Name: What Obsessing Someone for Over a Year Looks Like
Uploaded: 2025-07-31T18:32:28.000Z
Duration: 7 min 48 s
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They're still not calling, still not choosing you, and yet they live in your mind like they never left.

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Why is it so hard to let go of someone who already let go of you?

Grief for the person, grief for what could have been.

Grief for the version of you that was deeply, deeply open and got hurt.

At Psych2Go, our mission is to explore the hidden corners of the human mind and heart, helping you understand yourself better, heal emotionally, and feel less alone in what you're going through.

So, if you've been feeling stuck in this loop for months or even a year, let's take a deeper look at how this kind of mental obsession forms and what it slowly takes from you if you don't learn how to break free.

You've tied your worth to their attention.

Maybe their validation made you feel special in a way no one else could.

And when it stopped, it didn't just hurt, it shattered something inside you.

You begin to internalize their actions, thinking that if they're not showing interest, it must mean you're not enough.

So now you find yourself chasing their ghost, hoping it'll make you feel whole again.

But the truth is, your worth was never meant to be measured by someone else's presence or absence.

Letting go of this attachment isn't about forgetting them, it's about remembering yourself.

It's about reclaiming your own value and realizing that you are already enough, no matter what someone chooses to give or withhold.

You're not just attached to the person, you're attached to the emotional experience you had with them.

Maybe they showed up during a vulnerable time in your life or gave you a kind of comfort and understanding that felt rare.

They made you feel safe, seen, emotionally alive.

And when that bond is broken, it can feel like you're losing a part of yourself.

But staying emotionally tied to someone who's no longer present keeps you stuck in the past.

Healing begins when you learn to give yourself the emotional nourishment you once looked for in them.

Letting go doesn't mean erasing what you felt, it means honoring it and choosing yourself anyway.

You're in love with the fantasy, not the person.

Sometimes we don't miss them, we miss the version of them we created in our minds.

Obsession thrives when you're chasing a version of someone that never really existed or a fantasy you wanted so badly to be real.

But most of all, it grows when something inside you, your sense of self-worth, your emotional security, your need for connection feels out of reach.

That's why letting go isn't just about moving on from them, it's about gently coming home to you.

You constantly look for signs they're thinking of you too.

You're all over their social media, watching every story, checking when they're online, trying to decode the meaning behind every post.

Did they post that song because they're thinking of you?

You start reading between the lines, hoping to find a hidden message that confirms they still care.

You look for signs because you want reassurance, you're still tied to them energetically.

But real connection doesn't need decoding, it's clear, consistent, and mutual.

The moment you stop searching for signs is the moment you begin to create space for peace.

You replay the last conversation over and over, hoping for something, anything that would make it all make sense.

Maybe they ghosted you, left things unfinished, and now you're stuck in limbo, hoping they'll come back to give you the closure you deserve.

The kind of closure you're waiting for may never come, and even if it did, it probably wouldn't heal the way you expect it to.

Closure isn't something someone else gives you, it's something you create within yourself.

You give yourself closure when you accept what happened, even if you don't understand it.

You give yourself closure when you decide that your healing is more important than the explanation.

The longer you wait for them to close the door, the longer you keep yourself from walking through a new one.

You've romanticized the good and forgotten the hard parts.

You remember the laughter, the chemistry, the spark, but you forget the anxiety, the silence, or how one-sided things really felt.

Not to shame yourself, but to lovingly remind your heart of the full truth.

Every time you meet someone new, you measure them against the person you're still stuck on.

Maybe you tell yourself that no one else has their charm, their voice, the way they made you feel seen.

But what if what you're holding onto wasn't them, but the idea of them?

It's okay to value what you shared, but don't let it blind you to new possibilities.

The right person won't just remind you of them, they'll show up in a way that's real, mutual, and grounded in the present.

Open your heart to something new, not just something familiar.

So if you're stuck obsessing over someone, no, you're not crazy.

But real love, the kind that heals, begins with you.

You deserve peace, not just from them, but from the version of you that had to hold on so tightly to begin with.

Be patient with yourself as you let go of the obsession, and one day you'll look back and realize that this was the moment you came home to yourself.

You deserve a love that is mutual, certain, and safe.

And if this video helped you in any way, this is a personal message from the writer of the script.

I wrote this from my own ongoing struggle.

He was fun, charming, and incredibly sweet.

But over time, I started feeling disrespected, especially by how he spoke to me.

Sometimes I just want to call and hear his voice again.

Because as much as I loved him, I deserve more than a love that hurts.

When the urge hits to call him, I take a walk.

I've found that simple actions like playing my favorite song, stepping outside for air, or texting a friend help me ride the wave.

And slowly, moment by moment, it gets easier.

So if you're struggling with obsession right now, please know that you're not alone.

All the feelings you're having, they're valid.

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