Name: 【TEDx】Conscious Parenting: Shefali Tsabary at TEDxSF (7 Billion Well)
Uploaded: 2014-09-18T11:45:36.000Z
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it is my privilege to help people  explore their inner worlds,

Hour after hour, I hear thoughts, emotions, feelings.

what is it that emotionally  paralyzes us.

How is it that we may thrive  at this thing called life?

In voices that are awashed with need and ablazed with yearning,

They tell me stories of love, loss, hidden fears and deepest desires.

And let me tell you, inevitably these stories turn to childhood.

They speak of a common theme, a similar rhythm.

They speak of a hunger that only a parent can appease,

of a thirst  that only a parent can quench.

this tall strapping man  in his mid forty's,

his particularly difficult  relationship with his father.

Yes, we grapple with problems  of our childhood long into adulthood.

And he said to me, in a voice that turned plaintive,

he said, "Will I ever meet my father's expectations?

Will he ever accept the man I've become today?

He was seeking, searching, yearning for an approval

And what about the woman in her thirty’s,

You tell me it's because my father overdose when I was 4,

And the woman  who picks on her skin constantly,

She said, "These," pointing  to the rageful scars on her body,

"Help me!", each one of them silently shouts at me,

Am I my whole, am I worthy, do I matter?"

Because they've internalized another voice, you see,

It runs wild, rampant,  chaotic, unpredictable.

It comes to be the way  we define ourselves.

Parents, few hold a greater power or more immense responsibility.

to propose that we occupy the role of parenthood

in an entirely different way, with a renewed curiosity,

a heightened awareness, a transformed commitment.

that needs to be at the forefront of our global consciousness.

that affects how our children will thrive.

Everything: how they take care  of themselves, each other,

tolerate differences, handle their emotions,

This is where global  transformation begins.

We cannot expect our children  to embody an enlightened consciousness

if we parents haven't dared  to model this ourselves.

Our children are facing challenges today that we couldn't have dreamed of.

And evidence suggests that  they are buckling under the pressure.

shows sign or symptoms of a psychological disorder.

Two years ago, there were over  662,000 children in America

The use of ADHD drugs is on an exponential high.

There was a study done in the UK  of 30,000 children,

and it was reported that one in ten, over the age of 8,

reported being unhappy on a consistent basis.

We need to sit up, pay attention and raise our children differently.

Now, of course, parental influence  isn't the only factor at play.

and chaotic influences  in our children's life

There's neurobiology,  there's temperament,

there's social pressures,  there's poverty.

but our influence in these spheres is relatively limited.

But let me tell you where we hold  indubitable power.

That is in the relationship we nurture with our children.

Our children and us, moment after moment after moment.

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【TEDx】Conscious Parenting: Shefali Tsabary at TEDxSF (7 Billion Well)

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