Name: Perfectionism in 3 Minutes
Uploaded: 2022-06-02T21:01:20.000Z
Duration: 3 min 42 s
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And now, more than ever, we're flooded with it in our Instagram feeds, in ads, and even while watching TED Talks.

But what we see is often just an illusion.

Instagram shows only the moments, angles, and outfits that their creators choose to showcase.

Ads are created by teams of experts that are paid to get us to want what they're offering.

And even the sacred TED Talk is given by the most gifted communicators who have often put years and years of research into the work they are presenting.

And if you were to ask those Instagramers, advertisers, and TED Talkers if they feel like their latest post, billboard, or presentation was perfect, they most likely would say no.

Even when Isaac Newton saw the first edition of his book "Opticks", a book often to be considered one of the greatest works in modern science,

he had his name removed from the title page due to the imperfections he believed to be in it.

He didn't want to be part of something that wasn't perfect.

Perfectionism is when a person refuses to accept any standard short of perfection.

So, as a perfectionist, if you're a runner and you qualify for the Olympics and make second place, you don't think of yourself as the second-best runner in the world, you think of yourself as a failure.

Voltaire said that "perfect is the enemy of the good".

Meaning that if you strive for perfection, you are destined to fail, because perfection simply doesn't exist.

Even when you write a sentence you find perfect today, you might hate it tomorrow.

Perfection leads to an endless and impossible cycle of reworking sentences, photographs, ideas, or whatever it is you want to be perfect.

Individually, this often causes anxiety and a non-acceptance of yourself and your imperfections.

In a 2013 study of 33 young men who committed suicide, more than 70 percent of them had parents that said they placed exceedingly high expectations on themselves.

One young woman said that growing up and seeing women on Instagram with perfect hair, bodies, and outfits instilled this need in her to look just like them.

She says that it made it incredibly hard for her to accept herself as is.

But what she and many of us often don't realize is that what we see is mostly an illusion.

Professional Instagramers spend hours upon hours setting up their photoshoots, going to the gym and the tan salon, all so they can present their most perfect self to the world.

Instead, we only look at their perfection and say to ourselves, "Why don't I look like that?"

Politically, a culture of perfection causes stagnation.

Perfectionists have a hard time letting go of their ideas because, in order to believe an idea in the first place, a perfectionist must think it is perfect.

So, when you have a perfectionist politician or activist who believes climate change doesn't exist, they devote themselves to ending policies that are trying to protect us.

And when you have two opposing groups of perfectionists in power, progress comes to a screeching halt.

The good news is that many psychologists believe that perfectionism isn't all bad.

Perfectionists are driven, motivated, and meticulous.

But when they fail, they see themselves as failures.

But if a perfectionist simply becomes an "excellentist", many of her or his self-hurting behaviors will go away.

For example, when an excellentist fails, it becomes an opportunity for learning and reflection, and perhaps saying,

"Eh, I did my best, and that's good enough for me.”

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