Name: Public Speaking Anxiety Tips: 6 Mindset Tips
Uploaded: 2024-10-19T21:01:20.000Z
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I'm going to give you six mindset tips to help you overcome your public speaking anxiety and nerves by at least 50%.

These tips will help you cut your anxiety in half, and that's a great start.

I'd like to tell you about two resources.

The first is a free PDF download with seven instant tips for more confident and composed speaking.

I also have a number of online classes on things like public speaking and communication skills and leadership.

And there's always at least one free class that you can take.

I'll put links to all of those resources in the description below this video.

There are two main inroads to your public speaking anxiety.

The second is changing your behavior or the concrete actions that you take.

You can start at either entry point in this feedback loop because your mindset and your behavior reinforce each other.

In this video, I'll be giving you six tips all about mindset or how you think.

If you can change the way you think about public speaking, you'll change the way you feel.

In a follow-up video, I'll give you six more tips that are all behavioral-based.

That's another way to get at this anxiety.

And when that one's ready, I will post it and put a link to it in the description below.

And I'll put a summary of these six tips at the end.

First, realize that anxiety and nervousness are not signs of trouble.

These are just signs that you're about to do something important.

We don't get nervous about meaningless activities.

I was reading an interview with the world-famous and veteran actor, Michael Douglas.

And he said, I'm always nervous when I have to do public speaking.

And I have now gotten used to my nerves and how to deal with it.

So even rich, famous, and normally confident people get nervous about public speaking.

It's not a sign of trouble or that there's something wrong with you.

Second, realize that you're only about half as nervous as you think.

They are two sides of the same emotional coin.

I heard a consultant the other day say that she has grown to like the butterflies in her stomach before she presents.

She said it reminds her that she's challenging herself.

It's the same with acting, playing guitar, or sports in front of a crowd.

After people speak and the anxiety is gone, they still feel excited about what they just did.

So the mindset tip is not to talk to yourself about how nervous you are.

Instead, talk to yourself about how at least half of what you're feeling is excitement.

Those butterflies are proof that you're alive and about to do something special.

Number three, realize that you do not look on the outside as nervous as you feel on the inside.

And I've asked hundreds of speakers right after they speak, how nervous did you feel on a scale of one to 10?

But the listeners routinely say that the speaker only looked about two or three out of 10 on that anxiety scale.

So once you realize that you don't come across nearly as nervous as you feel, that's half the battle.

I saw Sylvester Stallone, Rocky, talking about giving a big speech.

Before he spoke, he said his heart was pounding.

His adult daughter was with him and she looked out at the huge crowd and she said to him, dad, I don't know how you can be so calm.

So he was nervous, but he said to her, no, no, it's gonna be fine, I've got this.

His own daughter couldn't tell that he was having that spike of anxiety right before he spoke.

The takeaway is to play it cool like Rocky.

Other people really can't tell, and that's one less thing for you to worry about.

And fourth, the peak or spike of nervousness lasts less than 60 seconds.

The hardest part is usually the anticipation, the waiting.

A teacher I know, Andrea Newman, talks about that spike of nervousness that happens right before we speak and right up until about 30 seconds into our message.

That's when we feel the most intense anxiety.

That spike of nerves goes down drastically once we get rolling.

It's just like a professional football quarterback.

Their anxiety is highest right before the big game and up through the first few plays.

And then they settle into their game plan.

So the mindset tip is to remind yourself that you'll feel much better just moments after you start your presentation.

Number five, accept that anxiety and nervousness are not a barrier from doing an outstanding job.

Many speakers mistakenly believe that if they're nervous, then they can't do a good job.

Almost every athlete, for example, will admit to getting nervous before a big game.

Anxiety doesn't stop them from performing well.

Winning or losing games has nothing to do with how nervous a team is beforehand.

Some of the best professional speakers in the world admit to getting really nervous, but their nerves don't stop them from completely crushing it.

So accept that anxiety is not a barrier to doing a superior presentation.

Number six, assume that everybody is rooting for you.

Virtually everybody wants you to do well.

We drastically overestimate the negative judgment or possible embarrassment we could experience.

The truth is, I'd say that 99% of listeners are sympathetic.

And I say 99% because sometimes you will see people with an unpleasant facial expression, but even those people are probably just like that.

That negative face that you see, maybe that's just the way they are.

So assume that everybody wants you to succeed and they are on your side.

Your mindset is all about changing the way you think about public speaking, and it's usually a necessary step to overcoming anxiety.

So my question of the day for you is which of these do you believe would help you make the most immediate progress?

And as mentioned, I have a follow-up video coming out soon about the six behavioral tips to reduce speaking anxiety.

I'll put a link to that as well as other resources in the description below as soon as that video is ready.

Both mindset changes and behavioral changes are starting points that will get you on a more positive and confident feedback loop.

God bless, and I will see you in the next video.