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  • Today, I want to share with you 30  do's and don'ts for sensitive people.  

  • Whether you consider yourself to be a highly  sensitive person, an empath, an introvert,  

  • or you would just like some tips for taking good  care of yourself and your well-being, then you're  

  • gonna get some good tips and strategies hereThese are also things that I have personally been  

  • practicing myself and they have been very helpful  for my mental, emotional and physical health.

  • I've made a bunch of videos about being sensitive  before. What it means to have the high sensitivity  

  • trait. How we are different from non-highly  sensitive people. Why our brain and nervous system  

  • works differently and all of that stuff. So if  you want to learn more about it, I will leave some  

  • of these videos that I recommend for you in the  description box below. Do take time to recharge.  

  • Because of your sensitivity, your battery will get  drained a bit more quickly. So it is important to  

  • recharge frequently, or daily if you can. You  don't need hours. Just spending 15 minutes by  

  • yourself can already work wonders. So try to find  some small ways to get some rest and recharge your  

  • batteries frequently. Don't cross your own natural  limits. Being sensitive means that we are taking  

  • in a ton of information, but that also means  that your nervous system will get overwhelmed  

  • by stimuli much more quickly. And we live in  a society where we are often told to just push  

  • through. Or toughen up. Or keep going, just drink  a cup of coffee, no pain no gain. But continuing  

  • to not listen to your own boundaries and crossing  them regularly will not lead to anything good. You  

  • are not being weak or a drama queen if you decide  to listen and respect your own natural boundaries,  

  • instead of always pushing through. Do remember  that if you are a highly sensitive person,  

  • that that is a real trait that you were born  with. It is not something that can be changed.  

  • It is definitely not something that needs to be  fixed. It is a normal personality trait that about  

  • 15 to 20% of all people share. And it comes with  its own pros and cons. Recognizing and accepting  

  • my sensitivity has truly been life-changing for  me. Because I realized that I wasn't broken,  

  • and I could just choose to live my life in  harmony with my sensitivity. Don't think  

  • that you need to toughen up. Sensitivity  is not a medical disorder or an affliction  

  • or something that you need to be cured from. Andsay this, because this is a common misconception.  

  • It just means that you process sensory  information differently and more deeply.  

  • So you might need some more breaks or some more  self-care in order to feel happy and healthy.  

  • But toughening up, not only is it not going to  work, it is also just completely unnecessary.  

  • Do set clear boundaries around how much news you  want to consume. Sensitive people oftentimes don't  

  • do very well if we're watching the news all dayevery day. Because the news is phrased in a way  

  • that gets clicks. And unfortunately, that means  a lot of negativity and scary titles and scary  

  • images. I would actually recommend everyone  to think about this, and set some boundaries  

  • around how much news you want to consumeBut especially so for sensitive people,  

  • if you choose not to watch the news all day, that  doesn't make you a bad person or a selfish person.  

  • You don't have to put yourself through all  that. Just staying informed on a very basic  

  • level is good enough. Don't skip meals. We need  regularity in our meals, because we will feel  

  • the effects of too little food much quicker. So  if you're going to go somewhere and you're not  

  • sure if food will be provided, then bring some  of your own. Do prioritize your sleep. Sensitive  

  • people often don't do very well if we don't get  enough sleep. And studies have actually shown  

  • that we need more sleep than most to functionjust because of how easily our nervous system  

  • gets overwhelmed by living our life. So try to  prioritize sleep. Get your eight hours. I actually  

  • noticed that I function better if I get nine hours  of sleep. But usually I will get eight. Don't over  

  • plan your schedule. Give yourself time and space  to get things done. Having a jam-packed schedule,  

  • or having to do things very quickly under  pressure, is not really something that sensitive  

  • people are good at. Do make sure you havespace in your home that feels like a retreat.  

  • Sensitive people need a safe space where we can  feel comfortable and decompress. Somewhere without  

  • too many stimuli. So try and make sure that you  have a place in your home that feels like that.  

  • Don't over analyze social interactions. Deep  thinking is a sensitive person's strength. But  

  • that also means that we are prone to overthinking  and ruminating on things, like social interactions  

  • we've had. Because we will more quickly notice  changes in someone's body language or their tone  

  • of voice. And this can cause us to go over the  interaction again and again in our own head,  

  • and that's not gonna lead to anything. So if you  get like that, try and save your energy and just  

  • try and let it go. Do identify your triggers  and stressors. Know which things overstimulate  

  • you easily. For example, some sensitive people  cannot really handle scary or violent movies,  

  • whereas others might be completely fine with  that. So we're all different. For me personally,  

  • noise is a really big trigger and crowds as wellAnd also the weather somehow. If it's like really  

  • windy, my battery gets drained very very quicklySo find what it is for you, and try and find some  

  • ways that you can work around it when you canDon't go overboard with caffeine. I know that  

  • we get tired easily. And I have certainly had  periods where I couldn't do my corporate job  

  • unless I drank coffee, and lots of it. But it is  kind of hard on our body to deal with all of that  

  • caffeine. So know where your limits are and switch  over to decaf or herbal tea when you need to. Do  

  • become friends with other sensitive people. Not  that non-highly sensitive people cannot be a great  

  • fit, they truly can. Some of my best friends are  not exactly highly sensitive. But it also helps if  

  • you can seek out some kindred spirits. Someone  where you don't even have to really explain  

  • what it is you're feeling, because they're  experiencing it like that too. Don't be  

  • afraid to plan ahead. If you need to go shoppingmaybe go when there are less crowds. But also,  

  • if you need to do something and there is no way  to work around your triggers or your stressors,  

  • then plan ahead by perhaps bringing something  that's going to make it easier for you. Or finding  

  • where you can take a little break. Or if you're  going to go with someone, tell them what you  

  • need to enjoy the day and feel good. Do bring your  essentials with you when you go out. Kind of like  

  • a tool kit. I always bring my own water. I always  have some kind of nuts granola bar type situation  

  • going on. I will bring lip balm, I will bring  deodorant, mints, those soft little square towels.  

  • I'll bring sunscreen, sunglasses and many more  things. Don't think that you cannot do certain  

  • things because you're a sensitive person. I think  that there is tough and then there is strong.  

  • And while sensitive people might not be that  tough or like sturdy in the traditional sense,  

  • we can be very very strong. And there is nothing  that you cannot do. It just means that you might  

  • need to go about it a little differently. And  plan ahead and make things easier for yourself.  

  • Do speak up at work. If you need a better  desk chair because this one is hurting you,  

  • or if you need a quieter workspace, or anything  else that you might need to do your job without  

  • burning out doing it, then at least try asking for  it. Because you never know what could be possible  

  • in changing or improving your work environmentDon't get stuck when you have to make a choice or  

  • a decision. Sensitive people have an overactive  mind. So we can easily get stuck in ruminating  

  • and overthinking. So as soon as you have the basic  idea of the choices that are available to you and  

  • like the pros and cons of each, try to just  make a decision and stick with it and commit  

  • to it. And save yourself some precious energyDo choose a morning routine and evening routine  

  • that work for you. That's realistic for you and  that helps you to slowly wake up in the morning  

  • and slowly wind down in the evening. For me  personally, my mornings and the hour before  

  • bedtime are truly like sacred times. I need  those times to feel good the rest of the day.  

  • And you really don't have to do like a two hour  routine or anything like that. Don't over exhaust  

  • yourself with intensive exercise. If it doesn't  feel good for your body. If you are like me,  

  • then gentle and intuitive exercise all the wayDo remember that being sensitive comes with many  

  • gifts and advantages. Again, being sensitive  doesn't have to hold you back from anything in  

  • your life. And depending on what it is you want  to do, it can even be very helpful and it can  

  • give you a clear advantage. Don't wait with going  home until you are completely and utterly spent.  

  • This is hard for me too sometimes, but I have  learned that it is better to leave and go home  

  • when I still have about 10 to 20% percent left  in my battery. Instead of going to complete zero,  

  • basically crashing, and then still having to go  home. Do treat yourself with compassion. Sensitive  

  • people are oftentimes very compassionate, but more  so towards others than towards ourselves. So try  

  • not to push yourself too hard, or beat yourself  up, or criticize yourself for things that really  

  • are not your fault. And give yourself the same  kind of compassion that you so easily give others.  

  • Don't ignore the signs your body is giving youIn order to do the things you want to do in life,  

  • and feel good doing them as a sensitive person, I  believe that it is absolutely vital to learn how  

  • to tune into how you're feeling. And to quickly  recognize if you need something. If you need to  

  • eat or drink something, or if you need a little  break. If you need to change your posture or  

  • wear something more comfortable. Or if you've  been at home for too long and you need to go  

  • out and be around people. Learn to recognize  these things and try to give it to yourself as  

  • soon as possible. Do make time for hobbiesPreferably things that are creative or involve  

  • some kind of play. Reading is also greatBut also things like gardening, cooking,  

  • making art, knitting, puzzling, going for walksSome sensitive people enjoy thrilling activities,  

  • so they like to go on roller coasters or  something. Like it's all different for everyone.  

  • But try and find some kind of hobby where you can use your creativity and your passion.  

  • Don't take on the problems of your colleaguesfriends or family members. You need to remember  

  • that everyone has their own life to live. And  that everyone is responsible for the choices that  

  • they make. So your empathy is great. Listening to  people, yes. Helping them whenever you can, yes.  

  • Taking on their emotional baggage as yours, noDo practice with setting clear boundaries with  

  • others. Sensitive people oftentimes don't really  enjoy confrontation. But letting people know what  

  • you are and are not okay with is very importantAnd the more you practice it, the easier it will  

  • get. And if it is too scary for you to do it in  person, I don't believe that there's anything  

  • wrong with doing it through a text or an emailEspecially in the beginning. Don't hide out at  

  • home. You have gifts and so much to offer the  world. Yes, being sensitive means that we need  

  • a bit more rest. So maybe we are home a bit more  often. But we also need to go outside and live  

  • our life. And do the things that we enjoy. And you  are more than capable of doing that. And the world  

  • will become a better place by your presence in  it. Do surround yourself with beauty, nature and  

  • things that make you happy. We need positivityWe need something to recharge our battery and  

  • make us feel like life is beautiful. And there are  all these beautiful, lovely things out there. We  

  • are also deeply affected by our surroundingsSo if you have something of a park nearby,  

  • or some kind of nature, some water, or beachtry going there often. And it can also be other  

  • things. For example, if I want to remind myself  of the magic and the beauty of life and people,  

  • I like to watch a Studio Ghibli movie. Something  like My Neighbor Totoro, or Porco Rosso, or Kiki's  

  • Delivery Service or Whisper of the Heart. I will  always feel a hundred times better after watching  

  • a movie like that. And also, things like art and  music. And anything that inspires you. And lastly,  

  • don't feel like you are a burden on others. If you  speak up for yourself or if you try to make things  

  • easier on yourself. You have value and talent and  heart and empathy and compassion and so much true  

  • love to give. And just because you might needbreak a bit more often than others, or you might  

  • need to be by yourself a bit more often, does not  mean that you are weighing down those around you  

  • with your sensitivity. To feel things intensely  is not a sign of weakness. The moment I started  

  • to accept my sensitivity and started to speak  out about the things that I need to feel good,  

  • my life changed for the better in a hundred  different ways. This video is part of my do's  

  • and don'ts series. So far I've done do's  and don'ts of minimalism, decluttering,  

  • self-care, and now sensitivity. I will make a few  more probably. So if you want to catch up with  

  • this series, I'll be sure to leave the link to the  playlist in the description box below. And again,  

  • I will also leave some videos about sensitivity  that I recommend in the description box as well.  

  • Every time I talk about sensitivity on this  channel, I am amazed by the overwhelmingly  

  • positive response in the comment section. It  really seems like so many of you can relate to  

  • this. And perhaps feel like it can be hard to  talk about or to feel understood. So I think  

  • that this is a very important topic to talk aboutAnd to see that there are so many others out there  

  • who are experiencing exactly the same things. So  I would love it if you could share some tips and  

  • tricks that help you to take care of yourself as  a sensitive person, so that we can keep learning  

  • from each other and getting inspired. And if  you want to help out more, then you can always  

  • do that by liking the video, subscribing to  the channel, leaving a comment and sharing the