Name: Quiz: How Bottled Are Your Emotions? (Self Test)
Uploaded: 2025-07-22T18:56:17.000Z
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Have you ever cried when you're alone but felt numb around others or been called too sensitive by your family and wondered if your feelings were just too much?

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In many cultures, especially collectivist ones, emotional suppression is not just normalized, it's expected.

Vulnerability is often mistaken for weakness and expressing sadness or fear can feel like going off script.

We learn to say, I'm fine, even when we're not.

We learn to stay quiet, to survive, but not to thrive.

And what if those emotional habits aren't you?

In Parenting for a Peaceful World, psychologist Robin Grill explains how generations of emotionally neglected children became adults who suppressed their own feelings then unknowingly taught their kids to do the same.

Families shaped by war, poverty, or hardship often had no space for emotional safety and that legacy still continues today.

This quiz is here to help you gently uncover your emotional patterns and the deeper reasons behind them.

Whether you're just starting to give yourself permission to feel again or are already on your healing journey, this is your space.

No pressure, no shame, just awareness and a chance to breathe.

Before you begin taking this quiz, this is a reminder that these quizzes are part of a series we're working on to help you guys.

To help our viewers gain more insight into things that are going on in your lives or someone you know's life.

These quizzes are not designed to be diagnostic, but they are designed in mind to help you reflect on what might be going on so that you can become more self-aware and make changes necessary.

Just like our other quizzes on how are you really and how lonely are you?

If they're helping you, it would be so great to have you share your results and also ideas for next quizzes.

One, when you're upset, what do you usually do?

A, keep busy or scroll on your phone to distract yourself.

B, get snappy or take it out on someone close.

C, try to brush it off and move on like nothing happened.

Or D, talk it out with someone or reflect through journaling.

Question two, when someone asks, are you okay?

You usually, A, say, I'm fine and quickly change the subject.

Or D, share honestly, even if it feels a little awkward.

A, rarely or never, crying feels hard for me.

B, over little things that don't make sense.

Or D, when I need to, even around people I trust.

Question four, growing up, how were emotions handled in your home?

A, we didn't really talk about emotions at all.

B, anger was shown, but sadness was shut down.

C, I was told to toughen up or stop being sensitive.

Or D, emotions were talked about, even if not always perfectly.

Question five, which of these thoughts feels most familiar?

A, I distract myself so I don't feel too much.

B, if I open up, people might use it against me.

C, I keep things in so I don't burden anyone.

Or D, I'm learning that vulnerability takes courage.

Question six, what's your relationship with your emotions right now?

A, I feel numb or disconnected from them.

C, I know I need to deal with things, but I freeze up.

Or D, I check in with myself and process emotions regularly.

Question number seven, lately how does your body feel when you're stressed or overwhelmed?

A, like I'm shut down, I feel numb or disconnected from myself.

C, like I'm always tense, even when I'm supposed to be resting.

Or D, like I can breathe a little easier when I let myself feel what I'm feeling.

Question eight, which statement feels most true for you?

A, I avoid emotional conversations as much as I can.

B, I try to stay in control so I don't fall apart.

C, I feel guilty whenever I show emotions.

Or D, I'm starting to give myself the care I needed as a kid.

Almost done, question number nine, how do you usually respond when a friend opens up to you?

A, I change the subject or try to lighten the mood.

B, I feel frustrated or overwhelmed because I'm struggling too.

Or D, I listen and I offer support even if I don't have all the answers.

And finally, question 10, when you think back to your childhood, you?

B, remember a lot of tension or walking on eggshells.

C, recall being told your feelings were too much.

Or D, see both the pain and the possibility for healing.

If you got mostly As, you are the avoider.

Key traits, distraction, numbing, denial.

You tend to keep yourself busy, maybe by diving into work, scrolling on your phone, or always helping others because sitting with your emotions feels uncomfortable, even overwhelming.

It may feel easier to just keep moving than to slow down and feel.

But if you're being honest with yourself, you might notice moments when you feel disconnected or emotionally numb.

It's because somewhere along the way, you learned that it's safer to avoid than to feel.

Robin Grill in Parenting for a Peaceful World explains that for generations, people were raised to believe that emotions were distractions or even threats.

You might've grown up in a home where expressing your feelings wasn't modeled, encouraged, or accepted.

And so you learned to keep them tucked away.

And that means you're already doing something different.

You don't need to dig into everything at once, but just start by asking yourself, what am I feeling right now?

Even that one small question can begin to soften the wall between you and your inner world.

If you got mostly Bs, you are the stonewaller.

Key traits, irritability, anger, emotional shutdown.

When emotions feel intense or too close for comfort, you may shut down, get defensive, or push people away.

You might think, I don't have time for this.

Or feel like you're constantly on edge, especially when someone wants you to open up.

It means you were never taught how to be vulnerable without feeling unsafe.

You may have learned early on that showing emotions leads to conflict, judgment, or rejection.

And so you protect yourself by building emotional walls.

Robin Grill's work explains that this kind of emotional shielding is often passed down through families shaped by hardships or trauma.