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  • Are you trying to find the one? You have trouble figuring out whether your partner is right for you?

  • While there are many factors that lead to a healthy relationship,

  • there are also some qualities to look out for in your partner that are beneficial in fostering a long term healthy relationship.

  • And even though the ones we will mention aren't the only qualities to look out for,

  • they are some of the major ones that would be most beneficial to a healthy relationship.

  • So, if your partner has these nine qualities, you should not let them go.

  • Number one, they're supportive.

  • Does your partner encourage your dreams, validate your feelings, and make you feel secure?

  • Having a supportive partner who can provide you with the emotional and mental support you need is essential for a lasting relationship.

  • Researchers from Carnegie Mellon University had even found that supportive spouses played a role in increasing a person's chances of success.

  • Their reassurance and support had encouraged their partner to take on more challenging and rewarding tasks.

  • In the long run, these couples showed an increase in personal growth and happiness.

  • Number two, they engage in your personal growth.

  • Do you have a partner who encourages new experiences that allow you both to grow as individuals and develop new perspectives?

  • Another important determinant for a successful relationship is self expansion, which is the desire to strengthen or increase your potential efficiency.

  • Experiencing new things together, makes you feel happier with your partner and more committed to them.

  • Even if you don't have time to engage in new hobbies or activities with them, simply witnessing their self expansion can boost your level of happiness too.

  • Three, they're emotionally intelligent.

  • Is your partner an effective communicator who can express their emotions and understand yours?

  • Emotional intelligence is the ability to use, understand, and manage your emotions.

  • People who are emotionally intelligent often have great social skills,

  • acknowledgement and regulation of their own emotions, and an understanding of how others feel.

  • Licensed mental health counselor, Kerri Anne Brown, even states

  • that emotional intelligence in a relationship can help couples express and manage difficult emotions that they may confront,

  • which helps forge a strong and lasting relationship.

  • Four, they are understanding.

  • Is your partner able to relate and empathize with what you're going through?

  • As mentioned by Dr Bernstein in his self-help book, understanding between couples is vital to a relationship.

  • A partner who truly understands what you're saying and expressing can connect with you at a deeper level and strengthen the bond in your relationship.

  • Number five, they are kind.

  • Is your partner kind and generous towards you?

  • Psychologist John God um studied newlyweds and found that the key to a long term healthy relationship is rooted in kindness and generosity.

  • Couples who are kind to each other were able to foster an environment of love, trust, and intimacy.

  • It allows couples to emotionally connect and become comfortable with each other,

  • which helps them overcome conflicts and disputes and maintain a healthy and loving relationship.

  • Number six, they're respectful.

  • Does your partner respect your opinions, experiences, and boundaries?

  • It's crucial to a relationship that you and your partner see each other as equals.

  • You each have your own interests, opinions, and feelings that are valid and should be respected.

  • An unhealthy relationship, however, will involve one partner dominating the other.

  • They disrespect any ideas or opinions that go against theirs by telling them that their opinions are crazy, dumb or worthless.

  • Therefore, the ability for both of you to speak on equal terms and be listened to is vital for a long term healthy relationship.

  • Number seven, they know how to compromise.

  • Are you and your partner able to meet each other halfway when you're in a disagreement?

  • Compromising does not mean that one person wins and the other loses.

  • Both partners need to be heard and understood to reach a happy medium, especially when confronting a particularly difficult problem.

  • You and your partner both deserve to be heard, and a healthy compromise helps you and your partner become the most authentic versions of yourself.

  • It promotes each other's personal growth and leads to overall happiness in the relationship.

  • Number eight, they accept your flaws.

  • Is your partner accept your flaws and differences without judgment or annoyance?

  • Someone who accepts you and your flaws is open and emotionally honest and is able to see the perfect in your imperfections.

  • There is less resentment and more peace in relationships where partners accept each other.

  • This acceptance can also encourage more personal growth and high levels of self esteem in yourself and your partner.

  • And number nine, they share your core values.

  • Do you and your partner share the same set of values?

  • While it's normal to disagree on the minor things, such as your favorite show or take out order,

  • It's much more important you share the same core values.

  • Where they stand on topics like marriage, family, and religion can be important in determining the compatibility and durability of the relationship.

  • If you and your partner have opposing core values and are unwilling to compromise on most of these topics, future conflicts may arise.

  • Does your partner show any of the qualities we mentioned?

  • Tell us about it in the comments below.

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