Name: How To Radiate a Cool, Attractive Energy
Uploaded: 2025-05-08T02:50:56.000Z
Duration: 9 min 25 s
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Matthew McConaughey gives off an almost effortless feeling of being cool, so today we'll break down some of the habits that make him so charismatic and how you can incorporate them into your own life.

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It's worth noting, while Matthew McConaughey is very handsome, his confidence and charisma can apply to you no matter what you look like.

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The first habit you can learn from Matthew is to set the mood at the start of every interaction.

Matthew moves slowly and is never rushed when speaking.

This gives off a relaxed feeling no matter the situation.

Just watch how he enters the Colbert Show.

You'll notice he walks in slow and his pace is very relaxed as he looks around smiling.

This conveys a carefree attitude that sets the tone from the start and frames the rest of your conversation.

Imagine the difference it would make if he entered quickly and walked straight to the host with tight body language.

Now, relaxed isn't the only mood you can set.

You can set playful, flirty, high energy, whatever you want.

Determine the mood you want for an interaction and spend the first 10-20 seconds bringing that energy.

You'll also see Matthew greets everyone around him.

He takes the time to intentionally acknowledge the band and the audience.

Many people make the mistake of only greeting the people they think can benefit them, so you'll see them only try to talk to the most attractive or coolest person in a group.

Or at an interview, they'll blow off whoever's at the front desk, only being kind to the person they think has the power to give them the job.

This type of focused charisma makes people feel like you're trying to get something from them, which is off-putting.

So the next time you're walking into an interview, a workplace meeting, or a social group, take three to five seconds to greet each person.

For a stronger first impression, combine this with some form of touch, whether it's a hug or just a handshake.

Now, it's clear that that trademark energy that Matthew creates is one of comfort and relaxation, so much so that other actors joke they inherit those vibes just from spending time with him.

One reason for this is that he makes himself comfortable in every environment.

Just look at his body language in this clip from Craig Ferguson.

Matthew lounges back in his chair with his arms draped over the side.

This exudes that informal, I-don't-give-a-care attitude that is one of the main ingredients of his charm.

To try this in your own life, next time you want to look relaxed under pressure, try the simple act of taking up slightly more space than you usually would and opening your body language.

A nice bonus to this, your physical comfort will translate to mental comfort, putting you more at ease.

So not only will you appear confident and relaxed, you'll also feel it.

Beyond just the body language itself, what makes Matthew seem so cool is that he stays anchored to himself.

Watch this next clip from The Graham Norton Show.

Everyone else on the couch is sitting straight up, but Matthew doesn't try to blend in.

He even puts his drink on the ground instead of the table so he can lounge back even more.

Many people would feel social pressure to sit up straight to try to fit in, especially around a dominant personality like John Cena, but Matthew does the opposite.

He stays in his own frame instead of joining theirs.

Staying true to yourself even when it makes you stand out can show tremendous confidence.

This isn't to say you should never try to change your habits or grow as a person.

It's about choosing what kind of person you want to be.

Again, whether that's relaxed, high energy, playful, kind, choose who you want to be and don't stop just to blend in with the other people around you.

Now, no matter who you are, there is one more habit you can steal from Matthew to instantly become more charismatic in conversation.

Storytelling is a conversational superpower.

If you can tell good stories, people will love being around you.

And everyone has a fantastic story to tell.

In the rest of this video, you'll see that you can turn anything into a fun story, even something as mundane as changing a flight or sending an email.

All you have to do is know how to tell it.

One key to a magnetic story is using a good pre-frame.

This hooks people to listen to what you're saying.

Listen to this next clip for a quick example.

Just one pre-frame sentence can be enough to hook people.

You can also do this simply by hinting that there's a good story to be told.

For instance, listen to how Matthew answers George Lopez in this next clip.

George just asked him about growing up in an area where being white made him a minority.

Notice how he's purposely vague with a smirk and a smile in his eyes that gets George to ask for more detail.

You know, there was times where I probably went some places that wouldn't have been recommended and pulled off some cultural exchanges at late nights.

Once you have people hooked, there's several tricks to telling a good story.

The first is to recognize that people are wired to love emotional journeys.

Share your emotional experience during the story.

For example, listen to Matthew talk about later that same night when a group of guys approach him and  Another trick you saw there to make your stories interesting is to act out your characters.

Here's another example from a second later.

This could have been a complete non-story, but pay attention to how Matthew tells it.

He starts with his emotional journey and he ends by acting out his past self.

For context, this is about sending his director his vision for the character Dallas in Magic Mike.

Sending an email and waiting four days to hear back doesn't seem like much of a story.

But if you play your characters and take people on the journey that makes it story-worthy to you, you'll have people captivated.

Now, you may feel intimidated to play the characters in your story.

After all, most of us aren't professional actors like Matthew.

But you don't need a spot-on impression to captivate people.

Any change to your speaking cadence and posture will make your stories more engaging.

Listen to the crowd laugh in this next clip when Matthew switches to playing his mom when she's upset to hear they're extending their stay in Greece.

When there aren't characters to play, there's another trick you can use to keep people captivated.

And by now, you've probably noticed the last trick for magnetic storytelling.

If you want to hook people, tell your stories in the present tense.

Put them right in your story, experiencing it as it happened.

Listen to this quick example where Matthew talks about getting his part in Angels in the Outfield.

He pre-frames, speaks in the present, tells it with his hands, and acts out his character, all in less than 30 seconds.

Now, there's a lot going on in this video and you may be wondering how do you actually remember all this when you're around other people.

Especially if you're speaking with someone who makes you nervous, it's hard to remember to put all this into practice.

That's why we put together our program Charisma University.

It's a step-by-step program that tells you exactly what to do every day to take what you're learning and turn it into a habit.

So 30 days later, you radiate confidence and charisma naturally without even thinking about it.

Rather than tell you about the program myself, here are a few things that our past members have said.

This first comment came just one week into the program.

While going through first impressions, I've been able to get into conversation with people that I never would have before.

The lesson on asking questions to draw out values is gold.

Thanks to everyone who developed the course, it has already been life-changing.

Another member wrote in, I wasn't truly confident.

I was constantly seeking validation and cared too much about other people's opinions.

But now my life has improved tremendously because of CU.

I find it way easier to connect with people, to have great interactions, and to be happy even if things don't go the way I want them to.

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And lastly, one member writes, I am way more confident now having gone through the daily action guides, and I can see a big difference in the attention and respect that I get.

I don't think it's an overstatement to say charisma is literally a gateway to getting anything you want in life, so thank you for making Charisma University.

This program is literally guaranteed to change your life.

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