life where not a whole lot is going on.

Perhaps you've chosen the path of personal development and you've taken the leap to stop hanging around a certain group of people or Doing certain things and you're left in this state of being alone.

You know, it is a lonely path, certainly, especially in the beginning, because you're choosing a path that most people are.

They don't want to go down because it's difficult.

But you've chosen the right thing and I'll tell you why.

There's good and there's evil in this world.

You've chosen the path of good, the path of righteousness.

You want to be your best for you and those that you love.

You want to be your best for God, you want to live in his light as best as you can and point people to him through your actions, etc.

What is required in order to take steps down that path.

You can't put into words what it really means to bear that weight over time.

But the dynamic is that you're bearing a struggle today for long term fulfillment, right?

You're doing the hard stuff here and now.

You're doing things that make you uncomfortable.

You're doing things that are difficult for long term fulfillment.

Evil, the path of evil, or hedonism is falling into temptation and choosing temptation more often than you are choosing good.

Most people fall in that boat and not not saying they're evil.

But we have the free will to choose, to give evil power, to lean into evil, to lean into temptation and pursue that path if we wish.

That's why so many people choose the path of temptation.

It is offering you alleviation from the discomfort that you would bear pursuing the path of good or righteousness, but

And if you get caught in this loop of satisfying or alleviating yourself of that discomfort, you get stuck, you get stagnant.

Subtitles ListPlay Video

Learning to be alone.

discipline

fatigue

distraction

vital