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  • HARNAAM: This is who I am, I'm different and

  • I've learnt to accept it fully.

  • COMM: Meet the incredible 23-year-old woman,

  • Harnaam Kaur who's been growing a beard since the age of 16. And she says she's never felt

  • more feminine.

  • HARNAAM: It's the way that God made me and

  • I'm happy with it.

  • COMM: Harnaam from Slough has polycystic ovary

  • syndrome which can cause excessive hair growth. She was just eleven when it sorted appearing

  • on her face.

  • HARNAAM: I would hide it by talking to people

  • with my hands over my face. I used to wax it and that became really painful so I would

  • just shave it or use different sorts of creams. Um I used to bleach it too.

  • COMM: Harnaam endured bullying at school and

  • stares from people on the street.

  • 00:46 HARNAAM: The names that people would call

  • me were things like beardo instead of weirdo, um she-man, she-male.

  • 00:54 COMM: She's even received death threats after

  • posting videos about female facial hair on YouTube.

  • HARNAAM: I have had people telling me that

  • they're gonna burn me and that they're gonna throw brick at me.

  • 01:06 COMM: At her lowest point she began self harming,

  • and even considered taking her own life.

  • HARNAAM: I would lock myself in my room, I

  • didn't want people to see me because I knew that would lead to more stares.

  • COMM: At the age of sixteen, everything changed

  • for Harnaam, when she took the decision to be baptised as a Sikh.

  • HARNAAM: We need to keep our bodies intact

  • the way it was given by God. It was literally at the point where I had enough of people

  • bullying me, me feeling down, me having suicidal thoughts, me self harming, I just had enough.

  • COMM: The decision proves controversial, even

  • Harnaam's own family were against it at first.

  • HARNAAM: The concerns that my mum and dad

  • had were I won't have a normal life "normal life"I say, as a young girl should have. I

  • won't get married, there were concerns about me getting job, how there was no employers

  • out there that will employ a bearded lady and such.

  • 02:04 COMM: But she's found support in her 18-year-old

  • brother Gurdeep, and friend Surrinder.

  • 02:09 GURDEEP: She's happy living her life, does

  • what she wants to do, so it's really good for her, as long as she's happy that's all

  • I really care about.

  • SURRINDER: For me to see her without the beard

  • no I think it would be a shock, it would;t be the same person, I so I think having the

  • beard has probably given her a lot of strength etc. to be who she wants to be, to say what

  • she wants to say, and y'know just be happy.

  • COMM: Harnaam still has to endure stares in

  • the street, and is often mistaken for a man. But she's learnt to accept it.

  • HARNAAM: I do play around with it a little

  • bit because sometimes when I go to the public toilets and someone goes to me um "Oh this

  • is the women's" and I actually put on a deep voice and I say no this is for men's. SO I

  • kind of play around with it and it's funny because we all end up laughing.

  • COMM: Today things are looking hop for Harnaam,

  • she works as a primary school teaching assistant, and she's received dozens of messages from

  • women and men around the world, who say they love her beard.

  • HARNAAM: One guy saw my picture and he goes

  • to me, will you marry me?

  • COMM: And she hopes her story will encourage

  • other women to be more body confident.

  • COMM: This is me, this is who I am, it's my

  • inner beauty, it's my outer beauty, it's my oneness, it's my wholeness. I'm different

  • and I've leant to accept it fully.

HARNAAM: This is who I am, I'm different and

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