Name: 當你面對逆境的時候... 這三個字能幫到你 ► 簡單三個字，就能改變一切... - Hal Elrod 哈爾.埃爾羅德（中英字幕）
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Past simple

I'd set the timer on my phone for five minutes, and for five minutes, I'd bitch, moan, complain.

Give yourself five minutes to feel all the emotions.

If you want to cuss, if you want to punch a wall, whatever, like, feel it.

After five minutes, you say three very powerful words.

It's an acknowledgement that I can't change what happened five minutes ago, so now I have two choices.

I can continue to resist reality, wish it didn't happen, and be frustrated, angry, upset, sad, whatever it is, because I'm not willing to accept it.

Or you can choose to accept it fully, to say this happened, I can't change it, so I can choose to accept it, be at peace with it, and focus 100% of my energy on what I can control.

When I first learned this, I thought, five minutes?

I'm not gonna stop being upset because a timer goes off.

Like, and five minutes is not enough time.

Can I get like a five-hour rule, you know, for some things, like a five-day rule?

I remember, I was in my apartment, and I had a lady cancel her appointment, and it was like at nine at night, so it was too late.

Set my timer for five minutes, and I'm pacing around my apartment.

Like, you know, I'm just going on and on.

And the timer went off, and I go, I'm still pissed off, just like I thought.

Five minutes isn't enough, and I hit the timer again.

Once you start practicing this mindset, and you become aware, because eventually you get to a place where it might have taken me 10 minutes, maybe 15, but eventually I go, all right, I guess I can't change that she, like, right?

And eventually you go, okay, I'm gonna accept it, I can't change it.

I only have four appointments tomorrow instead of five.

I'm gonna just get on the phone in the morning.

And now I'm at peace because I accepted it.

And now I'm teaching myself, oh, I actually am in control of the emotional pain I experience.

You think about like having a heartbreak when you were younger, right?

Or you're in sixth grade, you got your heart broken, you thought life's over, we were supposed to get married.

But eventually when you get to acceptance, you're like, well, okay, I guess we're not, I thought I could get in her back.

And so after a few weeks, I remember this was a worst adversity in the sales world, which is it was Sunday night, orders were due Monday morning, and my biggest order of the week, biggest order I'd ever had, she calls at nine at night and says, hey, my husband came home, he was super upset.

Like I'd already in your mind, I hit my goal, great.

And I get off the phone and I set the timer for five minutes.

This is the biggest order I've ever had the night before orders are due.

Like, oh my God, and I don't have my goal.

I just gotta get on the phone and make more calls.

And I pick up my phone and there's four minutes and I can see the phone.

There's four minutes and 32 seconds left.

And I go, why don't I just accept it now?

What's the value in me feeling bad about it for another four and a half minutes?

And I turned it off and I go, can't change it.

Step two is get to can't change it as fast as is healthy for you, right?

Don't rush it, but get there as fast as you can.

Now, to be really clear, Tom, I believe every emotion serves a purpose.

I feel sadness, there's a purpose in anger.

Every emotion serves a purpose, but only to the point where it's beneficial for us.

And most people, their emotions control them to the point of detriment.

And then the third step, the third evolution of this mindset is accept life before it happens, which is once you've practiced it for a few weeks and you go, oh, I don't ever have to feel any unhealthy emotional pain.

You're liberated from the emotional pain that resistance creates.