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  • While I was growing up my family did a lot of moving.

  • I was born in the Philippines,

  • moved to Saudi Arabia,

  • then back to Philippines,

  • then to Canada (and several locations within Ontario),

  • then to Virginia, USA,

  • then back to Canada.

  • *breathes in*

  • And because we did a lot of moving,

  • I've had a lot of experience with being the new kid at school.

  • I sometimes had the solidarity of my sisters whenever we became the new kids,

  • but of course we were different ages in different classes

  • and one of us usually made new friends sooner than the other.

  • I never went to school in the Philippines,

  • but I did go to a Filipino school in Saudi Arabia.

  • That's weird, I know.

  • But it's true!

  • And that's why I was confused as a kid and thought Saudi Arabia was just another

  • Very-hot-and-somehow-dry-part-of-the-Philippines.

  • I was a new student, yes,

  • but so was everyone else because it was our first time in a school environment.

  • The biggest change that I've experienced must

  • have been when we moved to Canada.

  • We didn't have any family that lived here,

  • only a few friends that thankfully helped to settle in.

  • I didn't know English too well and had a girthy accent.

  • I was only 7, but was aware enough to know that I was different from my classmates

  • who were predominantly white.

  • I got my fair share of Asian prejudice growing up,

  • and I didn't really know how to make friends.

  • But somehow I did and they just so happened

  • to have the same birthday as me.

  • Not only that but also because we shared so many interests.

  • Video games, Transformers, Power Rangers, (Noice)

  • I felt so relieved that coming from the other side of the world, being an outsider,

  • I found things in common with strangers.

  • And I no longer felt wary about being in a new country.

  • Today I'm able to maintain friendships with people around the world (internet friends“꒳”)

  • thanks to modern technology.

  • But back then moving a few cities away

  • pretty much meant you were never gonna see your friends ever again. :((((

  • and after living a year in Hamilton,

  • I had to say goodbye.

  • I then moved to MissisSAUga which was an hour away.

  • I was in grade 3 and while I was nervous making new friends again,

  • I soon realized that not everyone really had their friend groups established yet.

  • There were actually a few other new kids as well.

  • I didn't seem to have that much trouble befriending other kids

  • because during recess, people would often set up games like tag or foot hockey

  • and they'd invite pretty much anyone available to play.

  • And within that group of "random" kids,

  • I got really close to a few.

  • One being my rival and best friend at the time, Michael.

  • He was not only my

  • nakama (仲間 means colleague, compatriot, friend or comrade),

  • but also my role model.

  • I really respected him and his chill, humorous personality.

  • I wanted to be like him.

  • That's probably when I really started wanting to be a funny person.

  • I honestly thought that I'd stay at that school until I graduated,

  • but near the end of grade five,

  • my parents told us some news that we were all too familiar with... (o h n o)

  • This time we were only moving somewhere else within the city

  • but it still felt like a thousand miles to a kid.

  • I kept in touch with some friends for a while

  • but we eventually grew apart.

  • The move was kind of odd for me and my siblings.

  • It happened a little more than a month into grade six

  • so I had to say goodbye to everyone at the beginning of the year instead of the end.

  • I almost felt like a plot device in an anime,

  • where a new kid transfers into a class in the middle of the year.

  • You guys remember the story of Alvin and how that turned out.

  • But actually when I first moved there,

  • the teacher appointed one of the students to show me around

  • and help me feel welcomed.

  • They belong more with the jocks group and asked me to play football with them during recess.

  • I didn't want to be alone, but it was then that I realized...

  • you can't be friends with just anyone.

  • And that was okay.

  • They weren't necessarily bad people,

  • I just didn't feel like I really clicked with any of 'em.

  • Actually, one of them was kind of a dickhead and bullied me every now and then

  • but I got through it. (got em)

  • And so I searched for friends elsewhere.

  • I needed to be around the nerds...

  • ...and it didn't take long to find them.

  • I like to think my past moves have helped me befriend people quicker,

  • especially with Michael's outgoing influence on me.

  • The school was then split in grade 8

  • where some of us moved to another school

  • and some of us stayed

  • depending on what side of the road you lived on.

  • We all then became new kids in the newly built school,

  • so it wasn't really a problem because everyone knew everyone.

  • Going into high school was

  • the same

  • where a lot of the friend groups were pretty much already established

  • and just carried over from grade 8.

  • The high school was made up of graduates from three elementary schools

  • and I was able to befriend people from there as well.

  • I felt pretty comfortable where I was after so many occasions of being

  • The-New-Kid

  • I was finally a long-term resident.

  • So when we moved to Virginia in 2006

  • after I've invested the past eight years in Mississauga,

  • five, being in the newer area that I moved to,

  • I had to throw it all away and I felt like all my progress was... reset.

  • Kind of like dying in lava in Minecraft.

  • Although I would miss my friends,

  • I was kind of excited to see what it would be like to move to a new country again.

  • Excited to see what kind of new people I would meet,

  • excited to be exposed to new cultures,

  • but it proved to be a little more difficult than I expected.

  • Everyone already had their friend groups.

  • I didn't feel like I really fit in anywhere.

  • A few people did try to make me feel welcome,

  • namely one girl who sat beside me in AP US history.

  • She was nice,

  • but personally, I don't think we really connected that well,

  • but despite that, she developed a crush on me

  • which I couldn't reciprocate

  • and it felt awkward to continue that acquaintanceship.

  • She was a nice person, okay?

  • I didn't hate her,

  • but I just didn't think we'd be close friends.

  • And say what you will about not giving her a chance

  • or staying friends,

  • but understand that by that time,

  • I've gone through enough friendships

  • and met enough strangers to know who I got along with.

  • I tried to join some clubs namely the Anime club.

  • To see what kind of people shared my interests...

  • ...and...uhh...

  • A̴͖̓ǹ̵͇̬͗i̴̡̮̍̐m̵͖͑é̴̢̏ ̸̢́c̸̙͕͌l̵͕̃͆ü̷͉̱͘b̸̮͠.̶̦̙̕ ̵̱̓͜Ȅ̵̢͍v̴̥̅e̵̯̍r̵̡̛̠ý̸̬̹̍ ̴̰͇̌͘s̷͍̒̾ì̴̟ͅņ̴̖̔͗g̴͕̓l̶̫̈́̈ȅ̴̻̺ ̸͇͆Ẅ̴̘̱́ẽ̸͙͎ḓ̸̣̎n̷͈̤̆e̴͕͛͝s̸̞̳̾d̶̯̊̉à̸͔̜̔y̸̨̲̔̅

  • a̵̺̖̿n̴̛͓̒d̷̻̉͠ ̸͕̞̃w̵̭͐ͅȇ̸͉̼̚'̷͔͗r̸̮̦͂̎e̴̟̾͜͝ ̸̓ͅú̸͙͖͆p̶̫͒ ̷̝̺̚1̴̪̭̓:̴̼͕͐̋4̴̥͐͠5̴̧̄̕

  • GaRUgAmEEE

  • (nope i'm out)

  • Everyone in my year seemed to already have their lives figured out.

  • They had their academics in line,

  • they knew what colleges they wanted to go to,

  • they were applying for scholarships,

  • while I was just worried about making friends and fitting in.

  • And it pretty much spent most of 11th grade worrying about that.

  • I really missed Canada.

  • I guess that was what led me to depend on the internet and online games to meet new friends

  • and maintain old ones from back home.

  • But eventually I thought it wasn't healthy for me to just be cooped up at home all the time.

  • I thought it might as well embrace the new environment and make the best of it.

  • I kept looking behind me instead of facing forward.

  • After some time, I broke out of my timid shell

  • and tried to be more outgoing.

  • Especially in my senior year where I got into breakdancing

  • and really started making lasting friendships.

  • You guys already know about that story.

  • Before I even graduated I was already informed

  • that we were going to move back to Canada.

  • And so I applied to schools there.

  • I was accepted by and attended Ryerson University

  • and it kind of felt like going to school for the first time as a kid again.

  • Everyone was a new kid who came from all sorts of places around the city,

  • around the country,

  • and around the world.

  • Luckily, one of my high school friends from St. Marcellinus

  • also got into the same program as I did.

  • So we stuck by each other through the hells of

  • architecture along with new friends that we met along the way.

  • Although it seemed like the end of the world as a kid every time I had to move,