Name: I’m unfulfilled in my job but can’t leave | What to do (6 steps) Linda Raynier
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Hey there, it's Linda Rayner here and today we are talking about the topic of feeling unfulfilled in your job.

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So this topic was actually generated by a viewer from my most recent video.

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This viewer, Stephanie, shared her situation and I'm going to address and give her guidance in this video.

If you're someone who is looking for a surface level answer on how to find a better job or career, that's not today's video.

Because when it comes to a fulfilling job and career that you want to pursue, there's a lot of deep inner work that's involved before you take the action steps.

And trust me, I know because I'm someone that can help you to find a job that you want.

And so if you want to find one that's truly fulfilling though, it really does take a lot of deep inner work and that's what today's video is all about.

And as always, my pure intention is to guide you and help you heal a little more so that you can move in the direction of your authentic life and that's what today's video hopefully will help you to do.

Okay, so let's get started with the question that came through.

So Stephanie wrote, prayers, love and light to you and your family, Linda.

My current struggle is working from home at a job that pays great, has great benefits with a fabulous organization.

Not only is it somewhat isolating, my husband works 60 plus hours a week and I am the runner of the household.

I struggle with feeling enough as a mom, wife, woman, et cetera.

All I can do each day is push forward, continue on and keep a smile.

Some days are easier than others, but I would love to hear your thoughts on some of these topics.

I'm going to address the main one, which is you feeling unfulfilled in your job.

So Stephanie mentions that her job has great pay, great benefits and is with a fabulous organization.

I mean, on the surface, that sounds amazing, right?

Except for the fact that she feels unfulfilled.

Now if we look at the word fulfillment and we look at the root word, which is full, what is the opposite of that?

What's the opposite of full?  If you're someone who's feeling unfulfilled in your job, is that what you're really telling me is that you feel empty.

What I know to be true, because I've witnessed this myself being a career strategist and helping people to land job offers, they put so much hope and expectation that the job is going to be the thing that fulfills them, that this next new job is going to make them so happy.

And yes, maybe it will for the first two, three, four, five months.

But afterwards, they don't feel all that far off from where they felt from their last job, which means that if you're carrying emptiness inside of you, that emptiness is going to follow you around no matter what job you end up in next.

And I think when I say that, there's a resonance there for many of you, because you've probably tried it out.

You've probably taken on another job that you thought had better pay, and yes, you might feel happier.

That'll start to wane in itself and the feeling of emptiness will show up again.

The answer is due to what you might not expect.

It's actually due to a deep-seated feeling of lack of self-worth.

We feel that we are not worthy of something that can give us great pay, give us great benefits, give us great people, and can fill us up all at the same time.

We don't believe it because we don't feel we deserve it.

We don't feel we're worthy enough to achieve it.

We feel that that's only for the unicorns out there, that they can have it all.

And I'm here to share with you that when it comes to your career, there is a possible avenue for you where you can have it all in the context of doing work that meets your gifts and talents, that actually utilizes your gifts and talents, one where you actually are able to express your true self, and that has great pay, great benefits, and is an organization.

There's going to be a little bit of give and take in every situation, but that is available to you.

However, the reason why you feel empty right now is because you feel stuck.

It's coming from this feeling that you are not worthy.

And that's why I'm not going to tell you you should look for a new job, Stephanie.

So at the end of the day, the job is only reflecting back to you what you're already feeling on the inside.

So what work do we have to do then is to address the lack of self-worth.

Let me explain why knowing your self-worth is so important and why it is the key to leading a fulfilling life.

Your self-worth is derived from knowing who you truly are, from seeing it from a different perspective.

And there are lessons that you're here to learn.

And part of that is learning about your self-worth.

And I'm going to help you to understand that.

And it's all about viewing yourself differently.

It's about seeing that, actually, I have purpose in this life.

And if I'm not feeling fully whole within myself, then that's something that I need to address.

Because in order to evolve myself to the next level, I need to feel my true value.

So in order to address this self-worth, here are the real concrete practical steps.

Six steps that I believe are really key to getting you to a deeper level within yourself that will then eventually get you to a place where you can decide what you want to do for your career, for your life, to move you in that more fulfilling direction.

But for now, that's not what we're worried about right now.

We're addressing the lack of self-worth that is currently residing within you.

So before we take these steps, what you're going to do is you're going to go to a quiet space.

You're going to grab a journal and you're going to start taking these six steps that I have laid out.

So step one, feel into the emptiness and embrace the emotions that arise.

It means feel into this feeling that you currently possess within you, the feeling of emptiness, the feeling of lack of fulfillment, feeling unfulfilled.

And you're going to write down, in addition to feeling empty, I also feel blank, blank,  So this could go on and on if you have many, many other emotions, which you likely will.

But what you want to do is to start bringing those unnecessary but necessary emotions to the surface so that they can be released.

Your emotions over the years have been pent up.

Just like if you had boiled a pot of pasta and you put way too much pasta and way too much water into it, what's going to happen?

And so what you have to do is remove the excess.

And then eventually the pot will simmer down and you'll have your nice bowl of pasta.

That's the same with your emotions, in a sense.

You have so many emotions that you've suppressed over the years that you haven't acknowledged.

It is time to allow them to rise to the surface and see what's going on within you.

Let's acknowledge and let's do some deep work.

Step two, identify the beliefs that caused these feelings.

So what you're going to say is, I feel blank because I believe that blank.

So you're going to identify each of those feelings that you had listed in the first step and you're going to ask yourself, what is the underlying belief as to why I feel this way?