Name: 9 Ways to Feel More Comfortable in Groups
Uploaded: 2025-06-18T18:23:07.000Z
Duration: 13 min 24 s
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I hate being in a group, I hate having to hang out in a group.

Anything to do with groups, I'm like done, hate it, get me out of here.

Maybe I'm socially awkward, I don't know, but this is actually a lesson for me and you, okay?

And the backstory of this is I recently joined the gardening community, and it was the first time the group was meeting.

So I was on my bike, I get off my bike, and I see all these people, I'm like, humans, what do I say?

And the person who's the leader of the group says, hey, what's your name?

So I remember what my friend told me, and she's not shy like I am.

She says, Ronnie, when you go in a group, first thing you do, introduce yourself to everyone.

So first person I see sitting down, hey, I'm Ronnie, nice to meet you.

Okay, next person, hey, I'm Ronnie, nice to meet you.

Oh, hey, my name's Emily, oh, okay, this person talks, good.

Next, I'm like, I'm not going to remember anyone's names, but hold on.

I went to every single person in that group, I think there were seven people, could be six, I don't know, don't remember.

Because when you're in a situation where there's a whole group of people that don't know each other, everyone feels uncomfortable.

Because a simple thing like of knowing the person's name, it makes you go, oh, okay, I know that person's name now.

If you make the effort to introduce yourself, then the people feel more comfortable with you.

They know your name, and this is the best technique, you can suss people out.

To suss people out or sniff them out, you can kind of determine if the people, you see what people you like or dislike.

I'm like, cool, everyone's weird, everyone's awesome.

But some people, when I introduce myself to them, they're like, oh, this person's boring.

So, I can determine what people I think are cool, what people I want to hang with in the group.

So, you know, this person thinks this person's cool, I don't, that's fine.

And you don't have to think everyone's boring.

So, I do this, and I'm like, okay, this is a group, but I notice that nobody else does this.

More people come and join the group, I rock up, hey, I'm Ronnie, nice to meet you, blah, blah, blah.

So, don't give me the excuse like, I'm shy.

It's like, me too, but make the effort, especially if English, if you're in a group of people that English is not your first language, okay?

So, I already told you to introduce yourself.

Now, what you're going to do, and what I should have done is I should have been like, hey, Julie, have you met Trevor?

And by introducing people, you know, okay, so Julie, here's Kevin, blah, blah, people are shy.

They need you to be the connector because you've already come in the group and been like, hey, I'm Ronnie, blah, and people go, oh, okay, Ronnie knows people.

They're like, oh, I really want to meet...

So, you connect people together, and that helps them.

Now, you might think, well, Ronnie, like, what...

You're in a classroom, you've got a group of people, they're nervous, they're shy, they don't want to be there, they're excited, they're nervous, they have to pee.

It's your job as a teacher to be the connector.

You have to get people comfortable in your classroom, and you've got to keep...

Get people talking or shutting up, depending on what you're doing over there.

So, once you've got the other people connected, you start maybe talking about something.

So, let's say I break off and I'm like, oh yeah, hey.

So, what I've done is I've taken one person out of the group, but I notice that there's people outside of the group that don't have anyone to talk to, and you have to include the other people.

I want you to meet John, he likes the same bands as you.

If you're talking about movies, and you know this guy likes movies, and this girl likes movies, you can have a movie discussion.

Do your part to never let someone stand outside of the group, unless they've, you know, around...

I don't know, on a phone call or something, but make sure that everyone feels wanted in the group.

I live in a huge metropolitan city where we have millions of people.