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you can put your elbows on the table and that fell.

So I'm reading his body language, which is saying that sucked.

I'm joe Navarro, author, former FBI agent and this is body language support at Erica.

Destiny asks, why does eye contact intimidate the out of me?

Well, the fact is that it's not just you.

A lot of us are intimidated by eye contact and in fact all primates avoid making too much eye contact with each other.

Apes will look at the alpha, he has the ability to look over everybody, but everybody else tries to avoid making too much of a direct eye contact and we humans are much the same when the eye contact is too direct, too intense.

It is intimidating and and this is something that obviously poker players have used for decades to intimidate each other.

It really creates a subconscious instability that often drives them to change their behavior because they're not aware that they're being intimidated at a subconscious level.

Here's a question from, at, I like sliced pear, can I contact and long salmon gazes be love language cause shit, when it comes to courtship, when it comes to dating most of the decisions that we make is nonverbally and I gaze behavior is very powerful when we are in the presence of someone we enjoy.

It can certainly be indicative of, I like this person very much and I would certainly pay close attention to it.

So on to the next question it comes to us from a friend of mine at erick Dillard, Hey joe, what do you think about people who take off their glasses in the middle of a meeting interview or an important points.

And it often manifests in different ways.

Sometimes people take the glasses off and they rub the bridge of the nose.

Or they may massage the back of the ear where the glasses rest and that is to accommodate themselves.

They may also take their glasses off to pacify you.

Often see people put them in their mouths as their thinking this is no different than a pacifier.

Other people use it almost like a baton to demark a point as they're talking while others are using it basically to create novelty to get other people's attention.

At Ezra hamed asked how do I improve my poker face?

The easiest way to improve your poker face is something that I taught Phil hellmuth a long time ago.

Just keep in mind you can improve your poker face but now your poker body so sometimes will reveal things somewhere in our body but put your elbows on the table, bring your thumbs together and you perch your chin on the thumbs and then you interlock lace the fingers and they block your mouth.

You look straight ahead but slightly down and what happens is you virtually disappear because there's nothing there for anyone to see.

So after a while people will avoid looking at you because there's nothing new there.

Suburb ask my question is when you see the eye twitch of irritation, how do use body language to help the other person feel more comfortable without directly addressing the fact that you saw them appear irritated.

A lot of times we display discomfort through our eyes will squint, we may look away, we may cover the eyes when something is bothering us and the easiest way to make other people more comfortable without saying anything is to move slightly away and angle yourself.

Humans tend to approach each other directly.

What we don't realize is that this actually minimizes facetime.

The closer we get, the more intense the look, this can act as an irritant.

One of the best things that we can do any time is when we approach each other and we sense that there's some sort of irritation or psychological discomfort is always to move back and then always angle yourself so that you're looking at each other at angles rather than directly.

This whether you're in business or in interpersonal relationships.

Where by angling, this increases facetime because it contributes to psychological comfort At Jessica basic to ask is duping delight, then pretending to experience the light or is it like narcissistic smirk.

So in 1986 Paul, Eckman coined the term duping delight.

And basically what that looks like is you have this little smirk on your face like you're getting away with something.

I would say, it's like showing off, you can take great pleasure in getting away with something, but when you exercise duping delight, it's it's sort of like telling the world.

So here we have a question from at Artem s moon God and he asked, are their body language differences among different cultures?

Do people of different countries display different body language cues?

In other cultures they say hello differently, We tend to wave our hands high and above.

In other cultures, they may do it more subtly.

We tend to say oh everything's okay and yet in other cultures that's considered a phallic symbol, so they don't do the okay sign.

We like to shake hands and we do so all over the United States.

But interestingly enough, we have cultures within cultures.

So in new york you may have more of a strong grip where in the midwest it might be just a quick touch of the hands and movement away.

It's always good to consider the culture that you're in because when we mirror these behaviors, it lets others know that we respect them and that we are in synchrony with them.

And of course, as I've always said, synchrony is harmony.

Here's a great question from AD two believes, yes, I can body language be submitted as admissible evidence in court.

In the famous 1967 case of terry versus Ohio, the Supreme Court considered this and they said if a police officer can articulate with particularity, the body language that he or she observed, it can absolutely be used in court to justify the actions of a police officer to answer your question again.

At john Robinson asked a very important question and it's directed at me most of your FBI profiling career joe was before today's more widespread autism awareness.

But did you interview known autistics, Were they different?

My approach was always to deal with the person that was in front of me.

There were some people who were on the autism spectrum.

And as an interviewer, it's not my job to figure that their behaviors out other than to note them and say how do I get around this?

You deal with each human as they present and you try to work with them to establish communications.

And if that means stepping back, if that means handing them a piece of paper, if that means not making eye contact uh then so be it dale rocks to ask how can I end a conversation politely with someone that talks forever without just walking off tried looking at the watch with no luck dale.

You look at your watch two or three times but let's face it with some nothing may ever work.

Um The first one I like to do is I orient my foot towards an exit.

A lot of people catch that and since that I'm moving away slightly.

There's other times when no amount of body language gets through to these people.

And so what I do is I put my hand on their arm and I say buddy I'd love to stay but I gotta run, take care, must go so long.

This is one of my favorite at sinister vaults ask, hey joe, what does it mean when people shake their leg while sitting?

Well I'm glad you asked that because I do that all the time shaking the leg or the hands or the feet is a repetitive behavior and just like twirling the hair, strumming the fingers.

Anything that's repetitive is a soothing behavior.

So here we have a great question from at Asana F.

It may be more difficult to answer, but if anyone can do it it's joe my question is why do some people tend to divert their eyes to the mouth of the person they're speaking to.

A lot of us take comfort in reading each other's lips as we're talking to each other.

And that's one of the things we found out when we started masking up for covid 19 is how much we do this and didn't realize we were doing it at jolly C.

Asked a very important question with the rise of a A.

I hate many asian americans are being attacked both verbally and physically, what can we do to pinpoint Specific body language actions in which one appears hostile and to avoid conflict?

There is no specific body language that might indicate hostility other than things that are quite, quite visible.

But we know from studies done in the 60s that there are things that we can do by the way we carry ourselves making ourselves both physically visible but making ourselves larger.

Something so simple as walking with a greater stride, looking around, making eye contact with everybody.

You see, the other one is get off the phone, look around, don't bury your head down and just be aware of everybody around you and hopefully that will help.

So here's an interesting question from shut up talk.

Now, what body language do I have to use to tell the people at the next table that I find them really interesting and would love to be friends with them.

Sometimes the easiest thing to do is to say.

I find what you're talking about fascinating.

And that's often good enough from at Khloe Kardashian, I've always been intrigued watching interrogation videos and looking for clues in their body language.

So have I there's so much information that we give away while we're being interviewed.

Our reactions for instance, to the question that being asked, I think you're onto something Chloe.

The fact is that we use body language to evaluate how people do in interviews, not to detect deception, but to look for their reactions that might indicate psychological discomfort.